my boyfriend's sister doesn't like me, she never has, she is always talking behind everyone's back (even her mom's).. she is so messed up that she went on a diet and when she found out i went on it too, she stopped talking to me.. when my boyfriend bought a new car, she (she's 28) stopped talking to him for a while too.. today is her daughter's 6 yr old b-day party and she send me an invitation that i didn't feel very sincere.. i had an argument with my boyfriend (been with him 4 and 1/2 years, i'm 22, he's 25) about the situation last night and he said there's nothing he can do about it.. what should i do? should i go? (party is at my mother-in-laws house, where my b/f lives) i wouldn't stand my b/f been at the party by himself, probably dancing too..
2007-12-01 06:45:31 · 4 answers · asked by Bee 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are in love with him, not his sister. You should not let anything stand in your way of that love. Your boyfriends sister is the one with the problems, not you. You are letting her get under your skin for no reason. You should go to the party. Don't lower yourself to her level. Because you've been with your borfriend for that long, the love you have for him is stronger than anything in your life right now. This could be one of the ways she is trying to break you up. Because you and her have not been getting alone for years, this might be one of the ways she is tying to break you two up. Blood is thicker than water, brothers and sisters will cling together through thick and thin. She knows you well enough to know what buttons to push to set you off. Your boyfriend can do something about it, but won't. Now it is up to you. Without getting angry, which might be hard to do, tell her that there is nothing you can do to me that will get me to be mad at you anymore. You are waisting your energy and effort when you fight with her. When you keep calm, when she is getting mad at you, you are adding fuel to the fire. That is what she wants. If there is not any resistence, then the force against you will not be there anymore. When you take away the fuel, air or heat from a fire, it will go out. The fuel in a fight is all three of these. When you don't get mad at her and strart yelling back, she gets mad at herself. She will asked herself, why is she so calm, she should be getting mad at me for saying these things. This will take practice, but with time you can do this. She is expecting you not to show up at the party, she is trying to control you. If you give in to her, you are playing right into her hands.
God Bless you
2007-12-01 07:25:50 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
An invitation is an invitation....you're over-analyzing things if you try to interpret her invite as insincere. (She could have as easily not invited you, period, if she had something to prove.) Arguing with your boyfriend about that was not a good move. Girlfriends come and go. You may or may not be his girlfriend in another year, but she's always going to be his sister. A big part of that longevity means choosing your battles wisely. She doesn't have to like you, nor do you have to like her. But your position is the tenuous one in the group, so you should recognize that fact and act accordingly. Good luck.
2007-12-01 14:56:38 · answer #2 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't u go and talk to ur bf like nothing had ever happen..
If not, his sis will think that u guys have problems and ..she'll be happy to know about it...
2007-12-01 14:51:18 · answer #3 · answered by lilsweetiboo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should go to the party and have fun,no arguments and no drama!
2007-12-01 15:01:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋