I hope i don't sound like a pervert.. but i just turned 18 and moved into my boyfriends home. We go to bed in the morning so i see him in the daylight, i also cant get to sleep as quickly as he can. I stare at him for a long while and i find i just cant keep my hands off of him.
After a while i cant help but rub his naughty bits, is this a big problem i should stop doing?
I'd never do this while hes awake, because i'm really shy, but i find i can do it if hes not aware. He caught me once, and told me thats a odd way of waking up with me fondling his penis (oh was i embarrassed, but he didn't seem to be upset)
But it really turns me on with hearing him sigh and all that in his sleep. When we have sex, i'm never able to orgasm because i'm so tense, so i seem to be always horny, which makes me want to fondle him even more :(
Is this some form of sexual abuse/disorder?
2007-11-30 23:03:05 · 9 answers · asked by bishi4me 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It is not wrong if he does not have a problem with it. I suggest you talk to him about it, & get his approval. Not telling him is a violation of both his trust & his body. I'm sure almost all guys would find this more of a turn-on then anything else.
2007-11-30 23:13:45 · answer #1 · answered by insignificant_other 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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I hope i don't sound like a pervert.. but i just turned 18 and moved into my boyfriends home. We go to bed in the morning so i see him in the daylight, i also cant get to sleep as quickly as he can. I stare at him for a long while and i find i just cant keep my hands off of him.
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2015-08-06 10:12:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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Love is about forgiveness, or some believe this. Love is all about sacred boundaries and faithfulness; shattered in an instance. The real question is why did he cheat? Was it to be a thrill seeker? To step over a boundary to see if he could get away with it? Were his needs unfulfilled? Either way cheating is never acceptable. We all make mistakes, but he knew cheating was immoral. With this said, how do you know he'll never cheat on you again? Because he says he wont? Right, but that's implied once he takes you into his life; to protect you, honor you, and respect you. He knew it was wrong beforehand but did so anyways. While you were thinking of him and telling yourself you loved him, he was fondling with another woman. If he was truly upset with his mistake, he would have been scared. He would have been a man and approached you. Instead, he is a coward whom lied about the altercation and only admitted it after several hours of interrogation. What happens if this occurs again? With a stranger? You'll NEVER know because she'll never be able to tell you. You shouldn't have to babysit your boyfriend, especially since the male is past his teenage years. Yeah, he cried, but it doesn't make him sorry he did it, it makes him sorry he was caught. His actions of trying to remain secretive only supports this theory. You said he has never cheated before. Maybe he hasn't, but how do you truly know? Because he said so? He also said he didn't cheat on you. Do you know what the honeymoon stage is? This is a little off topic but I hope you understand the example. There are three steps to domestic abuse. The first step is tension build up, the second step is actually beating your spouse, and the third step is the honeymoon stage. This stage is when he apologizes because he truly is sorry and PROMISES he'll never do it again and change. He isn't lying, he actually believes he will change so he is dramatically convincing. However, the cycle will never be broken and as time continues, the first step has a lighter fuse and the second step has worsened beatings. The third phase -- The Honeymoon phase -- gets shorter and shorter until he stops apologizing and begins with the whole "you deserve it" scenario. Why am I saying this? Because this cycle can be converted into a cheating cycle. First step is a triggered mechanism. Something that makes them WANT to cheat, whether it be thrill seeking, low self-esteem, jealousy, revenge, etc. The second step is following these sexual impulses and actually cheating. The last step is the somewhat distorted version of the honey moon phase; they're sorry and will never do it again, but eventually they will. He cries cause he know what he might lose, he knows you're special and he knows you're somebody hundreds would die to have. With this said, it doesn't mean he might change and even if he does it could only be temporary. He might know what he has NOW because he might lose it, but what happens again in 3 years from now when he forgets like he did this time? It depends on your view of love and if you're truly going to be able to forgive him for his morally reprehensible actions. If you wish to forgive him, it is YOUR obligation to truly forgive him and move on as bringing up the past will only scar the relationship; will you fully be able to do this? I would say leave and find someone you don't have to worry about. Yes, we make mistakes, but that is never an excuse when it comes to love. If you truly love someone with all your heart you wouldn't wish to jeopardize that -- you'd do anything to keep it, protect it, and embellish it. Find out why he cheated and act accordingly. I wish you luck.
2016-03-29 10:00:16 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO, I think that is great and wish I could wake up every morning like that. My wife woke me up one time that way and know I always go to sleep hoping I wake up that way again the next morning, but has not happened again:(. keep it up and your boyfriend won't have a bad day I promise.
2007-11-30 23:12:21 · answer #4 · answered by wesleyseymour 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the not cumming is a disorder, maybe emotional, have u had any sexual abuse in the past? as for fondling, girl keep it up, we love that stuff. what guy wouldnt?
2007-11-30 23:07:13 · answer #5 · answered by kaiors23 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
sounds normal to me
2007-11-30 23:12:00 · answer #6 · answered by see you on mash 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find a way to stop being tense. . . and he doesnt mind so its okay
2007-11-30 23:09:46 · answer #7 · answered by Blondie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no i used to do that. i loved it when he used to do it to me b4 we got married and had a child...
2007-11-30 23:08:18 · answer #8 · answered by Sunshyne 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no. I wish I had a girlfriend who would do that!
2007-11-30 23:08:03 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 7⤊ 0⤋