My boyfriend and I would like to elope next month, but nobody knows our plans. People know that we are engaged but they don't know when/where the wedding is, or that it will be so soon.
Is it customary for an elopement to send a card or something to let people know that I got married? I would have really liked to have a family celebration, but right now we just don't want to put down the cash, and I find something is very romantic about an elopement...
did anybody send/receive some kind of an elopement card?
2007-12-01 05:02:20 · 13 answers · asked by lovesapples 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I don't think is appropriate to register since I am eloping. I just want to know if some kind of announcement is a common way to spread the word. I don't want/need any gifts.
2007-12-01 05:11:50 · update #1
i wouldn't send an 'elopement' announcment. i would send out a wedding announcement. the fact that you choose to run away to get married is fine. i can't blame you. i hate big groups and am sick with fear at being the center of attention even at a tiny fifty person wedding. i'd like to just run away and elope too.
so yeah. make wedding announcements. if anyone demands to know why you can just say you couldn't handle the stress of planning a fairy tale wedding. most people will understand that, weddings are beyond stressful.
2007-12-01 20:08:56 · answer #1 · answered by tanja_berengue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't send out a special "elopement " card. You just send out standard Wedding Announcements. You can have them as plain or fancy as you wish. I've received several over the years especially now when people have "Destination" weddings or have a quick civil ceremony. The announcement is worded something like: Judy Smith and John Brown announce their marriage ! The ceremony was held in the Little White Chapel Las Vegas on December 1, 2007 and the couple hope you share in their happiness." Good friends don't need a free meal to send a gift and you will still probably get wedding gifts from family if they have any class at all. But, may I add a wee personal thought? PLEASE tell your parents. They love you and would probably sell their only possessions for at least the CHANCE to see you get married, or to throw you a week brunch or party when you return. They deserve to see their children so happy!
2007-12-01 11:17:54 · answer #2 · answered by Wifeforlife 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wedding announcements are fine but they need to be handled properly. Since you are eloping you may also want to keep in mind you will miss out on many of the "bonus" things associated with a regular wedding and that many people will have their feelings hurt.
1) You don't get to register
2) You don't put a return address where gifts may be sent
(Doing these things are going to make it appear that your announcements are just a way for you to troll for gifts....not the general FYI they are supposed to be)
Basically you send a very basic announcement that says something like
"Suprise, we eloped to X location and were married on X date. Even though you weren't there in person all were with us in spirit"
2007-12-01 05:09:37 · answer #3 · answered by pspoptart 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Yes, eloping MEANS that nobody knows your plans, that's the definition!
You could just send out a wedding announcement, including a photo if you like. You might want to host a family dinner, at least once you come home.
2007-12-02 00:03:33 · answer #4 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In this economy, it's a great idea. I think it's a pretty safe bet that your father will be all in favor of saving the cost of a church wedding. I think the real problem will be for his parents. If you tell them about it, it isn't really eloping anymore, so just tell them that you want the Elvis thing and maybe ask them and your own father if they'd like to attend. The heck with the rest of the relatives. Just don't let the parents turn this into a big family event. If it starts going that direction, run off without them.
2016-03-15 04:11:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't make an annoucement about the elopement until you come back. Family and friends will be upset that you didn't include them in your plans and feel resentful. Then after you have saved some money you can plan a reception and let everyone who may want to help know. Those that want to give a gift will be able to and those that don't won't necessarily feel obligated to.
Or throw a "Just Because" occasion, invite everyone over and tell them the good news!
2007-12-01 05:19:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
elopement announcement
2016-02-03 06:24:29 · answer #7 · answered by Janean 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A friend of my fiances did that. They sent out a card that said Yes its official we eloped come help us celebrate our love on this date, or something like that.
2007-12-01 10:02:54 · answer #8 · answered by Whit 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi. No I have never received an elopement announcement....but that does not mean that you can't send them! I do agree with you wanting to send them.
Please, please, just really think about your decision. I am not saying it doesn't sound romantic. But how will both of your families feel? I 'm a mom...so this is my "mom" voice talking. I would not care WHAT type of wedding my daughter wanted....if she wanted to wear jeans...fine! I just want to be there! I am not trying to delve into your family relationships, etc. or wanting you to explain things to all of us that are strangers. But don't do this just because of money issues!
There was a girl on here the other night who I gave suggestions to and it was that basically you CAN have a wedding for about $300, including a small reception! All you need for a wedding is a bride, groom, marriage license, and someone to marry you! The rest is "fluff". Really....a very small intimate wedding is VERY romantic! Do you belong to a church? Have a very small wedding (maybe a night time candlelight ceremony?) with a small reception after. Is your family willing to help you out with costs, etc.?
What about having something very small in someone's home? a private room in a restaurant? a bed & breakfast? a small inn? Many B&B's and small inns do this. You could get married in front of a fireplace somewhere and have a cake and champagne reception after.....very romantic!!
If you really do want to elope....yes, send out announcements. Just Google in "elopemement announcement wording" to get ideas for your announcements.
Good luck!
2007-12-01 06:15:41 · answer #9 · answered by iloveweddings 7 · 2⤊ 4⤋
I recall a cousin of mine who eloped. They did it, didn't tell anyone, then had the family over for a BBQ in their back yard and told everyone.
2007-12-01 05:06:51 · answer #10 · answered by nova_queen_28 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋