My daughter told me and my husband today that she was starting to wonder if Santa was real or not. Would you make something up or would you go ahead and tell them the truth? How would you handle this situation?
2007-12-01 05:06:53 · 12 answers · asked by Ang 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Why are people so against letting the kids believe? Kids are already forced to grow up so quickly. I will try to keep this magical part of their childhood alive until they are ready to let go. My son did question this year and I had every intention of telling him. When I started I could see the tears in his eyes. Santa is fun. Your daughter will stop believing when she is ready. I do not know any adults you where damaged by believing. For me Santa is a happy memory in my childhood. MERRY CHRISTMAS
from RUDOLPH
2007-12-01 05:27:05 · answer #1 · answered by Kate e 3 · 7⤊ 2⤋
my son asked me when he was 7 if santa was real and i told him a very very long time ago santa was real but he passed away so now moms and dads have to buy the presents for the kids until a new santa can be found. My son was satisfied with this and at age 11yrs still believes that at some point a very long time ago there was a santa.
I think it would be more wrong to flat out lie to your kids, i told my son a half truth cause i in fact do believe that there was a santa many, hundreds of yrs ago.
2007-12-01 05:17:54 · answer #2 · answered by Wishmaster 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom would always just shrug her shoulders and say 'I don't know, what do you believe?'
I think it depends on how old the child is. If they are older, they'll hear it anyway from the other kids at school. If that's the case, i'd just tell them it's a fun tradition, and to not say anything to other kids she knows. When we found out there wasn't a Santa, my Mom would also let us help play the part of santa as a fun little secret to keep.
If they are younger, I think it's okay to say something like, well then who takes care of rudolph, and try to keep that belief there a little bit, but I wouldn't go to the ends of the earth to try and prove he's real.
2007-12-01 05:18:59 · answer #3 · answered by nic 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Santa was a real being --St. Nicholas. :)
The only lie that can ever be told about Santa is telling a child that he's not real.
I should add that, as long as your daughter knows that the true meaning of Christmas is the celebration of Christ's birth, then there is definitely no problem. :)
My kids are 8 and 5, they believe in Santa, and they also know the true meaning of Christmas.
2007-12-01 05:12:23 · answer #4 · answered by AV 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
My parents told me when I started questioning santa that santa WAS real-- in all of us... And we are Catholic so my mom explained about the REAL St. Nicholas... the saddest thing about kids when it coms to santa is that no one believes any more at a young age.. and its the joy and happiness that we need to keep alive!
2007-12-01 05:20:27 · answer #5 · answered by missyd1605 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, that's why we don't do Santa. We don't lie to our children. I'm not trying to be mean, just telling you what we do.
In your case, if I was you, I would say, "well honey, Mommy and Daddy did something wrong, and told you something that wasn't true. Santa is not real. Do you forgive us?" Then I would teach her what Christmas is really about.
That's what happened to me when I was 7. That's exactly what my mother told me. I moped for all of five minutes, gave my mom a hug, and went on with life. I certainly wasn't scarred. And then the holidays had much more potent meaning for me rather than just being greedy getting gifts.
To add: there is nothing wrong with telling a child about a nice man in Russia aka St. Nicholas. But telling your child he is a fat magical man that jumps down chimneys and keeps a naughty nice list, and lives with elves is a lie. Santa is not St. Nicholas.
2007-12-01 05:14:18 · answer #6 · answered by not too creative 7 · 2⤊ 4⤋
Totally tell her the truth. If you make something up and in a year from now your daughter comes to you and says, "but mommy you told me.... " she might think there are times when you can "lie" and it's ok... Plus, think about it this way, SHE WILL FIND OUT SOMEDAY... Maybe not for another year or two, but you're going to find yourself in these shoes again someday and you're going to have to ask this same question... Woudn't it just be easier to deal with it now?
2007-12-01 05:44:55 · answer #7 · answered by BJModel 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
TELL HER THE TRUTH SINCE SHE IS ASKING NOW IS THE PERFECT TIME TO ESTABLISH THE WHEN YOU REALLY WANT TO KNOW MOMMY AND DADDY WILL TELL YOU THE TRUTH STAGE. THIS IS A CHANCE TO SET UP A GOOD COMMUNICATION WITH YOUR CHILD. IF YOU LIE THEN SHE MAY THINK THAT WHEN IT COMES TO SEX YOU WILL LIE ABOUT THAT TO. WHEN SHE DOES HAVE QUESTIONS ABOUT SEX SHE WILL RELATE IT TO SANTA, AND SAY WELL THEY TOLD ME THE TRUTH ABOUT SANTA WHY NOT THIS, AND SHE WILL ASK YOU INSTEAD OF HER FRIENDS. GOOD LUCK.
2007-12-01 05:22:04 · answer #8 · answered by kindra1988 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
come on, i have five children i see these questions all the time, my children never asked such questions actually most children pretend to believe long after they have stopped, tell her santa is real, take her to the mall to see him
2007-12-01 05:23:29 · answer #9 · answered by melissa s 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I tell my daughter the truth - that Santa isn't really real, but it's fun to pretend. If she wants to keep pretending, that's fine, if not, that's fine too.
2007-12-01 05:40:58 · answer #10 · answered by daa 7 · 0⤊ 4⤋