Please give me your advice, I need it depserately ???

Question

I am thinking of leaving home when I turn 18 because of serious issues at home. I am currently 15 and I need to start thinking about how to make money to financially support myself. I live in Japan right right now and go to a private international school here. I really want to go to a college in America. I know I need to find jobs already at this time, but the problem is my parents don't let me go outside the house alone or socialize with my friends (meaning I can't find any excuses to go outside the house). Then, I thought doing jobs on the internet would do. However, I came to realize that even if I do find a job, the money would either be transfered to a bank or through mail. Since my parents do not allow me to work, I certainly wouldn't want them finding out about this. I really can't find any solution.I can't seem to sleep or focus on anything because of the things happening to me.Advice on how to be able to live independantly, what to take care of and money wud rly be appreciated

If you still dont understand why Im making this decision and chose to oppose my idea, look at my other question: http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AqRpBKiIDcaGVzlH519h2aLty6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20071119052222AAUENfN

Answer 1

I'm sorry to hear about everything in your questions.. Religion shouldn't take away your only life though...
Over here in USA, a child can "divorce" their parents if under really bad circumstances, but I'm not sure if you can do that there.. if there are child services, you could check them out. If really rough scenarios, people run away and try to make a living like that, but if caught they normally goto jail or what ever punishment is in their laws...You could see about staying with a relative if you have any..

I Wish I could help More, Goodluck!

Answer 2

Stay in education as long as possible as this will increase your job prospects. Try and talk with your parents and see if you can resolve the current situation.
If all else fails speak to one of the teachers in school or headteacher (Some one you Trust) to see if they can help, because they ain't just there to teach they are also there to help.
You must think very carefully before you even entertain leaving home when your 18 as living on your own is harder than you can imagine.
I talking from experience, you've got to pay all your bill any debts that you may occur will come directly back as you etc...
As for earning money see if one of your most trusted friends will let you use their bank account. Hope this information is useful and the best of luck in the near future.

Answer 3

If your parents are really that bad then do this. Study hard. Become capable of going into a good college. And then leave them. Put up with them for three years.
But it would be better to talk to a student counselor. Maybe she can help you get away from your parents earlier. In any case you will need to be strong.
Study well. Education can change your life.
(I just hope you are not exaggerating things)

Answer 4

I looked at your previous question. What a mess.

I don't know what the laws are in Japan. In the US you'd be able to go to the child services authorities to take you out of the situation, and you couldn't be forced into an arranged marriage. But those laws might not apply in Japan.

I don't have any good advice for you, since I know nothing of what might be available to you in Japan. Keep talking to the counselor at school, maybe he or she will come up with something.

Answer 5

be strong ! given your situation your going to have to make some tough choices,i don't think leaving your home before your 18 is an option,respect your parent religion,however you need to prepare your self to be marketable and employable, so do what ever you can at school with the thought its going to help out of your situation, unfortunately if you leave your home and do what you would like after 18 you may be alienated from your family. are you prepared for that. if your grades are good enough when you graduate, maybe a school counselor could help you get some type of grant, funding to become an exchange student. i feel for your situation unfortunately there's all to many in similar or worse, my self i have had colon cancer,am a diabetic ,have degenerative disc disease, arthritis ,a torn rotator cuff, an a group of side affect from the diseases and medication . however you have to try to get along with your life, and personally i think part of that is doing what you can for others, in the long run it will help you be a better person in your life.

Answer 6

I would take one step at a time. Continue talking to your school guidance people about the procedures for political asylum. First don't do anything to upset your parents into beating you anymore. Bide your time study hard and just before your 18th birthday arrange to go to the US Embassy in whatever country you are in at the time and ask for political asylum. At that time you will be old enough to legally make your own decision.

Other than that All of us will pray that you will get along until that time to get your freedom. You must have the courage to just wait until then. Good Luck and you can always write me or others for moral support.

Answer 7

okay look here now.. your parents know the best for you..

regarding the 'circumstances' you are in.. lets just face it.. this is absolutely normal in our south-asian culture, tradition and environment..! you are not the only one.. there are over billions of people who *suffer* the same fate. but they are fine with it.. they move on in their life!

the american environment is way too different than what we have been learning and living in -- far too different than our cultural, religious or social norms and 18 is too young an age to go over there all alone. It'd have been a different scenario had your parents moved there with you but i wont suggest it as a good - even a feasible - plan.

as far as job is concerned.. sure why cant you work from home?? see what your skills are.. you could be an artist, a good actress or RJ, you could be good at creative ideas! see if you can write for a magazine! you can even take part in inter-institute events that give you cash rewards! loads of ways there - waiting for you to discover them!

so dont feel glum.. take life as it comes - things like these are part and parcel of life. if they put some restrictions they'd be for your own good as you'll realize later.

Answer 8

Listen me<3,
u r muslim so far I know..dont hurt your parents at any way..try to live with them..u will not get peace if u u hart them.if they are wrong,try to make them understand.take help from ut relative and ur school guidenc to make them understand.if they are wrong.

I guess they want to take u under muslim culture and rules probably.

Anyway.never go against them,never hart them,when u will be 18 or matured enough obviously they will hear u.

Best wishes..

Answer 9

When you are 18 you will have to flee the country. Japan is an ally of the United States and it will be easier for you to get into the US from Japan, but you will still need a passport. For the time being you are going to have to focus on your studies. Keep your head full of ideas of science, math, ENGLISH, or anything else. Read every book about every subject written.

I read your other post. You are in a very bad position in life. There are stories of what you are going through going on in the US also. The Muslim religion when contorted and twisted produces these perversions just as when any religion is. There are heavy Muslim groups in New York, New York and Detroit, Michigan as when as other metropolises in the US. A girl was killed by her father for trying to leave her family and was going through the exact same as you. She was corrupted by the "Western Way" and he did it for the sake of Allah. These people do not get off easily. Nobody looked the other way. Everybody involved were sent to prison or received the death penalty. We don't put up with that stuff in the States doesn't matter if your Christian, Orthodox, Muslim or Buddhist. Nobody dies for religion in the US it's not necessary.

You need to be careful of what you are doing. Keep to yourself and study. When you are 18 you are going to have to run for your life there will be no coming to terms with your family. They are too far gone. You need to disappear and land in the States. You will be able to get a Visa or Passport when you turn 18 you are going to need at least your Birth Certificate so you better find where that's hidden and keep an good eye on it. Since you have access to a computer you may want to make friends with people in the states who will help you in your plight.

As brutal as your household is you need to keep out of sight. Unfortunately you will not be able to do much until you are 18. Keep searching the web for help organizations that will be able to help you better than Yahoo Answers can.

Check Web sites like this:

http://www.amwaaz.org/

And read them CAREFULLY you do not want to tell them your story only for them to contact your parents and tell them what you have done. Make up fake names and don't give address or phone numbers. Saying what you said here is enough. Here are private email addresses.

Go here to get an anonymous email account:

http://www.hushmail.com/services-mail?l=424&a=2809

I hope you make it to the US. It is hard to make it here, but if you are intelligent and caring you will be happy here and you will find a great man who will love you for being you and will help you obtain your wealth and freedom just as he would for himself. I as an American will welcome you with open arms and give you the shirt off my back to help you as I am sure every other American here would too.

Answer 10

You really have a lot of issues going on in your life. You may want to look at moving in with other family.