i am soo depressed and i don't want to like see a shrink or n e thing but i am gay and not out of the closet and i REALLY like this guy at my school and he is straight and i cannot come out of the closet because of where i live soo i dunno what to do the guy is currently mad at me because of something some girls did that i had nuttin to do with and i am practically in love with him and i am having other problems and i am soo depressed
2007-12-01 03:37:44 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2007-12-01 03:40:44 · answer #1 · answered by Firebird 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
well, i know what being depressed is all about. i've been it for almost two months now, until last night. Although i can't tell you what's its like to be in the closest because i'm straight, but i know it is hard, and you just have to go along with the situation, and if you feel its right to say something than do it. But if not, you're just going to have to not stress out so much, and just kind of go along with the flow, because that'll get you farther than getting flustered over it, when you know there's nothing really you can do, unles you want to come out. This probably doesn't help you much, sorry.
2007-12-01 03:42:27 · answer #2 · answered by Jessica S 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Do you know for a fact that you are gay? Could just be a mix of different feelings that you are going through in your growing up years. Any way, he is more than likely straight. I would leave him alone. As you grow up, and still feel the same way with your sexual feelings, then I am quite sure you will find someone who will share those feelings with you. But, at the moment, you are young, and I would have to say the majority of the guys are trying to get girl friends, possible dates...and are just learning about themselves, just as you are. Hang in there.
2007-12-01 03:46:47 · answer #3 · answered by what u talkin' bout? 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I know you don't want to see a shrink, but I believe that it would help your tremendously. There is no magic medicine to make your problem go away. I'm bi and I've been in the same situation and I just didn't say anything about it because that was the safe thing to do. The first step is accepting yourself and being proud that you are who you are. You have to love yourself like you would love your best friend in the world: unconditionally.
2007-12-01 03:42:32 · answer #4 · answered by Eris 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just think that in a year from now you'll be onto some other guy. Hes not right for you, for one simple reason. hes straight. Ive been in your situation before and im sure thousands of other guys have to. Straight guys tend to be hotter than gay guys lol.
All i can really say is, you should look at the good things you have in your life, and you'll realise there is no reason for you to be unhappy.
Hope things work out dude.
2007-12-01 03:48:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
J! you need help guy. First...you cant be happy with yourself if you are trying to fool everyone. Second, I'm not into this whole Im ok your opk bull....teens have alot of stress on them. you dont need more. if he aint gay, leave him the heck alone! You are only looking at a keg of dynomite waiting to explode! LOVE? O.M.G. get a grip! What do you know about love? Love is wanting the best for someone else. If he is straight, you are NOT in his best interest and you are only thinking of yourself.
2007-12-01 03:44:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't worry, all teenagers feel like this.
Just try and get on with life as you are.
Search around and maybe there is an lgbt (lesbian gay bi transexual) group near you you could attend. there are lgbt youth groups all over the place, search out the nearest one to you. would be a great support network.
seeing a counsellor is nothing to be ashamed of, and maybe even your school counsellor can help. its not a big deal anymore.
hope you feel better soon. try and have a good outlook and see if there are any support networks out there for you. xx
2007-12-01 03:41:48 · answer #7 · answered by ribenacreep1 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ok...well if the guy is straight, I don't see a future there for you. I think you should seriously consider coming out of the closet to someone, a really good friend or family member because it would probably feel so good to be able to be your true self to at least someone. Good luck!
2007-12-01 03:42:00 · answer #8 · answered by beaners1229 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Being gay has to be extremely difficult. We still live in a very homo prejudiced society. Frankly, I think being gay must really suck, because of the intolerance you face every day. But sooner or later when you are old enough you can move to a part of the country that is more accepting of gay people, and find happiness. You just have to be patient.
2007-12-01 03:41:40 · answer #9 · answered by ZCT 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Why don't you come out from the closet, you have to love first yourself whatever you are before other may love you. Don't be ashame. There's a lot of people like you have come out to their shell and they were happy.
Good luck.
2007-12-01 03:45:09 · answer #10 · answered by kugay 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
being young and gay can be a real problem and its hard when you have a crush on someone who isnt gay you need to talk to someone about how you feel because alot of kids get depressed about being gay and no one understanding then they do stupid things like drugs or get more depressed and think of suicide i am a lesbain and i think you need to really need to talk to someone about how you feel before something goes wrong
2007-12-01 03:43:03 · answer #11 · answered by helen m 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋