he is always drinking and taking drugs all our family have tried talking to him but he just dont listen hes 21 yrs old and has a child that he never sees coz hes always on drugs or hes drunk! all my family dont no what to do to make him stop!
2007-12-01 04:07:54 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Well he needs a kick up the back side! this ant on he has a child....drinking and doing drugs.. what is he running away from?
sound sliek he needs proper help or else it will get out of control... might be drunk this time but teh next time he may have sniffed to much white stuff...know what i mean get him real help!
2007-12-01 04:13:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your bro won't stop until he is ready to. However, there are things you and your family could do to help him out.
First, make sure that no matter what, he knows you all love him and care for him. Let him know that you'll all be there as his support system.
Second, find places to help him. Give him the numbers and addresses in a little book, so when he's ready to get help, it'll all be there.
Third, STOP enabling him. If your family lets him live in the house while using, and no on confronts him, you are part of the problem. Does that make sense? Make rules, stick to them. It's going to be hard, and a lot of tears will be shed. However, it can be done.
You may want to talk to people on the help list you create and find a support group for your family.
If none of the above work, you may have to call the police on him a few times. If you see him using drugs, or if he's taking anger out on you all, then call 911. He will get arrested. I'm sure no one wants to do this, but if you all are willing and wanting to get him help, do it now.
But really, make sure that you are all safe first.
2007-12-01 12:30:21 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the only chance you might have is to rally the family together and plan an intervention (with the aid of someone from a treatment facility in attendance). Have you ever seen that show "Intervention"? (Sorry, not sure which channel it's on.) Basically, everyone gets together and agrees to give the addict an ultimatum: either he enter treatment and get himself together, or everyone breaks off contact with him. (This way, you don't sit around and watch him kill himself.)
Frequently, although you may not realize it, by tolerating his behavior (either giving him money, having him over for dinner, or just being available for him to steal from, as often happens!), you are aiding his behavior. When the addict has all that cut off from him, being an addict isn't so much fun. It's very hard.
Don't worry about him hating you for this now; when he's alive 10 years from now, he'll thank you for it.
2007-12-01 12:21:27 · answer #3 · answered by Laura 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, the first thing your family needs to realize is that he will not take help until he feels he needs it...what you should do is have an intervention with your family...you need to get all your family members together (brothers, sisters mom dad whoever) and write down everything you want to say to him. Let him know how his actions have affected your family as a whole and each person as an individual. This is a very difficult thing to do but it's prolly the best thing to do...so good luck and god bless
2007-12-01 12:15:50 · answer #4 · answered by Brittany 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your dad needs to pack your brother's things, take him to the nearest homeless shelter and tell him that is his new home until he straightens his life out, not to come back until he has straightened out, got a job, a car a place of his own etc, but to call once in a while so they will know he is still living.Try to encourage him to go to church, the United Pentecostal churches are great and they have a rehab program that works.
2007-12-01 13:02:41 · answer #5 · answered by Joe F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can haul him in to rehab, a judge can order him into rehab, but it won't work unless he wants it. Your brother will NOT seek help unless he hits rock-bottom so hard that all he can do is look up and realize that he needs help.
If he is still living in your parents' house, they need to kick him out and tell him to get it together. A little "tough love" (or a lot) will help get him to the correct realization.
You all need to take steps to protect yourselves from theft... your parents need to change the locks and update their alarm system, and preferably at least turn one closet into a walk-in safe with a keyed lock on the door.
Please realize that you cannot ever trust an addict. As long as their addiction is in play, it will be calling the shots... and the addict will do anything it takes to get his next fix... lie, cheat and steal.
2007-12-01 12:27:38 · answer #6 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing you can do except keep telling him that you love him and that your there for him. he needs to hit rock bottom but the only thing that will make him change when he actually realizes that he doesn't want to live that way anymore is knowing that his family will forgive him. because if he doesn't have that then there will be no point for him working to get out of that lifestyle.
good luck and stay strong xoxo
2007-12-01 12:23:53 · answer #7 · answered by *Kala* 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
REHAB.
Otherwise he'll end up in jail.
Sorry to hear bout that. I hate it when people are drunk, its like talking to a brick wall. And then you start to worry about them if you go off because of an argument, but then you have to go back and help them incase they fall or something.
ALCOHOL THE SOURCE OF MANY OF LIFES PROBLEMS
2007-12-01 12:15:55 · answer #8 · answered by Zorro. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, video him being drunk and then show him it wen he is sober. say it is messing up his life, and that he will end up killing himself. If this soesnt work give him the choice, find info for him about alcohonics anomous, or another help club. let him make the choice- its his life & although u r trying too help, he needs to make the desisions in life- i hope it all works out 4 you n ur brother =D
2007-12-01 12:53:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell me about it! my older brother who is now is his 40s, was a trouble maker as a kid and messed up with drugs and alcohol so i know how frutrating it must be for you and your family. you need to have an intervention and send him off to rehab. He'll be thankful
2007-12-01 12:14:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋