i broke up with him on monday and he is already asking girls out one of them beign my good friend!i tried telling her that he is a player and he will hurt her but i don't know if i m saying this cause im jeaous or cause i want to protect her he is a bad guy and she just won't listen to me plz help!!!
2007-12-01 05:45:29 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She's responsible for her own decisions. If she's really a good friend, she shouldn't even consider dating him because she should have seen what he's like. And any attempt you make to convince her that he's a jerk will just be seen as jealousy. Leave her alone and let her learn her lesson.
2007-12-01 05:48:55 · answer #1 · answered by nicholebeth 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When it comes to women, most of them are going to pick the man no matter what their friends say. So you can tell her that he is a player and bad news but she probably isn't going to listen and might ruin your friendship. The best thing is to just move on. Be there for her when he hurts her, because if he is bad, that is what is going to end up happening.
If he is a player, then its a good thing that he is out of your life. Find a good man. There are plenty of them out there. You deserve to be treated right.
2007-12-01 13:51:12 · answer #2 · answered by Livvie L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't hate him for it. He's probably just hurt. When going through the angry phase, its easy to fall into a "I'll show her" mindset. But just realize that it isn't that he wants to hurt you, its most likely just a defensive mechanism to rejection. I may be wrong... some guys are jerks. But I had the same feelings when my gf dumped me. I didn't act on them like he is because I realized she meant too much to hurt her and wanted to stay friends with her, but I thought about it nonetheless.
Just give him time. If you act jealous or angry, he'll get the impression that you still have feelings and that you still care what he does. Just let him go and do what he wants. If he really is a jerk, warn your friends, but don't do ti out of jealousy.
2007-12-01 13:55:22 · answer #3 · answered by stratiotes7 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess it depends on who initiated the break-up. If you really want to move on then you may be concerned for your friends who may date him. But it is understandable that even though you may not care for him as you once did, you feel a little threatened that you were so easy to get over...just remember that if he is immediately out in the dating world he is just trying to make him self feel better. These are rebound relationships and will be of short duration. The best thing to do is just ignore it, people who are warned about this kind of thing hardly ever believe what they hear.
2007-12-01 13:51:59 · answer #4 · answered by ScSpec 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is completely natural to feel like that. You don't want him hanging around your friend all the time after you've dated him. That would be really uncomfortable. Ask her to understand your feelings. You are not chopped liver, second class. There are many fish in the sea, so many guys in the world. New, better men will come along.
2007-12-01 13:49:19 · answer #5 · answered by August lmagination 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are saying this because of both the reasons; you are firstly jealous and also you want to save your friend from him. Tell your friend a couple of times and still if she doesn't listen, then let her go..because a person learns only after experiencing.
2007-12-01 13:50:15 · answer #6 · answered by Extreme Passion 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its probably a little bit of both. Jealousy and not wanting her to get hurt. If she is your true friend she would not date a guys you have already dated. That's not what friends do. They tell you he is a loser (even if hes not) and try to help you get over it, and also think of way to make him jealous lol!
2007-12-01 13:49:17 · answer #7 · answered by bns2007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
since he is a bad boy u did the right thing if ur freind does not listen 2 u the first time let her find out on her own
2007-12-01 13:51:33 · answer #8 · answered by nayna 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
firstly act like u dont care what he does, prob just trying to make u jealous.
Secondly and more importantly what the hell is your "good friend" doing with your ex, friends dont do that,its rule number 1 like another person said. Dont worry about protecting her, if she is going to date your ex then hopefully she gets what she deserves.If my friend started dating my ex,i dont think id want to speak to her
2007-12-04 18:42:57 · answer #9 · answered by spdy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Help you? What do you want people to tell you? You broke up with him. You're saying this because you're jealous of him being able to get on with his life. Don't be a clod.
2007-12-01 13:50:13 · answer #10 · answered by Charles WE 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋