My daughter and granddaughter seem to feel this is normal behaviour for their family. My daughter is a "collector" and never cleans house. Cannot throw anything away and both parents ignore their 17 yr old daughter completely. I want to help them by intervention, but don't know how to do it.
2007-12-01 06:32:49 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
All you can do is try to talk to your daughter about how inappropriate it seems. I do agree no parent should be showering or sleeping with a child that old. You could contact children services. As for her house not being clean, I suggest ignoring it. Unless there is urine and feces all over, MYOB. It sounds like you have many issues with your daughter and SIL. I'm not accusing, but make sure you have pure intentions of helping out and aren't just looking for more things to add to the list of what you see as their 'wrong doing'.
Like I said, if you have a true concern something is going on with the child then report it!
My BIL used to have his daughter sleep with him until she was almost 5. I sat him down and talked to him and explained she wasn't the little baby he thought she was anymore and it was time she slept in her own bed. My niece went to school and announced she was finally allowed to sleep in her own bed. Needless to say a call from the school led him to thank me for opening his eyes before there were more people and government agencies involved. Best of luck!
2007-12-01 06:43:46 · answer #1 · answered by MISS H 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go and talk to a counsellor, I think you have picked up on something that's under the surface. And as a previous reader has said, this could blow up in your face.
The boy could be a late developer, but if he starts to mature obviously and the showering with dad etc doesn't stop then, Id imagine the roof will blow off the house. For what it's worth I think that this might be a case of being handy and available if that does occur.
Your son in law sounds a bit odd at best.
Still I urge you to see a counsellor because there may already be concern from the school, or even the boys friends -and therefore if something comes to light at least, as a caring grandmother you have discussed this with someone who makes legal notes.
2007-12-01 07:26:45 · answer #2 · answered by heardcrombie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I remember, in the 60s and 70s, certain "hippie" type people tried to tell us that it was normal for families to run around the house naked, but I think a grown man showering with his 13 y.o. son is abnormal behavior. It might be considered OK in a public shower at a gym or swimming pool...or maybe I'm making too big a deal of it. I'd like to read other remarks.
2007-12-01 06:43:27 · answer #3 · answered by TatersPop 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This may be extreme but, report them to a child welfare agency. Clearly they are being neglected and sadly abused.
Your son in law DOESNT have to be doing anything physically with his son but what he is doind is abuse.
Take the kids into your care they will be better off.
2007-12-01 06:44:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you think its wrong, doesnt mean it is. If he is comfortable with being naked around his family, thats great for him. Theres nothing wrong with being naked in front of family. It annoys me that people feel like we shouldnt really have bodies under our clothes. Just because the only time you show anyone your body is when your having sex, doesnt mean that the only valid reason for showing ones body is to have sex. Theres nothing wrong with showering with your kids, I do it quite often. In fact if I go to the gym, i often shower with other men I don't even know. Maybe thats uncomfortable to some people, but I'm there to wash up, not to have sex. You've just got a dirty mind and are connecting things to sex that shouldnt be.
Collector? You're kidding... you want to intervene with your daughters life because she is different than you? Lady... you're off your rocker.
2007-12-01 06:43:06 · answer #5 · answered by billgoats79 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Social Services.
2007-12-01 06:40:06 · answer #6 · answered by degs1982@sbcglobal.net 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
sorry...this does not sound healthy, especially by this time your grandson is now at the stage where they "hide" what they've got and don't want anybody to see "it". Speak again to your daughter and the approach your grandson...but you need to be very diplomatic...this can explode in your face
2007-12-01 06:39:17 · answer #7 · answered by wife in South Africa 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Not a good scenario
2007-12-04 06:58:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes u hve evry rght to b concrnd, I knw i wld b, cause it's jst nt natural for tht to b goin on.
2007-12-01 06:55:51 · answer #9 · answered by beauitful 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
They are sick. Sounds like your son in law likes boys over his wife.
2007-12-01 06:41:07 · answer #10 · answered by Joe F 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋