I visit my dads grave site at least once a month. And my sisters grave on the major holidays. Their in 2 separate cemeteries. Always taking flowers or balloons depending on the occasion.
2007-12-01 07:17:09 · 15 answers · asked by Ynot 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I used to visit my grandparents' graves every few months, but I haven't done that for quite some time now. My parents and siblings are all living. I lost my only child through miscarriage and although there is no gravesite, there is a memorial that I visit often. I know that the spirits of those gone before us are not in these places, but somehow it helps to have a safe place to go for mourning and remembering. I remember my loved ones and think of them often, but life seems to move so fast that it's nice to have time to devote to feeling and memories.
2007-12-02 05:51:53 · answer #1 · answered by Snow White 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I used to visit my parents' graves every season or on the anniversary of their deaths. I had to move 1500 miles away though, so before I left I took a picture of their headstones. I can always pull out that photo and it's like I'm there. And yes, I still do that even though it's been 15 years.
2007-12-01 10:13:43 · answer #2 · answered by chefgrille 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sorry for your losses. I don't even know where my dad buried my mom when she passed in 2004. All that is in the cemetery is bones and wood and steel. The "spirit" lives on in your memory. Go there if you need to, but your memory is what is important. When was the last time you told someone else outside your family about one of your fond memories? It seems to me that would honor them more. (My mom was always open to help others and always started with, lets have some coffee. I have had many people I don't even know share a memory of "over coffee with Betty" to me. I realize that that is the way she would have preferred to be remembered, not at a cemetery.) Hope you have fond memories and hope some one else will share a memory with you. God Bless.
2007-12-01 08:32:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I actually think about this a lot...
I live so far away from my brother and grandparents graves-- I feel so sad and hope that someone walking through at least pauses in a breath to think of the others there. I agree with the other post that said it's really just their corpral being that's there, but since it's all we earthbound folks have to remember them by, I must be content with that.
I live in the country where there are cemetaries with dates back to the 1700's. It may sound morbid, but on memorial day, I pick one & walk through, saying the names, noting the dates. Hopefully, someone, somewhere, can feel that they are not forgotten...
Peace and blessings to you!
2007-12-01 07:50:19 · answer #4 · answered by Mme 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Not all superstition is an illogical emotional reaction. Visiting a grave site is paying respect to the deceased, nothing superstitious about it. I actually favor organ donation since it can save lives.
2016-04-07 02:03:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has their own ways of remembering loved ones. For me, visiting my mother's grave is just too difficult, even four years after she passed away. My family on that side is very upset that I don't go. You should do whatever makes you happy, not what people say you should do. My sincerest condolences on the loss of your loved ones.
2007-12-01 08:18:45 · answer #6 · answered by bobcat97 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I visit my Grandma's grave once a year when I am back East, and that of my cousins 1 month old baby.
2007-12-01 07:26:19 · answer #7 · answered by Michelle 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear about the passing of your dad and sister. For me, I don't visit grave sites because I don't believe (my grandmother and grandfather) are there. The remains of the body that they used while on this planet are there, but the essence of their being, their soul, is not there.
2007-12-01 07:22:10 · answer #8 · answered by Wayne G 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes when I visit my dad, I remember all the things we did and with Christmas coming, I go and decorate his grave.
2007-12-01 16:31:31 · answer #9 · answered by sdkidduran 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If it gives you comfort to go and visit, then do so.
Everyone has their own way to grieve.
I lost my daughter 20 years ago (or will be 20 yrs on 12/5) and I go to the cemetary on that day and on Mother's Day.
My husband, her father, doesn't go at all.
I have 4 children, 3 sons, ages 18, 16,16 and 1 daughter that is 12. Sometimes they come with me, sometimes they don't. And sometimes, they ask to go on non-special days.
Do what is best for you,
2007-12-01 13:48:54 · answer #10 · answered by fruitie7 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋