Okay, so last night my dad started drinking like he always does. I was watching football with him, and I noticed that he started getting drunk. No big deal, I thought, he'll get over it. But then it got out of control. He got up to get something, and when he sat back down on the couch, he began to say every cuss word in the book. He even called me a b***h for nothing! Then when I got up to leave he said, "Go to your f***ing room!" I told my mom about it but she just ignored me, saying he was just drunk. But what if it happens again?
2007-12-01 08:28:44 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I didn't try to argue with him or anything. I just wanted to leave. And I've told him to stop drinking before. That always makes it worse...
2007-12-01 09:12:31 · update #1
That isn't acceptable. It can kill your self sonfidence. It is abuse. Abuse can be mental or physical; in your case mental. You should try to talk to a couselor because it can get out of control. You don't want to mess with somebody who is drunk. Did he at least apologize the next day? Well keep your head high. Things can only get better . <3
2007-12-01 08:34:27 · answer #1 · answered by @lexis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being drunk is no excuse. If he behaves like this when drunk he needs to stop drinking. he is what used to be called a 'mean drunk. When he is sober tell him you hate the way he behaves when he drinks and tell your mum that she might be docile enough to put up with it but you will not,. next time he starts drinking just phone your grandmas a nd ask if you can go over and spend the night there. There is an organisation which helps children of alcohol abusers called al-ateen (Ithink)- find them in the phoine bok and give them a ring.
2007-12-01 08:47:01 · answer #2 · answered by D B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give your drunk dad space when he is drunk.
In a perfect world if he needed help, he'd get it. Hopefully it's not to bad. Give him some room.
Don't ever let him drive after a beer. One or two is enough to endanger someone.
Also if he's been drinking it is not going to be the best time to bring it up. Hide keys, remove the car battery cable.
Talk to him when he is your regular old dad again.
Good Luck
2007-12-01 09:40:44 · answer #3 · answered by harPOON capt uss TANG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isn't unless it happens on a consistent basis He was just drunk,bad enough.Learn to stay out of the way unseen is best and don't argue with a drunk person.Life is hard learn to be a surviver.Best advise I can give you,everyone been there at some time or another.
2007-12-01 08:36:11 · answer #4 · answered by peppersham 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sweetie, what you're experiencing with this guy is rather baby abuse. psychological abuse. actual abuse. Emotional abuse. vast time. you do not could stay with it. you're entitled to a loving and worrying homestead. Your mum and dad could love you and nurture you. somewhat of this, you lived your adolescence and now area of your youngster age years in hell. My suggestion is common: you have the capacity and the capacity to provide up it. you are going to be able to desire to chat to an expert determine, or maybe a number of: college counselor, chuch pastor, well being care provider. you additionally can call baby preserving amenities from a payphone. countless those human beings will understand what to do, and that they're going to do it with a view to establish your father would not retaliate against you. you additionally can tell your ideal buddy. probability is, she will have the capacity to tell her mum and dad, however the greater capacity to you. as quickly as your father knows of which you're actually not on my own, that the device is backing you, he will could mend his techniques, in any different case, you will possibly be taken out of his homestead. perhaps then, you will locate what a classic homestead appears like. each and every of the ideal sweetie, and that i repeat, act now, in any different case it is going to in ordinary terms grow to be worse.
2016-10-10 00:38:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, it's abuse. My Mum used to drink when I was little and she was the same. As soon as I saw her getting the bottle out I used to go out or go to my room because she would be quite nasty. If you think he will listen talk to him when he is sober and tell him how you feel. If you don't think he will listen then tell someone like an Aunt, uncle Grandma. He has no right to intimidate you in your own home and don't suffer in silence.
2007-12-01 08:44:18 · answer #6 · answered by Nina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you have to do is stop him from getting drunk! Next time he starts to drink to much try to get him to STOP DRINKING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
If this situation happens again then just get up and leave the room.And if he starts to curse then just ignore him and then ask him why he said whatever he said in the morning when he isn't drunk.When people get drunk they do things that you don't expect them to do like in this situation.They only do/say it because they don't have a clue of what they're doing.Just let it go and don't get angry over it because you know that if you talked to him in the morning when he's not drunk he would probably feel sorry about about what he said/did.
2007-12-01 08:41:05 · answer #7 · answered by I.G. 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Yes that is verbal abuse. If your dad's drinking is that much of a problem then you can talk to your school counselor if your mom doesn't want to help. Be safe.
2007-12-01 09:55:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it keeps happening you should tell someone besides your mom, like a trusted adult, and they can help you with the situation.
Best of luck
2007-12-01 09:08:30 · answer #9 · answered by SEXY TIME TWIN!!!!! 11:27 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If his drinking is out of control that he resorts to unwarranted name calling he needs help.
Talk to him when he's sober and get your mum to be there with you and get him to seek help (al anon).
2007-12-01 08:49:45 · answer #10 · answered by MaryBlue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋