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Do women want a guy to be sexually assertive on a date? I mean do they want the man to take what he wants and go for it? Obviously he's attracted to you or you wouldnt be on the date in the first place! I used to believe looks werent important, biut couldnt bring myself to kiss a girl i didnt find attractive let alone anything else! It took me years to realise its not just whats on the inside that counts, after years of rejection and pain, ive now lost 100lbs in weight, it took me a year as ive been down the gym loads! Im a tall guy but girls used to call me a teddy, do women want sex with a teddy, i concluded NO! I was always a gentleman when out with a girl, offer to pay, hold doors, asking was she ok? could i kiss her? I now have a date with a hot 20yr old im 26! I asked my mates who've had many girlfriends, they say a woman acts like she wants you to respect her but if she's out with you and laughing she wants to get it on wiv you! Is this true? Ive been in love once, she hurt me!

Answer 1

Don't listen to your stupid mates.

You laugh with your mates, don't you? Does that mean you want to get it on with them? No..it means you're enjoying yourself and the company of the person you're with.

It depends on what you want. If you just want to get laid, go find a hooker and pay the cash. It'll be cheaper than the date, and everyone's expectations are set in advance.

If you want to see if there's any potential for something more with this woman...be the gentleman. If all you're looking for is sex, then tell her upfront and see how that works for you. If she says no thanks you haven't wasted her time or yours.

Now..read that last two sentences a couple times...do you really want to be like that?

Okay..you've been in love. You've been hurt. Almost everyone has. So, you dust yourself off and try again. You look at what went wrong...and see if you can do better.

So, the answer is "no". You try to "take what you want" from me, and you'll be singing soprano in the next opera season. It's mine to give, not yours to take.

Answer 2

Well, I personally wouldn't find being propositioned on a first date all that appealing. If you don't know her well enough yet to know her opinion on the subject, I'd be careful. Some can take it as an insult (the old she's easy, she's cheap, she puts out). It indicates to her that you are only interested in one thing and it isn't her mind. Unappealing, in my book.

On the other hand, if she wants you she'll let you know. It might just not be that night. Be patient.

Treat her with respect for her wishes and listen to what she says. She may invite you back to her place at the end of the evening if she feels the two of you have made a real connection.

Get used to the idea that women feel connected to other people by talking (usually about stuff that makes guys cringe), men tend to feel connected to someone by doing something together. Being on the same page helps.

Looks do matter, though in different ways for men and women. Confidence in a guy is very appealing, it shows he's secure enough in himself to be interested in another PERSON's ideas and feelings. Treat her like a walking vagina and you'll go nowhere fast.

Don't feel too bad about being a late bloomer. I'm 29 and my first time with a guy was less than a year ago. And no I'm not some weird religious type. It just took me that long to feel secure and comfortable in myself, and to find a guy I could be both friends and lovers with.

If you can communicate well with a person from the start, it'll get you through all the really embarassing stuff that happens when you get into a sexual relationship. If she's only 20, she may not have any more of a clue about relationships than you do, so it's easy to trip each other up with misunderstandings.

Simple rules to live by
- good communication makes for good sex. Bad (or non-existent) communication makes for bad sex. The kind where all you want to do is to take a shower, grab your pants and run.

- if you arn't sure, ask how she feels about...fill in the blank.

Women LOVE being asked about their feelings just as much as men hate it. If you actually listen, and apply what you learn you're more likely to get a second date.

As for the Mr. Teddy Bear look, many women find it very appealing. 'Cute' is apparently a four letter word in the minds of men, but it's meant as a compliment when women use it. To us it means security, cuddliness, safety, trustworthyness, and warmth.

That and the ability to listen will go a long way with women.

If reading doesn't bore you too much, there are a bunch of good books on how differently men and women communicate. Some days it might as well be two different languages. Try to find something co-written by a man and a woman, if they wrote a book together, they can't be too bad at communicating.

Answer 3

Well, I wouldn't say ALL women want to get it on when they laugh with you. They could just be having a good time, which is still a good sign =) Usually when I laugh around a guy I like it's because he's funny, which to me is extremely important. I used to think I liked nice guys who opened doors for me and all that jazz, but then realized it was just corny. I like guys who are funny, who can make me laugh, smile, etc. I LOVE guys like that (but then again I'm not speaking for every girl, just myself :) I love guys who are flirty with me, while being funny at the same time. It's really cute when they do this and is a huge turn on for me. So maybe if you just loosened up a bit, make her laugh and smile, flirt with her a little bit (not to the point where it's annoying, just enough to give her the hint that you like her and are attracted to her).

I hope this helped =)

Answer 4

Please be advised, no woman wants to be forced or coreced into something sexula or touched against her wlill. you may see this on porno or hear of it being a fantasy for some women, but its just that - fatnasy. i dont think any woman would ACTUALLY want this. i think the best thing you can do is get her consent, be courteous and respectufl, be a gentlemen and only go as far as shes comfortable. if not, not only will u be arrested but i gurattnee she will not want anything further to do with you.

Answer 5

Any man who "takes what he wants" should be castrated! If a man even thought about doing that to me, I would be the one doing the castrating!

If you let her know that you want it and she wants it too, then by all means, go for it. But if you take what you want from her and she doesn't want it, then I hope you end up in jail with Bubba as a cell mate cause then you'll know what she felt like!

Answer 6

if she is having a good time with you then you should make a move to kiss her. if she doesn't don't force it, she may just want more time to get to know you. and then she may want to kiss you on her own terms. if a guy is too forceful she may think he's just a jerk and drop him. assertive means taking a chance that she wants to kiss you back. too many guys think it means don't stop until you get what you want even if she's hitting you to get away.

Answer 7

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Answer 8

please don't think like that..u will find ur pair soon