I'm friendly with my neighbors in my apartment building. I was on my way back from the mailboxes and my neighbor was just coming in the building, he smelled my cooking of beef stew and barged in asking for a bowl, I like the guy and gave him a bowl, after finished he proclaimed it was delicious and thanked me and we chatted for a few more minutes then he left for his own apartment.
I felt it was a bit forward but I enjoy chatting with the guy otherwise. He has made a few passes at me in the hallway but he has a girlfriend.
2007-12-01 08:58:49 · 16 answers · asked by paulaj2006 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I've met his girlfriend. She is more of a man than I ever was.
2007-12-01 10:12:23 · update #1
Hello,
Do not listen to anyone who said you are rude. You are not rude.
You are lonely and want company, sooo even though you did think he was rude, you enjoyed having him there. You did think he was rude otherwise you would not be asking this question.
You have to set bounds. You should be the only one who does the inviting into your dwelling, not him. He has a girl-friend you know it, so I think you should look elsewhere for a new unattached friend. Hi and goodbye that's it. Sorry.
2007-12-01 09:41:32 · answer #1 · answered by Flo-Jean 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lived in a building like that and it had it's good moments. Personally,though, this guy sounds like trouble. Barging in and asking for food is going over the line. Also, the fact that he has a girlfriend, is another red flag. I guess it depends on how much you want to get friendly with all of your neighbors. Familiarity can breed contempt as they say.
2007-12-01 10:03:36 · answer #2 · answered by phlada64 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it depends. have you had him over before? if he was walking alongside you on the way in and you were having a conversation and he just followed you into the apartment while talking, it was a little weird, but not too bad. if he's never been in your apartment before and you were like "well i gotta go" and he just came in without asking, i would be a little scared. this guy has hit on you even though he has a girlfriend, and he barged right into your apartment. if this is the case, he obviously has no respect for women or your boundaries. i would be thinking potential rapist. he may not be, but you should be wary of him. it's way better to be safe than sorry.
2007-12-01 09:10:50 · answer #3 · answered by halloweenie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ummmm...it was a bit rude yes. However, you sound as though you like this guy, as a friend at least, so he may be comfortable around you and didn't think he was being rude. It's only rude if it bothered you!
It also sounds as though he may have a crush on you. But be careful because you don't want to get in the middle of bf, gf, issues! Never good lol!
2007-12-01 10:07:59 · answer #4 · answered by Rosie25 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. I feel that just barging in and asking for something to eat is a bit rude. You could have ask at the time, "Did we forget how to knock?"
Of course, he could have detected mixed messages. I once walked in someone's place unwanted not knowing I was doing so. I thought they had motioned for me. Having Asperger's makes it harder for me to interpret non-verbal cues. I just misread a cue.
As for him being interested in you, lets keep the issues separate. Liking someone is not an excuse for someone to barge into their home. You should try not to get involved with him. He has a girlfriend. Besides, you deserve someone who respects you and your boundaries.
2007-12-01 12:35:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I wouldn't call it rude but like you said, it was a bit *forward*. I guess he feels too comfortable with you to think he can just barge in like that being that you're friendly with him and all. I wonder if he was expecting you to invite him for lunch or dinner?
2007-12-01 09:05:43 · answer #6 · answered by jdhs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you must be lonely and enjoy the attention a little bit because this guy sounds like a total arrogant idiot with no respect for you or his girl....... Get males friends round more or a bf and watch as he backs down and acts more respectfully towards you
2007-12-01 09:37:54 · answer #7 · answered by Patricia 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
JUST A FEW FRIENDLY QUESTIONS HERE......YOU SAY YOU HAVE BEEN FRIENDLY, BUT TO LET HIM IN YOUR APT?? HE COULD HAVE HURT YOU. YOU THINK YOU KNOW HIM HUH? ENOUGH TO LET HIM IN YOUR APT? WHAT IS HIS LAST NAME? HE SMELLED YOUR COOKING? I WOULD HAVE SAID OH THANKS, YEAH , BEEF STEW, I WILL SEND YOU A BOWL WHEN IT IS FINISHED COOKING. HOW WOULD YOU FEEL IF YOUR BOYFRIEND WAS CHATTING IT UP WITH THE CHICK DOWN THE HALL AND SHE HAD HIM IN FOR STEW?
YEAH, HE WAS RUDE BUT YOU WERE KINDA NIAVE TO LET HIM IN THE APT IN THE FIRST PLACE, NEXT TIME IT WILL BE TO WATCH A MOVIE.... THEN WHAT??
2007-12-01 09:26:27 · answer #8 · answered by Miss Rhonda 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think he would like to eventually hook up with you, and yeah i say it was kind of rude of him to just come into your place with out knocking, you really should tell him to knock next time.
2007-12-01 10:32:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it was rude of him. The polite thing for him to do was to casually mention that if you had any leftovers he would be interested in them.
2007-12-01 09:36:20 · answer #10 · answered by Papa L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋