you felt that they are trying to framed you as you want to the right thing and they are all working in groups,as i m individual,and you don't feel like to joined them and side anyone of them because you just don't,even god told not to..but how can we cooperates when people just doesn't like you and try to play games?sometimes when you are nice to others and the others doesnt like...so which one is which?it seems that we cant please everyone but how?
2007-12-01 04:23:46 · 17 answers · asked by truth set free 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
what if they are trying to dos something just to cause failure?
2007-12-01 04:29:28 · update #1
What can we do when others try to framed us?and we just cant help it as they are strong and have groups while we are only try to be neutral what is people doesnt like it when we are neutral?
2007-12-01 04:47:43 · update #2
For your sanity don't try don't take sides with anyone and be true to yourself. Personal opinion even though it may not be your situation. But I choose not to meddle myself with office politics. And this holds true fr any other kind of similar situation. And pretty much treat everyone the same. Life for me is too short for these kinds of mind games. Most people that know me know me as such. No matter what I learn from anyone or group. It pretty much stays with me. I hate being a going between because I hate playing games.
If they are trying to cause failure for you just do the best you can in that situation.. Life has a way of balance. Just leave that up to fate or God and some where down the road they will get a taste of their own medicine. It is called justice. Don't worry if you don't see it now. Either way just be humane.
Remember these 2 truisms of human nature and life.
To thine own self be true.
You can please some of the people some of the time. But you can't please all the people all of the time.
2007-12-01 04:32:16 · answer #1 · answered by Uncle Remus 54 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you can't please everyone. You should not try to please everyone - that is the mark of a desperate person. Desperate people tend to get picked on.
If you know you are doing what is right and good then that is a start.
If you try to fit into the general social groups around you, then that will make you less of a target - this is human nature. This is then your 'outer circle', the general pool that you wil choose your friends from. You will get on with some of them but not with others, depending on how you were brought up, what kind of person you are etcc...
If you then select your 'inner circle' from that group - these are people who 'are your kind'. It could be you share the same type of humour, or hobbies, or interests or beliefs.
It is important to be honest and true to yourself, but not to necessarily be completely selfish about it. If you try and fit in, then you will get the joys of friendship with others. Any relationship, including friendship, requires the sacrifice of some of your own needs in order to fulfil someone else's needs. That becomes a give and take, and that is part of the basis of friendships that are rich and full and joyful.
You say you are an individual and you don't feel like joining them - isn't everyone an individual? It seems to me that you are lonely and don't really see a way to fit into their groups, or you would not be asking the question. My advice is to try and see what you like about yourself, and try and associate with others who are similar.
If people try and play games and seem like they don't like you, then the problem might be that they are just mean people.... but the problem also might lie with you. Look at both possibilities and see what you can fix, and what you cannot.
2007-12-01 04:39:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should learn one thing: Life is never fair and you can please some of the people some of the time and nobody most of the time. Read that many times until you understand it completely. Jesus never pleased everyone all of the time. He only pleased SOME of the people some of the time and ended up paying with his life for our sins and his radical behavior. So don't expect that you will do any better. Try to associate with people who think like you do so that each of you will have something in common to share. People will always talk about you behind your back. That does not mean they are "out to do bad to you". People are just like that. Sometimes when we have an idea and want people to cooperate with us we find ourselves thinking they do not want to help. That's not so. First you must convince people that your idea is worth doing. Socialize more. Expect disagreements. Accept change and disagreement. Hope all turns out well for you. Read sentence #2 above everyday until you really understand it.
2007-12-01 04:37:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
ironie, you must stay neutral in situations where others are wanting you to choose sides. You are right. You cannot please everyone. Someone is going to get hurt or mad if you try to please everyone all the time. Stay honest, no matter what you do. Others will remember how in this situation you stayed honest and neutral and believe it or not, they will eventually come to respect you for it. In the future when they have problems, they will remember how trustworthy you are. So stay true to yourself always, because in the end, it pays off. If you give in and join the crowd, you have proven that you are no better than they are.
† Cat-prayer warrior †
2007-12-01 04:35:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dear, even God can't please anyone around the world, as different races pray to different God.
They don't like you, might be somebody ill-talk about you behind your back. They just wanna make you not happy for your whole life. Got what i meant? Try to find a way to make yourself happy, when you have a happy mood, sincere ppl will come to you. :)
Good will becomes Bad, and Bad will becomes Good.
It's a recycle, not many ppl can be lucky all her/his life, nor bad luck follows all her/his life.
2007-12-01 04:37:58 · answer #5 · answered by jellybean357 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I go with the "tough but fair" method. I am reasonably nice, polite, and respectful to those that I work with, until they choose not to be. At that point, however they treat me is how they get treated by me. I also could care less if the people that I get along with are in the "popular" crowd or not, and frankly, neither should you. As long as you enjoy working with them or spending time with them, who cares which clique they are in?
2007-12-01 04:36:58 · answer #6 · answered by Kitulu 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a difficult situation, especially if you are a people pleaser. This is when you really need the power of the Holy Spirit to work through you. I would seek God and ask Him to help you moment by moment.
2007-12-01 04:28:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i've facing this problem many times in mylife. there are many kind of people. some good and some not. when we facing with this kind of people, just 1stly, think of god. is it legal or not. then think of your heart. if it break your rule, just don't follow it. you'll get hurt. about that kind of people or friends, just ignore them. god have promise, good things will pays good. as time passes, they will realize their bad attitude, and will regret it. be yourself. and there will no regret.
2007-12-01 04:35:00 · answer #8 · answered by Sheil 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The deal is, you can't please everyone. Some people will never accept that anyone representing God could possibly do anything to please them, but will take your help every time it is offered.
I would say you need to pray and seek God's guidance in the matter.
2007-12-01 04:31:20 · answer #9 · answered by TheBodyElectric 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
HUH? I'm not exactly sure what you said but I'd say find different friends. There must be someone around on your level.
2007-12-01 04:29:14 · answer #10 · answered by scpttb512 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋