for some reason when i asked for money instead or what ever else...my mom got kinda quiet and was just liek ok
2007-12-01 04:42:57 · 16 answers · asked by jane doe 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
No, I don't. I know there are a few things she'd like to save up for, so I would give her some money as well as a few small gifts. She's only 9, I'm grateful that she's interested in saving money toward something that I can't afford to outright buy for her and adding to her savings account.
2007-12-01 04:48:37 · answer #1 · answered by Jax 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My daughter is 15 and in school. I dont find it offensive when she asks me for money especially for x-mas. If she is in school and doing good, then its fine. Now if she was getting into trouble and not going to school or getting bad grades then it would be questionable, OR, if she was over 18 and not working and being a couch potato then there is a problem.
*EDIT*
I re-read your question, I guess I misunderstood it. Your asking for money as a x-mas gift... right? That is an easy one.. both my kids, 15 & 21, ask for money instead of gifts. I have NO problem with this as I dont want to get them something that they wouldnt use or like, so no it isnt offensive to me because I will give them cash or a prepaid Visa and then smaller things that can be put under the tree. Cash is the best gift, in my opionion just because you can get what you are really wanting!
2007-12-01 04:50:21 · answer #2 · answered by collctor2 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My son is 11yrs old and if asked me for money i would be offended because when i was small Christmas was all about getting socks and undies and the shirts and pants you needed so i feel the need to make Christmas a huge ordeal and i would feel like something was taken away from me if my son asked for money.
I would give him money when he was older like 18 or something but not until then and even then i will still find things to buy for him, the is ALWAYS something kids need and want these days. Just give your mom a list of things you want even if they are small thing or even big things, your mother may surprise you.
ADD:how do parents know if the kids are using the money for something worthwhile and not on drugs or something.
2007-12-01 04:49:31 · answer #3 · answered by Wishmaster 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah, I have to say it would hurt my feelings.
She loves you and probably loves picking things out for you & seeing you get excited. How old are you? maybe she just realized your outgrowing that and no mother wants her child to grow up too fast. It also kinda takes away the fun, ya know? Maybe you could tell her you didn't mean to hurt her feelings & ask her to help you earn some money and give you most of the money she would spend on you but still buy a couple of presents for you.
Sweet of you to be concerned. Good luck and have a great Christmas
2007-12-02 02:24:11 · answer #4 · answered by samira 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's rude but I think the parent wants to be able to shop and surprise their children on Christmas. Asking for money just takes the fun out of the whole holiday spirit.
If you want money for something you want to buy yourself it would be nice to just give your parents a list of the things you want and they can choose from the list.
2007-12-01 04:48:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Money to me is the easiest gift to give, so I don't have a problem giving it instead of a gift itself. That way you KNOW the person receiving will use it unlike a gift that sometimes collects dust and never gets used or is given away.
2007-12-01 04:49:01 · answer #6 · answered by ang11222 . 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Some people (like me, for instance) prefer to choose the gifts we want to give to others. It makes gift giving from the heart, as it should be. Some people think "just giving cash" is a cop out, and takes a lot of fun out of the giving.
Frankly, I find it more offensive that you referred to Christmas as "X-Mas".
2007-12-01 04:50:22 · answer #7 · answered by kj 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I occasionally asked my folks for money, but I knew because of spoken and unspoken rules that my parents would NEVER give money for christmas. Cash is so impersonal most parents don't want to do that.
2007-12-01 04:47:25 · answer #8 · answered by alwaysmoose 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
she was probably disappointed because she had something in mind for you and now she feels like you haven't like the gifts she gave you in the past. why don't you just indulge her and let her buy you something. it's not really a big loss. she's paying for it. you can buy what you want some other time.
2007-12-01 05:08:05 · answer #9 · answered by Rowill 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. My mom used to give me money because it allowed me to buy something that I really liked. If your daughter is asking for money she must have her heart set on getting something special. Why risk wasting money on buying her something that she doesn't want? :-)
2007-12-01 04:51:28 · answer #10 · answered by Butterscotch 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋