My son is obsessed with Dora...?

Question

My three year old son is obsessed with Dora. We watch it at home occassionally, it does have some educational value, but he watches it mostly at the babysitters. My mother-in-law has really added to it I think, by buting him pink Dora blannkets, Dora dolls, Dora, cereal, and Dora cookies. At first i din't sem to mind, but then the fact that my little BOY is sleeping with pink Dora blankets and dolls everynight started to concern me. Is this a problem? Am I worrying too much? I have tried introducing Diege, the "boy version" of Dora, but most Diego stuff has Diego AND Dora. Is this appropriate for my son? My other son seems to be "all boy" and they don't have any sisters. Where is he picking up all this girly influence? he is also interested in my (his mother's) shoes, makeup, and such. What should I do?

Answer 1

(At first i din't sem to mind, but then the fact that my little BOY is sleeping with pink Dora blankets and dolls everynight started to concern me. Is this a problem? )
dad if it concerns you then it is a problem. do him a favor and axe dora introduce him to spider man,super man, even the power rangers if you have to but dora has got to GO!!!!!!
now i under stand kids dont come with hand books but the best thing you can do is LISTEN to your gut and it is starting to concern you AXE DORA COMPLEATLY he can still watch her on tv dont let him play with her
GOOD LUCK

Answer 2

My 15-month old loves to watch Dora, too. I don't think it's got to do with much other than he thinks it's a bright, cheery show. He likes to play with my make-up, shoes, etc...
And I let him. Why? Because he's touching and exploring different colors, textures, smells, and the sort. It has nothing to do with gender identity. It would be the same thing if you were to have a daughter who was crazy about Diego, and loved playing with balls, trains, and cars. It's all pretend, it's all imagination, and if that's who they want to be their friend, let it be. Soon enough his "boy" interests will develop and you can rest assured, it's going to be all you can do to stop him from oogling the Pussycat Dolls...
I would however tell your mother in law that you would appreciate for her to not buy him so many things Dora related. Suggest she buy him blocks, trucks, or other "boy" toys. Regardless of my son loving "Lazytown" I'm not planning to purchase a Sportacus sheet set...

Answer 3

Get the blankets out of there. Dora is loved by all the kids that age. He sees Dora as a friend. Dad grow up, and start watching Dora with him. You will see why he likes her. At his age, he probably hasn't figured out the differences in the sexes.

Answer 4

Would you mind if the blanket was blue or purple instead of pink? A doll is a doll Diego being a boy version is still a doll
There is nothing you can do either he will grow out of it or he will not only time will tell. There are many girls that are tom boys until they are 15 could be the same for your son I would not stress it.

Answer 5

It seems like a normal phase some boys go through. My son loved Dora when he was little. Now he is all super heroes and football. I think my son may have put my shoes on a few times. I think it is more him trying to emulate his mom. Pretty soon the realization he is a boy and that certain things are more boyish will hit and he will gravitate toward those things. Do not stress! He is only 3 :)

Answer 6

You should foster his interests. If you tell him it is not ok to like Dora he won't understand why. He is going to grow in to a wonderful person if you guide him, but you can not use gender biases to do so. He sounds like he is well on his way to becoming a well rounded, and bright little boy.

My nephew wanted nothing more than a strawberry shortcake kitchen. So, we got him one. He loves cars and Diego, and Dora as well. He loves superheroes. At their tender age, they have not been affected by what society feels is the "right way" to act if you are a boy or a girl.

If he loves Dora, be grateful that he is learning something simultaneously. As far as the color pink, it is warm and attractive to any human being. If it makes him feel comfortable and secure, there is no harm being done.

Answer 7

If I were u...I wouldn't really worry about it. He is only 3. My kids watch Dora all the time. At that age all the colors, sayings, & educational things that are used that cartoon helps them open up more at least it did to my kids. In the end who cares what any1 thinks hes ur child and u love him right? Like I said I wouldn't worry about it. Worry if he was 16.

Answer 8

He's a little kid, leave him alone. The shoes and makeup is something they all do - esp if they spend all day every day surrounded by women. What do you expect?

First doll my kids ever owned belonged to my son. He wore my lippy and shoes, the lot. He's now 16 and very certain of and comfortable with his sexuality. I think your MIL is doing a great job; I had a real problem with my Outlaws and their dinosaur obsession with "boys toys" and "girls toys".

Like I said, he's a normal healthy 3yo. Let him get on with enjoying playing. I suspect he'll turn out to be more assertive and original than his brother if he's doing all this in the face of your obvious disapproval. I do hope being "all boy" doesn't mean an encouraged obsesion with toy guns and destructive play.

Oh, and not that it matters, but my lad's straight.

Answer 9

A lot of little boys go through this type of phase. One of my nephews, at about 3, insisted on wearing his older sister's old pink snow boots. Another liked wearing his sister's necklaces and barrettes. My younger brother went through a baby doll phase. All are perfectly normal men now. If nobody makes an issue out of it, your son will most likely move on when he's ready.

Answer 10

Oh, please. Don't try to turn him into a walking lump of testosterone. If your little girl liked baseball, would you have the same reaction? My perfectly normal 7 - year - old nephew loved a lot of "girl" things when he was that age - doing laundry, playing with dolls and singing to boy bands. He's now into a lot of the things his friends like, such as trucks and trains, but he also still has his soft side. And there's NOTHING wrong with that. Having certain interests does not reflect one's sexual orientation (not that you could change his orientation anyway, but that's another topic). Let him be himself, and don't try to turn him into something he's not. Not every boy was meant to be a rough - and - tumble little linebacker. Liking Dora isn't hurting anyone, so let him continue and leave him alone.