Hello,
We (my hubby and I) have 2 beautiful little ones at the moment, and they are still quite young (my eldest is 2 1/2 and my youngest is 1 passed in oct), so i would not be thinking about having a 3rd little one right now, but when or how long is it best to leave for having a 3rd??
My husband is happy to ttc next year, but i dont know how i feel about it, cause i am a SAHM and the two we have is really hard work atm.
this question is really ment for people who have had a 3rd or more, cause i know having 2 seems to be enough for some people (or the 1), but we have the 2 girls atm and we would love to try for a boy, but we would never be upset if we had another little girl, cause we love our girls so much.
(please no daft answers ;o) ).
thanks
xxx
2007-12-01 01:58:10 · 17 answers · asked by lovelifelivelife 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
SAHM means a stay at home mum, i dont have a job at the moment.
Both my husband and I decided to have 2 children close together, and we didnt mind weather they were girls or boys or one of each. And as i said in my question, i do not want to ttc right now.
Thanks to most people so far, very good answers.
xx
2007-12-01 02:24:17 · update #1
also, to the person to asked, if our third isnt a boy, do we try again, the answer is NO. Again, as i said in my question, we dont mind if we have another little girl, but it would be nice to have a boy.
2007-12-01 02:27:09 · update #2
Hi, we have a 3 year old son and a 22 month old daughter. When my daughter was bout a year old we decided to try for another an i fell pregnant but lost the baby 10 weeks into the pregnancy. I waited just 6 weeks before trying again and im now almost 16 weeks pregnant!! But thats what WE wanted. If you dont feel ready to have another baby then just wait till you feel the times right. An of course ud love your 3rd baby if it was another girl!! But of course ud love a boy as u already have 2 girls. My partner has set his hopes on me carrying a boy this time round but i dont want to burst his bubble by telling him i think its another girl!!! x
2007-12-01 03:53:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am pregnant with my third, 7 weeks pregnant. I have an 11 month old and a 2 1/2 year old. Both boys.
I had been plannig to wait 4 or so years after my second was born, but you can see how well that worked :)
My children will all be 19 1/2 mos apart. I don't really plan when to have children, I make my plans, but don't count on them. This time I felt the soulspresence around me before I got pregnant, and knew it was going to happen soon.
I don't find children to cost very much at all, depending on how you do it. We use cloth diapers and breastfeed so that cuts out the two largest expenses there. We stock up on clothes when we see them for a good price, and so we are good there as well. They don't start costing much IMO until they get older.
If you feel overwhelmed a majority of the time now, I would pinpoint what is overwhelming you. For me it is our clutter and the constant tornado that is our house. I plan to do a LOT of declutteing and organizing before this next baby is born.
Just know that everything happens at its perfect time. Unless you don't beliee that, then ignore tht part ;)
2007-12-01 02:30:47 · answer #2 · answered by Brie ; 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there is a right time we were all ways if it happens it happens we have three gorgeous kids the boy 7 girl 6 and the third another girl I think some times I wonder if she is from out of space but that is another story she is 3 we found that 2 wasn't enough for us we wanted a third so we just went with the flow we didn't wait till we were financially ready or you could be waiting for ever you just no when it is right for you well I thought so but a word of warning as much as I love my kids and I do completely the third one changes every thing you think it is hard work now with the third one it fills like you may as well have ten mine get on so well for kids but the arguing can really get to you believe me and they are good but really consider it before hand if you find it hard now differently wait a while longer
2007-12-01 02:29:10 · answer #3 · answered by frances c 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
I don't have three children but felt I could offer some advice.
Having a third baby is entirely your and your husband's choice. There is no right or wrong time to be trying for a third child.
However, I feel right now that you are feeling you already have your hands full with the two little ones you already have. I hold my hands up to you as being a mother is so much hard work!
Having two children under the age of 3 and then falling pregnnat and having a newborn would be hard as your little ones will not be in nursery just yet so you would have three at home to be looking after.
If it were me I would probably wait until my oldest child was in full time nursery or school and then prehaps try then.
It is entirely your choice though!
Good luck!
Lx
2007-12-01 02:07:36 · answer #4 · answered by SunshineApple 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I also have a 2 1/2 yr. old and a 1 yr. old. I was going to wait and have my 3rd one once my other 2 were in school (say kindergarten and k4). Then I could have some time alone w/ my last baby. But my husband and I look at each other and I get preggers. So, I'm having my 3rd baby next year. I'll have a 3 yr., 2 yr. and infant. Geeessshhhh!!!! Anyways, if given the chance to go back, definitely wait a couple more years.
2007-12-01 02:09:27 · answer #5 · answered by h_e_r_a_80 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have just had our 3rd 9 weeks ago, theres is 3 years between my first 2 and 4 years between the baby and our middle. So 7, 4 and 9 weeks, this is perfect for me, our little baby has just fit into our lifes so well and its not been hard at all, then in august my middle daughter will be at school aswell as my first daughter, so it will be just me and the baby which will be lovely too.
I have 3 girls and i must say i was really chuffed to get another girl wasnt bothered at the time, but now shes here, its just seems right to have our 3 girls.
xx
2007-12-01 09:07:27 · answer #6 · answered by hayles 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ahhh, well, i have two little girls aswell aged 4 and a half and 5 and a half. those two were really hard work in the beginning (still are really lol) as they were born so close together they are like twins. i am currently 29 weeks pregnant with our third baby and yes, it is a boy. i would advise you though to wait a few years at least untill your youngest starts school, just so you have some spare time to really enjoy your newborn, as i know having two kids so close together takes up A LOT of your time. me and my partner thought about having another when our girls were 2 and 3 but we are soglad we waited untill now as my two girls are now at school full time. try and add up the pros and cons before making a decision.
whatever you decide, good luck to you. xxx
2007-12-01 02:08:38 · answer #7 · answered by Kelly 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Having 3 kids is much more involved than raising even 2. With 2 children, the parents can still cover them man to man, but when you get to 3 or more, you have to go to a zone defense. Just remember that.
Seriously, be pragmatic about it. The more time you put between children, the more spread out your costs will be. It helps with the cash flow, and also your sanity. Trust me, you don't want 2 of them hitting puberty, or learning to drive, at the same time.
Also, we made a conscience effort to have at least one grade separation between kids as they went through school. The idea was to not hit any teacher with our children 2 years in a row. From experience, it's better that way for all involved.
My brother was one year behind me. He followed me through school, and every year his teachers immediately hated him. He could never figure out why. I didn't tell him it was because I had already poisoned the well for him.
Be patient about having another child, but in the meantime, don't hesitate to content yourself with practicing a lot, as practice makes perfect. I'm sure your husband won't complain.
2007-12-01 02:19:11 · answer #8 · answered by righteousjohnson 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
My husband and I have 4 little boys and when we decided to have children we deiced to have them close together. We deiced that we would have 4 and that would be it, but then came along our little surprise, I am due in Feb. with our 5th and finally child.
I think it all really depends on the person, when you feel ready as a couple then go for it and have another baby.
2007-12-01 10:31:12 · answer #9 · answered by Lovemykids 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do...we sang it like that then sang it lower back different than began with 10 and went backwards. We used boys rather of girls. One little, 2 little, 3 little Indians 4 little, 5 little, six little Indians Seven little, 8 little, 9 little Indians Ten little Indian boys. Ten little, 9 little, 8 little Indians Seven little, six little, 5 little Indians 4 little, 3 little, 2 little Indians One little Indian boy.
2016-09-30 09:12:12 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋