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I like this girl in m y spanish class. My friend was talking to her about me and she seemed very interested. He said "Can you imagine yourself going out with steven (thats me) ?" she said maybe. So, the next day, i asked her out, she said yes. Then 5 hours later, she said "i'm sorry, i need more time to think about it, im scared that I might end up hurting you, and this is my first relationship." She is tryin to get over this one guy that she used to like. I don't know what to do. I really like her and i want to be her first boyfriend and take care of her and stuff. Everything is so confusing... T_T. I screwed up with past girlfriends, and i know me and her are meant to be for each other. What should i do? We have a lot stuff in common and me and her are scorpios. She's a sophomore, im a junior. from what i've herd, she'll say something when she gets over with that other dude. nobody asked her out before, and shes pretty, i just want to make a difference in her life and stuff

Answer 1

Just be a friend to her for now.

Don't put any pressure on her yet - ask if you can sit together and just talk while you eat.

Phone her for a friendly chat every so often.

Just let her know you understand and want to be there for her.

If you are meant to be as you believe - it will happen.

If not you can take a bow for helping her to get over someone else as a friend and she will remember that.

Sometimes when two people having the same star sign get together, there can be problems, simply because all the positives are the same but so are the negative areas.

True you will have heaps in common and will be drawn to each other for that reason, but sometimes the relationship is better if you just remain friends.

Sometimes starting out as friends can lead to a loving relationship.

It depends on what each of you want with the relationship.

Time will work it out for you.

Answer 2

If ALL you do is wait around for that to happen, chances are good you're going to end up disappointed. People are only rationally analytical about relationships from a distance. Once a spark has taken hold, people become one hormone-guided impulse after another. (That can be good or that can be a nightmare depending on how you handle it.) My point here is that you had a moment of "spark" but then it kind of fizzled out. No worries; you haven't done anything to harm it, so if you did it once, you can do it again. Be very gentle about it (so you don't scare her away), but stay on her radar. Don't talk to her about being her boyfriend, but keep finding ways to run into her so that you two can talk about whatever is on her mind that day. She'll get pleasantly used to having you around until getting closer seems a natural progression. The best way to increase your odds here is to lose that person in the middle...(people don't pass messages well. They either add something or leave something out. It seems safer in the beginning because you're nervous, but ultimately they end up messing things up.) Being face-to-face personal projects so much more power, and it communicates strongly to the other person's psyche. Don't make this about wanting to be her "first boyfriend" or "making a difference in her life". You don't need that added pressure in your head. You want to be with her and spend time with her...that's enough of a goal in itself. It's easier to sharpen your focus onto one thing than to try to keep track of 10,000 things. Don't push too hard, and every once in awhile pull back and walk away. Always leave her wanting more...you'll do just fine. Good luck.