I do sales work and another guy in the office sells the same type of jobs and projects that i do. He is very jealous of me and doesnt like the competition. He has back stabbed me, turned some employees against me, has physically threatened me,and has invited me outside. He is also hateful to me and very unfriendly and doesnt speak unless it is to insult me. He out weighs me by about 80 lbs or more and is a couple inches taller but he is older and out of shape, while I am in great shape. He is about 60 years old and im mid 50's.
Should I just confront him and take him outside like he wants, talk to the boss, get an attorney, or quit? If i quit then he achieved his goal. By the way, the guy is a hard worker, sells lots of work, and althought the owners have even critized him and assured me that everyone knows how he is, they put the mighty dollar first and dont do anything about him. what do i do?
2007-12-01 03:16:59 · 10 answers · asked by rudy the bobcat 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Kill him with kindness and let him know that if you two put your heads together that you could accomplish more work than by bitching at each other.
I don't know what the circumstances of the situation are but a hostile environment is not fun to work in.
I bet there are somethings that you are not telling us but the important thing to remember is that you guys are both adults and the situation you guys are in is totally unnecessary.
I've been in physical altercations in the past at work and just out and about. It doesn't solve anything and I usually feel bad after I break a persons face.
At the same time if you step up to him and it turns into something physical make sure that you let him know you are not to be pushed around and you can only take so much **** before you snap. If you snap on him then snap hard and make sure it's not in a place with any witnesses.
I've humbled many people to the point that they will not even look me in the eye when they cross my path.
Good luck with whatever you do.
2007-12-01 03:48:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
dude, if he ever does get violent, u have to call the police or something....cause it could be said to some kind of physical abuse...
u should feel, though, a little proud if he is jealous of u.
dont fight him, back, perhaps its just what he's looking for; a real fight.
for the time, ignore him, ignore whatever he says to u, and tell urself....I'll ignore, him, I'm a free person.
U are free of doin what u want. talk to the boss about the problem. ask for a job exchange, or whether u can move to another area of work, or u can quit if u are feelin that uncomfortable.
The most importat is for u to ignore, and have a lot of self-confidence, and emotional strengh
hope i could help bye!!
2007-12-01 11:26:07 · answer #2 · answered by spacegirl 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Clifford it may sound strange but why not try and act friendly towards this fella. Certainly it will piss him off but he may come to realize that he is not getting to you and is acting very immature. Who knows you two may even become true friends along the line sometime. Doubtful but anything can happen. And like the saying goes "Keep your friends close, but keep your enemies closer". To go outside and fight with this man would be a big mistake as you'd probably both lose your jobs and what good would that do. But why your employer is allowing this to occur is beyond belief, especially if they are aware of it. They should be speaking with him and telling him to act professionally towards you, whether that means being friendly or not and regardless of how it may affect the bottom line. To quit shows that he has won and achieved his goal of getting to you. Best of luck and I truly hope that this ceases soon for you.
2007-12-01 11:25:18 · answer #3 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can't beleive a 60 yr old grown man is being such an ***! He must be really unhapy and have low self esteem! (typical of a bully) I would have very little contact with him as possible. Dont sink down to his level. Two grown men shouldn't be fighting like that. If you are that unhappy there, find another job.
2007-12-01 11:31:48 · answer #4 · answered by Sophie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are you a man or a mouse ?.
Be a man and stand up for yourself.Buy a good heavy knuckle duster and keep it in your pocket,next time this creep insults you the minute he turns his head to walk away lash out fast and furiously punching his head and face as hard as you can.
F**K your job you,ll find another dont let this asshole ruin your life
stand up for yourself.
Do what I say and you,ll not get anymore hassle from this freak
2007-12-01 11:44:18 · answer #5 · answered by 007 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That definitely is a problem. "He" is definitely a problem. nobody should have to work under those conditions. No, do not settle it with "Meet you outside". That might just get you into trouble. Besides, that would be stooping to his level. Not worth it. No, definitely don't quit your job. Sounds like eventually he might have to. Just hang in there, he might hang himself eventually. Be big, and just do your job. Ignore him as best you can. Thats my advice......good luck to you.
2007-12-01 11:38:16 · answer #6 · answered by what u talkin' bout? 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your employer values the money more than you, start looking for another job.
2007-12-01 11:28:04 · answer #7 · answered by ?????? 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do your work. Don't worry for him. He is doing well, and is stressed out. Quit worrying for him or you'll end up doing something for which you'll deserve to be fired....
2007-12-01 11:21:02 · answer #8 · answered by dumbuglyweirdo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just confront him about it, prove that he's not going to intimidate you and if he sees that what he's going is pointless, he should stop.
2007-12-01 11:21:15 · answer #9 · answered by Russell L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
set up some sort of traps
to get this person in trouble
and LhAO off
2007-12-01 11:20:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋