How can I refrain from going to church? Hate it.?

Question

It's not that I'm a rebellion in the family. I'm prefectly a good girl with good moral backgrounds,
My whole family is going to church every single morning,
And I'm just lazying at home, which I like, I get my privacy.
Not that I hate church, I hate the people there.
People there just go to church for going to church sake,
Not for God. Just to say that "I go to church".
How fake is that? I can't handle it! I can't be with a bunch of fakers (no offense)
The pastors are just repeating the previous pastor's sermon, the sing-song group is just singing, no life in the singing,
People are sleeping in church for goodness sake!
So, I'm running out of ideas how to refrain going to church,

Now my aunt is FORCING me to go to church, and it's not going to make me more holy or anything...
How can you force someone to go to church? It must be a free will thing right?

Please answer seriously.... I know it's bad, but seriously, I hate that place.

Answer 1

Then stop going.

Answer 2

Every day? Really? That's tough. I only go on Sunday and I enjoy it. The Church is a place to learn about God and other things in the Bible that you couldn't find on your own. The Church includes people to lean on and to be with you in time of need. The church is a very important part of most religions. But, if your mind is set, try making a deal with your aunt or parents or whoever. Say, "I really don't like church at all but I do love God. Couldn't I stay home today if I promise to read the Bible and do a study on my own?" Make a deal, like you only go two times a week. But, when you do go, be sure not complain or anything or the deal will certainly be called off. Oh, and be certain to follow through on any promises you make on what to do during part of the time your aunt is gone, like reading the Bible, for example. As long as you love God and still want to learn about him, I don't see why you couldn't skip Church once in a while. You could also try going "Church shopping" with your aunt to possibly find a new one. Either way, keep in mind your Aunt is probably just "forcing" because she wants you to remain in the religion when you move out. Most young adults do leave the church once they enter college and then, eventually, leave God. I wish you the best of luck!

Answer 3

Just looking at your screen name gives us a great clue as to why you would ask this question. So whatever answer one gives is going to be read by someone with no life, and probably can't see past her own overwhelmingly supreme ego and self-centeredness.

Seriously, your reasons for NOT going are just excuses. You don't skip a movie because people are sleeping in there. So get over that part about other people not meeting your expectations.

Seriously think about the good reasons TO GO. For example, that the Bible says go to church and take that which is good. That the church is the bride of Christ, and the special emphasis he puts on attending and participating.

Serously think of your family. Go because they want you to go. Go for their sake, too. Set an example for your brothers and sisters.

Good Luck

Answer 4

Ask your aunt, if the whole world belongs to god, you can pray anywhere, god does not requie a house, everything belongs to him. If she says yes. Then ask her why then does going to church such big issue. I am sure she will tell you, that it's for your own good. So that you are use to thanking god for the life that has been given to you.

Being forced is not really going to take you anywhere closer to god. You want god, close your eyes and he is there with you. They may want you to socialize, and get to know people too.

And one thing, never point a finger at anyone cause you know, the rest of the three fingers point at you. Don't be in a hurry to judge people, they have likes and dislike just as you. Mayby half of them may not want to come to church like you. But do so, because it is the one important social ocassion which binds us to our family and friends. Socitly is based on these special occassions, just so that we can feel sure that if we need one another we are there. I hate to get up too, but I do, so because, the ones I LOVE, ask so little of me, and that too somthing good for my soul. You can sleep when come back. Right. Don't hate god child, he has given you this life, and taking one day out of your busy week should not be a burden to talk to him and thank him, I am sure he doesn't think of you as a burden, rest of week when you don't remember him at all. Life is to small to waste on hate.

If you still hate THAT PLACE, tell your parents frankly, being forced to go to church to pray , when you hate that place, is just as bad as commiting a sin, and I am sure you don't want to commit that sin. You can pray at home, if you remeber to.

Answer 5

If you are a child living in my home and I am supporting you, you are going to church. I can't do much with my children now that they are grown and gone, but I have a son who rarely goes and I wish he could see the importance of taking his precious children to church. I have to pray to God that he will soon see what he is doing to his family. I am blessed that my other children go and my college age son probably goes more than any of us. He does prefer a church that has more contemporary music which I don't care for, but he goes and enjoys it now that he can choose where he goes. As long as they teach salvation, it is ok. You know, we don't seem to mind sitting next to a hypocrite at a ball game so why do we at church. That is the place they need to be, maybe they will hear something that will change them and maybe you will to.

Answer 6

Well, first of all, how do you know that's what the people are doing? Are you actually in their heads, reading their thoughts? Yes, there are some people who are in it for tradition. How do you know that the people who are falling asleep don't work nights and are making tremendous sacrifice to get to church? And as for the sermons, sometimes God keeps sending the same message until the people finally start to listen.

That said, some churches are more alive than others. Is it possible that you can convince your aunt that perhaps there is a better church to attend. Talk to her (respectfully) about your objections to that church. Talk to your pastors about how you, yes, you, can make it better. I have learned that whenever someone has a complaint about church, but they are unwilling to do something about it, it says much more about them then it does about the church.

Answer 7

You are correct. You should never be forced to go to church. I haven't been in church for going on two years because of the very reasons you listed! However, I still love God, pray and read my bible and attend bible study at a friends house. I see it like this, if God Himself gave me freewill then who are the hell are you to deny me it??? Also, God is not looking at the actions for the Bible says that we are saved my grace not by works. He is looking at our HEARTS, He is judging the reasons behind our actions as opposed to our actions. People who go to church because they SHOULD need to really re evaluate their actions and check their hearts. You can't trick God! Might as well be Real cause He knows anyway!

Answer 8

Tell her you don't want to go, or see if you can switch to another church.. possibly one that doesn't have mass every day!

Tell your aunt, this is how it is... and I don't want to be going. Say you'll go once a week or whatever you can handle, but you refuse to go every morning.

Answer 9

It is more than enough if you from your inner heart like your religion and systems. Pray God from where ever you are sincerely,it implies your are more sincere towards your religion

Answer 10

my family is catholic. they used to force me to go as well. it made me decide to read the whole bible. This led me to realize that jesus christ is not the son of god and think that the whole thing was a waste of time. totally believe in god, but my relationships with my family are now nonexistent. does she want to do this to you?

Answer 11

then the love of god is not in ur heart! for if u loved god u would go to be with people of the same nature and love to be in his word. the word GOD is like the sun and u are the plant,jesus is the fertilizer ucannot have one without the other! And the church is the pot that holds all the plants and thier roots together!