I am 18. I have a crush on this really cute and sweet guy from our class. We are good friends and I always thought that he will like me as a gf sooner or later by the way he used to talk. Everyone teases him with my name and vice versa. Today he told me that he likes some other girl from my class and he was praising her a lot. I am so depressed...He considers me as a good friend but never had other feelings for me. Even my friends ditched me. They are saying that I'm a very bad person etc etc. I am so depressed. I'm not able to study these days. I don't want to say anything abt my feelings to that guy, I just want to see him happy. It's ok if he likes someone else. He shares everything with me. And I guess he is really crazy for that girl. Whenever he talks about that girl I feel sad and a bit jealous. I really like him. But he considers me just as a good friend. How should I stop having such feelings for him and remain his good friend?
2007-12-01 02:20:28 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well he is talking about the other girl with me because he considers me as his very very good friend. He told me that he absolutely comfortable with me.
2007-12-01 03:16:28 · update #1
Sounds like you need to reveal your feelings for him, but do so in a way that gives him an out. If you never tell him, you will not be honest with yourself or your friend. This will help bring closure to your relationship, which is important.
Be prepared to move on.
While you might be very saddened at this, realize that this is a stepping stone in your life, an experience to build on that will lend to greater understanding for any future relationships that you or someone you seek guidance for. Sorry I can't offer any real optimism here, but welcome to the world of adults.
2007-12-01 02:34:43 · answer #1 · answered by go2seek 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Stay his friend, his friendship will be far more valuable then a transient "relationship" at your age. Don't be in such a hurry to make everyone you have an attraction to an intimate "friend". Being to intimate with someone who is not really into you is damaging to you in the long run.
On the other hand, a really good male friend is a life long relationship you can fall back on time and time again. Make friends with the girls he dates and let him be your lodestone when you are seeing some new guy. He will never let you down by lying about how great that new guy is if he isn't and he'll be there if you need a ride at 3 AM when your car breaks down.
Good luck!!
Oh, and as for those "friends", loose them, they weren't friends. Keep him but loose them, like yesterday!!!
2007-12-01 02:30:59 · answer #2 · answered by Adult American 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Denying your feelings would be lying to your heart. Life is all about the timing. Now, he sees you as his good friend, but tomorrow could be a different story. He feels safe and secure with you, which is not a bad thing, even though this does not make you happy. Be patience! Its truly a virtue. If it is meant to be, it will happen. Go on with your life, go out and have fun with others. If he sees you having a good time without him, this might wake up his true emotions toward you. As for the people that are taking about you, move onward and away from them. Don't "EVER" let any one suck the life out of you. The more reaction they see from you, the crueler they can be. Raise above them. You are a very sweet girl! Wanting to see this guy happy, even if it isn't with you, is a great sacrifice. But remember your feelings are just as important as his, and you deserve happiness also. Get busy and leave your self little time to dwell on him, and you will be surprised what will come around for you. :)
2007-12-01 02:35:02 · answer #3 · answered by smplyme132 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well honey, this is a very hard situation. You can choose to see him as a friend but it's hard and you gotta work at it every day you spend with him. Maybe you should try to stay away from him for a little while and try not to see him as much, maybe just talk on the phone. However if I was you I would be upfront and sincere with him, I would tell him the way I feel and let him know that no matter what he feels, I would still like to be his friend.
2007-12-01 02:26:41 · answer #4 · answered by Vi 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
At 18 you are too old to have "crushes". It is either a romantic relationship, or not. Since it is painful for you to be with him, and you can't bring yourself to tell him how you feel, I would recommend that you take a break from him and go out with another boy who appreciates you more. I mean, how can he not know that he is hurting you by talking about another girl in front of you. Unless you've led him to believe that he can. Time to stand up and speak up if you really love him.
2007-12-01 02:27:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
when a guy is talking to u (a ggood friend) about another girl he is trying to make u jelous first of all, just make him happy, dont really let him know ur weak (jelous) if he sees taht he wont go for you. dont stop having those feelings, just make him happy and itl all come back to you...i know this becuase i was that guy like a week ago SAME EXACT STUFF, i was talking to my friend girl to help me talk to another girl in class, she did but i already knew she liked me, in the end or as in like yesterday we went to a party together had a good time and hooked up and as of now are dating :D
2007-12-01 02:25:57 · answer #6 · answered by Ivan The Terrible 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi there,
i'm so terribly sorry for your situation. but, it happens to most of us, at some point in time in our lives...
it's always difficult to separate romantic feelings from platonic feelings, esp. when it comes to someone who suddenly becomes unavailable to us..
it's very good of you to want him to be happy, and that you still want to remain friend with him. however, you cannot truly be friends with him, right now. if you still have romantic feelings for him within your heart, you are going to continue to hope/think that he will have feelings for you (whether or not he truly does). emotionally speaking, this is going to put you in a bad position.
my suggestion to you is to separate yourself from the situation and this young guy, at least for some time. give yourself some time to truly accept the fact that he has a girlfriend, and figure out if you can be his friend and not have romantic feelings for him.
i wish you all the best.
2007-12-01 02:30:03 · answer #7 · answered by docj 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yep, just hang for now... believe it or not... over the next 10 years you will think completely different... concentrate on the most important things... school, being a teenager and having fun, and most of all start looking for something you would like to do for the next 30 years of employment and work towards that goal... everything else will fall into place...
2007-12-01 02:27:30 · answer #8 · answered by prop4u 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have a crush eh? Well you want him to come to you, im a boy so i know how. First go up to him and call him tell him you need help on something, if he comes then say you wanna go on a walk together say its very important. Then tell him about your life then ask him about his. Afterwards you'll start getting comfortable asking him. Then finally say" hey (what ever his name is) would you like to go out with me? Easy as that! Alot of girls like me too im 18 as well. Thanks!
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