Why is it that nice guys finish last?

Question

I try to be the nicest guy possible, even saving my virginity until marriage, and i try to find nice girls however they abandon me and go for guys that end up taking their virginity and abandon them. I really dont get this at all, it seems the assholes get all the girls and ruin them while all guys like me can do is just sit and watch. is there anyone left anymore ?

Answer 1

You are probably very ugly

Answer 2

It may be the Hollywood image of the 'Bad Boy', the desperado who swings in on a rope and saves the lady in despair. Not to be confused with the guy who wields like, 14 AK-47, whilst driving a car with his left ear and shooting the bad guys.

Most women don't know what they want, and 'bad boys' have a pushy personality that tells them the woman wants that particular boy. As a result, she goes for him and he'll eventually get bored, and go for the next girl.

What you're after is a girl who isn't dreamy. Some female who's headstrong, smart and above all, a good person. It's the independent types that know what they want, and most of the time what they want is a decent guy who genuinely cares for them. Hope this helps x

Answer 3

Your problem is nice guys analyze everything, they are afraid to take risks and they worry too much about what can go wrong instead of the good things. Step out of your shell, at least for one night act like you just don't care about any rejections and that will help you loosen up. When you do that maybe woman will see a different side of you. You don't have to be a bad person to be a risk taker.

Hope this tip helps, oh and that's Mr. Asshole to you...

Answer 4

I know. It happens a lot.

Because these kind of girls like the riske guys that aren't afraid to kiss them and do stuff to them. It's the whole bad boy appeal.

I don't get that either.

The nice guys are just friends to these girls and nothing more.

Luckily, my boyfriend is a nice guy, very nice guy. He sounds just like you. He was always turned down because he was just a friend. I even did that before, I turned him down and I realized that he is so sweet and caring that I'd eventually fallen in love with him.

Just be patient.
You will find the girl right for you and who will appreciate you.

Answer 5

i think its not just the "bad boy" appeal but also todays society, and how characters in movies act. being 16 i do not go for that whole bad boy thing. i think it is actually rediculous. I will never let a guy treat me poorly. just wait it out because eventually it will be your turn where all those players will be getting older, and will be alone and you will be living comfortable with a wife, and kids (if thats even what you want lol) there are plenty of girls who want a sweet guy like you. i would date you :) lol but seriously the right girl will come along and im sure she will be worth it.

Answer 6

nice guys always ask this question...there are plenty of girls who think guys being jerks is a big turn off. those are just the people that you dont really notice. being the nice kind is cool and all but you have to get to the point were you have game as well as a sweet attitude. dont be a pushover

Answer 7

I think the nice guy syndrome is the flip side of the jerk syndrome. They're both forms of narcissism.
One of the hallmarks of narcissim is the need to feel special. This springs from parents failure to make a child feel special when it's young. The low self-esteem resulting from this is intolerable, so an image is created to cover the low self-esteem. To people with narcissitic issues, image is all important, not how people really view them, but how they think other people view them. The arogant ******'s self image is one of "Everyone sees me as the coolest guy ever. Every woman wants me. Everyone wants to be me." While the nice guy thinks "I'm so much nicer than most people. Where others are ungiving I'm giving." The common thread here is that they see themselves as being somehow better than others. They both go after the same women. Women who's hearts are locked up tight, like their mother's hearts were.
The woman wants desperately to give her heart to someone, but knows deep down she can't do it. The nice guy scares her. So does the dangerous jerk, but danger is less scary than intimacy. So she bangs her heart against his wall, and her substitute for intimacy is the dream of what he'll be like when he decides to give HIS heart to her. But she scares him and he'll never do it, because he's just as terrified of intimacy as she is. So he takes a substitute, sex, which falls way short of being as fulfilling as intimacy but is better than nothing. Then, after the feelings of attatchment and affection that automatically develop after sex start to take hold, he must run away.
The nice guy does a very similar thing to the woman. He bangs his heart against her wall, hoping he'll turn her around. He does this for two reasons. One is that he is also terrified of intimacy, so he chooses safe women, ones he knows aren't open for business, at least not with him. And two, because he still has much emptiness and anger for not being allowed to have his mother's heart. And he imagines that if he can somehow take a cold girl and turn her around, he can find the key to his mother's heart.

Answer 8

Don't worry. There are many girls out there looking for the nice guy, feeling like they're in the same position as you. You have to wait for the right girl. Trust me, there are many out there even though it may seem like there aren't

Answer 9

you're probably searching for the incorrect varieties of girls. the varieties that could desire to decide for undesirable men. And as nicely, i don't think of impressive men end final, only susceptible men. impressive men may be solid too.

Answer 10

cause good girls like bad boys its the way of the world

Answer 11

Yes, there is a nice guy just like you FOR you.