I recently broke up with my fiance. My mother flew in to confort me. At first it was good, but now it's getting annoying.
I am kind of seeing this guy, but not really because we went on one date and now we call and IM and e-mail. My mom needs to know who I call and why I am. I was once with my 22 month old daughter and the phone rang. My mom answered it saying "This is Taylor's Mommy, how may I help you?" I was so embarrased!
She also pinches my cheeks and my kids' cheeks(facial i mean). It's so annoying. She acts like I'm 4 years old. HELP!
2007-12-01 03:36:09 · 10 answers · asked by Jasmine 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
its all LOVE sweety and know this you could never get that much love from no one else.
2007-12-01 03:43:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell Mom how much you appreciate that she was there for you when you needed her. Then tell her you're ready to move on and you know she'll want to get back to her own life. Help her find a plane fare that will work for her and offer to drive her to the airport.
Your Mom was excited that you "needed" her and, unfortunately, in many parents minds their kids are still 4 years old. The haven't accepted that their children are now adults with their own lives. They sometimes need a gentle reminder.
Before taking her to the airport have a heart to heart talk with her. Tell her how you feel about the way she answered the phone. You don't have to be nasty about it but be direct. Remind her that you never did like having your cheeks pinched and you'd appreciate it if she would not do that anymore. She may not be aware of the annoyance factor in some of the little things she does. Help her see what you need. Also remind yourself of how grateful you were that she was there for you. Familiarity breeds contempt and sometimes it's hard to see through to what we truly appreciate.
2007-12-01 03:54:39 · answer #2 · answered by innerradiancecoaching 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Taylor sounds like you need to have a good heart to heart talk with your mom. Let her know how much you appreciated her support etc. when you needed it. But that you are feeling much better now and want to get on with your life. As far as the face pinching goes she may be unaware of how hard she is pinching. And as far as embarrassing you I'm pretty sure that it is intentional and will probably continue with this type of behaviour unless you address it with her. She may very well be a little upset but will get over it pretty quickly and it certainly will not affect your relationship in the long run. She will probably feel a little sad that her baby is growing up and doesn't need her as much as she might think. Again best of luck.
2007-12-01 03:42:36 · answer #3 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell your mom that you need a little space, and that she can leave now since you are old enough to take care of yourself and you're okay. And don't forget to mention that there is a difference between you and your baby. Also tell her that she is kind of invading your privacy. All of these suggestions are just opinions...Good Luck!
2007-12-01 04:09:26 · answer #4 · answered by Farah H 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell your mother that you are happy she is helping you but you don't have to treat me like a baby even though i am the youngest or what age you are but i think you should be happy that she is alive and she is helping you and she is going to pinch her grand kids cheeks all the time that is what my aunt does but she doesn't pinch her daughters cheeks i hope this helped
2007-12-01 04:35:27 · answer #5 · answered by d_nemley 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i admire my mom very a lot. at circumstances she would be able to annoy me, yet a mom won't be able to be estimated to be suited for all time. I appreciate her and look as much as her. She's taught me virtually each little thing i comprehend, and he or she's the reason i'm a author. Please do not placed your mom in a compactor. which may be dreadful.
2016-11-13 03:33:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like shes treating you like she does to your kids. just talk to her and express all your feelings to her. tell her that youre not four anymore and that she can squeeze your kids cheeks but not yours. and tell her not to pick up the phone in your house. ask her: would you like it if i picked up the phone at your house and this guy picked up and i would say 'oh how nice to hear from a guy finally'? just talk it out. :)
2007-12-01 03:42:10 · answer #7 · answered by ♥ F@$H!0N ♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell her she needs to back off a little (tell her nicely) and that you're not a little kid anymore...but she did fly in to make you feel better so give her some props on that
2007-12-01 03:41:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give her some slack, she does not mean to be annoying.
She will soon fly back home.
2007-12-01 03:55:39 · answer #9 · answered by Kira 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell her to get out
2007-12-01 03:39:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋