When my guy calls me at work, he has a tendency to ask me if I am angry with him - or indicates that I sound like he is bothering me. He never is. I look forward to and welcome all his calls - and have repeatedly told him that. No one has ever told me that I sounded like this before - I don't think I do. But I would I soften the conversation so he doesn't get this perception?
2007-12-01 00:15:27 · 11 answers · asked by Ms. Gump 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's early - my typing fingers aren't awake yet...
But how would I soften the conversation so he doesn't get this perception?
2007-12-01 00:17:41 · update #1
You're probably using your "business voice" and he's not used to hearing it. Having him call you during break is a better idea than than just calling "willy nilly" and catching you in business mode. explain that it's hard to talk like you want to when the rest of the co-workers are listening, they'll stop taking you seriously, if they hear you talk all gooey on the phone
2007-12-01 00:22:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
sounds like you have a work telephone voice that might be different than your real life voice. Maybe you are a little nervous to be getting personal call while at work as most employers don't like them and that nervousness shows up in your voice. Try having him call during your breaks or call him when timing is in your control
2007-12-01 08:19:58 · answer #2 · answered by R B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I get this alot too. Maybe the stress from work reads on your voice. Then again he could just have no self confidence, a low self esteem, and a bad case of paranoia. If thats the case it's not your fault at all. I suggest you determine witch of these it is and go from there.
2007-12-01 08:23:23 · answer #3 · answered by Kilo 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes, it's not the words you speak, but the way you say it or the tone you speak it. I have alot of people ask that sort of thing and 9 times out of 10 it's the tone of my voice.
2007-12-01 08:19:55 · answer #4 · answered by Ryu 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men are.. well men! (nothing sexist guys i swears it )
they hate the thought of u being upset with them, and if he is not standing right infront of you and cant see ru face and ur reaction when u speak with him then he can only go off what you say.. and its not that he doesnt trust you its just that.. believe it or not.. men are as insecure as women *woah* watch out... lol
so dont stress hun'
2007-12-01 08:19:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
this might sound funny, but i have a work voice, and to some one who is close to me, may think that i am in a bad mood, but i have to be stern and straight forward, its hard to turn off...esp when i am working maybe you do the same
2007-12-01 08:33:50 · answer #6 · answered by sympathy4theDEVIL 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are probably doing work while talking to him. pauses in conversation (because you are trying to WORK) make him feel second to your job.
he just has to get over himself and let you do your job.
2007-12-01 08:19:40 · answer #7 · answered by wilrycar 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Smile into the phone, he will hear it in your voice.
2007-12-01 08:19:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your guy is insecure with himself. Sleep with him, that will cure him.
2007-12-01 08:20:21 · answer #9 · answered by Michel 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just a feeling of the conscious mind...
2007-12-01 08:18:29 · answer #10 · answered by mayor r 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋