Today I was doing stuff for her to get the computer to work for 2+ hours(without her ever saying thank you). And then an hour later she asks me what I've done for homework and I did a reasonable amount for that amount of time, but then she yells at me and takes away my cell phone, almost even throwing my cell phone and said I can't go to something tomorrow. I feel like telling her "well I was doing stuff for you for 2+ hours!!". But I know she'll take away something else or ground me. I just can't take her being like this anymore.
2007-12-01 07:58:12 · 8 answers · asked by love 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
yeah actually to the 7th person who answered, I say thank you everytime to her whether she makes or buys dinner and when she buys me clothes. I'm very gratefull. I was just wondering how not to make this situation worse.
2007-12-01 08:24:25 · update #1
I know you can see your mother's behaviour clearly, but can you see your own? For example, were you cheeky or rude? The best thing you an do is try to defuse the situation, and say what you mean to say, without being rude. It's the rudeness that makes our blood boil, the cheek and the lip.
2007-12-01 08:04:58 · answer #1 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Maybe sweetie your mom is going through some kind of stress. Sometimes us parents mess up royally and say things that we don't mean. We don't see it until it is brought to our attention. Talk to her honey, if talking doesn't work then write her a letter explaining that you love her but lately she is making you feel bad. Some mom's are hard to deal with but I'm sure she loves you and doesn't realize that her frustration is affecting you. Suggest to her to that you and her should take some time off and spend a mother daughter day doing whatever you guys like(going to the movies, taking a drive, going for a walk etc.). Sometimes being alone away from home can start a conversation that could lead to solving a problem. Good luck and God Bless
2007-12-01 16:08:53 · answer #2 · answered by Just a friend! 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What you should really do is to ask her. By asking us it shows that you really don't care about her feelings. Honestly if you did you would be having this talk with her. Every situation has two sides to the story. You will never resolve anything if you don't try to understand the other side. You don't have to agree with it, but you should listen and see if you can understand where they are comming from. In the case of a parent they have been around longer and just maybe have some insight to the situation. Maybe they were there once too. This also gives an opportunity for you to present your side and how it makes you feel when she acts this way. The parent child relationship is one that should be cherrished, not crushed. It may take work from both of you, but it will be worth it.pp
2007-12-01 16:07:03 · answer #3 · answered by ttpawpaw 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I'm a mom. I know you probably feel like she is always yelling, but remember your mom is a person too, and has just as much stress and frustration in her life as you do, and it could just be a bad time for her like her job, if she has one, or her period/menopause or even financial difficulties. Let her cool down a little then give her a hug and tell her you love her.
2007-12-01 16:08:07 · answer #4 · answered by ♥Instantkarma♥♫ 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My mom does the same thing to me and my sister.
So just chill for a while and then tell her how you feel when she is in a better mood.
Or just cry! That always gets my mom.
2007-12-01 16:35:55 · answer #5 · answered by lovely * 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you say Thank You when you eat what she has cooked,when she bought you clothes, when she tucks you in bed. Grow up and be Thankful!!
2007-12-01 16:20:33 · answer #6 · answered by mikk 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write her a letter if you don't feel you can talk to her right out. Remember to put in the letter how much you love her! My kids use to do that, and they'd get me everytime! :-)
2007-12-01 16:11:35 · answer #7 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
oh my goshh
i totally understand you!
my mom is the exact samee
just talk to her about it and tell her you dont like the way that shes acting and that its hurting your feelings. because she may not realize that shes acting that way
2007-12-01 16:01:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋