If one of your contacts here made a comment that was completely hypocritical, insulting, and condescending, ?

Question

against what they had professed to believe in the past, how would you react?

One of the Christian answerers here, who had earned my respect, posted a comment that was very insulting to atheists and pagans. It caught me by surprise, and that doesn't happen often.

Answer 1

Ehhh... well, we all have moments in which we suck, be they caused by righteous indignation or humor gone a bit to far... I would send them an email stating, "What the F*** chuck?"
But I wouldnt call 'em out in public or something...

Answer 2

If it is someone that you had great confidence in, then I would contact them personally, letting them know you were a little confused and caught off guard by one of their comments.

That is the unfortunately thing about the typed word, sometimes (especially when you're in a hurry, and I'm so guilty of answering on the fly) you don't take the time to think about your answers. Also, sometimes it's difficult to find the proper words to convey your thoughts, also since tone cannot be detected, sometimes important issues are lost (and others that didn't exist, brought to light).

I know, many of times I've had to hit the edit button on my answers, as, after reading the entire response, it sounds totally different than what I intended it to (lol, sometimes things just sound better in your head).

If this is someone you have great confidence in, I'd definitely ask them about it, they might be able to clear it up, that your confidence be restored, and if they did intend the response as you took it, be able to further elaborate upon it, but I would definitely ask, better not to keep your self wondering. And, no doubt, there's probably more than one person reading this question, asking themselves, is it me?

Best of luck with this issue!

Answer 3

The answer from the jewish tradition is very interesting but if the lady isn't jewish she will not care what they say. Since it sounds like your a young person living at home there may not be much you can do other than look up a bunch of those bible verses about not gossiping and ask her repeatedly to explain them to you. LOL. If you're old enough not to be censored by your family tell her that people like her are the reason you're a godless pagan!!! good luck ....what a Bit**

Answer 4

She asked me name my foe then,
I said the need within some men
To fight and kill their brother
Without thought of Love or God

From: Lady In Black, Uriah Heep, 1970 something

Everyone has their opinions, and in asking a question, or sometimes from simply participating in a forum such as this (as it's main purpose seems to be to post our opinions about a dazzling array of subjects), we can only expect to get insulting and rude "answers" from time to time from ignorant people who are not ready for the truth. That being said, as best I can discern in your case, it would have to depend on the nature of your relationship with your perceived attacker. I went back to your last question concerning this encounter, and can only concur with SET.

Answer 5

If you are really hurt or offended, I'd ask them in an email if possible to explain his or herself. They may have been trying to make a point and it didn't come out right. May have been a bad day and they were venting in the wrong way.

We all make mistakes but if this person can't see that their comment caused pain you may have to reconsider that contacts status.

Also make sure that it was your contact and not a vicious clone/troll.

Answer 6

I'd let them know privately... as a strong atheist, I sometimes struggle with the fact that I know my comments could be hurtful to spiritualists, pagan's and others that I truly like and admire in this forum. I've apologized in advance to Pangel on occasion ( I don't believe in "spiritual" things and I am critical of that)...

... just based on my own experience...

Answer 7

We do not need to judge them.

Love the sinner, although you hate the sin.

Often you have misunderstood the question.

Thank God, that He knows our hearts. We are judged by our heart's intent to do good or ill.

If some one blurts out a question in haste, that you think is "below them"...email them your feelings, taking time to respect them despite their faults.

Smart answers that put down questioners are illogical "ad hominum" (which is latin for "against the man", rather than the idea) mis-directed arguments!

Answer 8

Friends appreciate honesty, so bring it up if it's bothering you. Please take into account that people are people, no matter what faith they profess. That means we tend to make mistakes, sometimes letting our emotions or personal experiences influence our words and actions. Maybe your contact was simply having a bad day. Forgive.

God Bless.

Answer 9

This has happened to me only once.
I emailed the person very quickly and kind of said "WTF"
The comment was so off base with what the person usually displays.

I then learned my error was assuming that people are exactly the way I envisioned them and realized by doing so I was only setting myself up for disappointment.

Answer 10

I would ask via email for clarification..They probably didn't know how it came across or they could possibly posted in anger. I do that alot, post in anger I mean. Hopefully I do not insult others.