i have an admiror who is albanian and muslim by religion.And I am a macedonian and christian-orthodox by religion. I like him very much but my family will be against that relationship.He already asked if I want to go out with him and I said that I am afraid of it.And i really like a lot to talk to him,to go out on parties on drinks etc...
I need a professional advice.
Please help me.
2007-12-01 05:24:01 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Get away from him as fast as you can, in a month you won't even remember "liking to talk to him" or "wanting to have a drink with him". I saw many stories when Albanian man would get to an Orthodox woman with a sole goal of humiliating her and insulting her family and Faith. You will never understand their feelings and mind (not that you should want to...), but you are judging him based on the values you grew up with, and they are completely foreign to him. Go talk to somebody who knows that part of the world better (best of all to a priest). I am sure you will have plenty of "admirers" to choose from without putting yourself at risk. Trust your parents, they love you and do not want you to be hurt. Also, when looking for advice - get it from people who understand the circumstances and not form total outsiders with a bunch of "cool liberal phrases" they heard from someone else.
Hope, God will lead you in right direction.
2007-12-04 09:22:24 · answer #1 · answered by 774 a 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a Muslim, he can date a girl of any religion that he wants, but if the relationship should become serious the woman is required to become a loyal Muslim wife. Picture yourself in Hajib from head to toe and bruises on your face, then make a decision whether you like that fashion statement or not.
2007-12-01 05:32:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would stay far away from this. Your family wont be there to support you when you need help because your family will be excluded .Family is so important especially when you have children. Historically marriages between Muslims and Non Muslims are very difficult, especially for the woman. Look elsewhere!!!!
2007-12-01 06:59:04 · answer #3 · answered by Susanna R 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you both take your faith seriously, one very important thing comes between you. If you just want a good time, then why not? If you are thinking of spending your lives together, you need to recognise the tensions your different positions will produce.
2007-12-01 05:33:46 · answer #4 · answered by za 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dolly,
How serious is your faith to you? How about him? If you both believe in your faith your answer has been written down before you were born. It outlines what to look for in a spouse and what to avoid as well.
In your faith is says "do not yoke yourself to a non-believer." His says avoid/kill all infidels. So unless one of you changes your are fated never to be.
If neither of your cares, and this is what I am picking up on just do what you are already going to do and live with the consequences.
2007-12-01 05:33:10 · answer #5 · answered by crimthann69 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to keep in mind if you plan on having a relationship with this person, that it could lead to marriage, and then to children, and then to raising the children.
This is where your religious conflicts will arise.
Do you want your kids to be raised with your values or somebody elses values?
Something to think about.
2007-12-01 05:31:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
My sister in law was albanian and dutch. Her parents divorced after all the kids were done with high school. They even had separate gardens when the kids were growing up. (His garden was always weedy)
2007-12-01 05:32:23 · answer #7 · answered by Somewhat Enlightened, the Parrot of Truth 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see anything wrong with dating someone outside of Christianity but if you are interested in getting serious, I would do some serious thinking and praying first. Settling down with someone that is not equally yoked with you is asking for problems.
2007-12-01 05:32:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Dump him unless you want a lifetime of troubles.
Please deposit 5¢.
2007-12-01 05:31:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
If you want professional advice go to a therapist.
2007-12-01 05:26:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋