....when I missed meeting him after work? It's 11-something at night now and I want to call this guy to let him know how I accidentally missed meeting up with him but I think it's a little late.
Would it hurt to leave a message on his voice mail tonight? I've sent a couple of e-mails his way with my phone number. I don't want to give him the impression that I ignored him. I normally don't call people this late.
For the record, I did go to the place we were supposed to meet up but I didn't see him. I checked my email when I got home from work to find that he had e-mailed me to ask if we were still on to meet up (I was at work and couldn't take a personal email so I couldn't respond).
Another note: I'm terribly shy about calling new people.
2007-11-30 18:13:21 · 13 answers · asked by chrstnwrtr 7 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
StopPanda: I waited so long because I'm very shy about calling new friends I've made.
I completely forgot about calling him until I checked my email and saw his number there.
So I shot him an email with my number as well.
2007-11-30 18:18:51 · update #1
if I were in this situation, I'd leave a voice mail.
I'd say:
"Hey, Sorry to call you this late/time of the hour, it's (the time of the hour),
just wanted to let you know.." and let him know that you went to the place, but didn't see him, and also let him know you couldn't respond to his e-mail because you were at work.
Don't be shy, it'll be OK
:)
2007-11-30 18:22:09 · answer #1 · answered by Nikki 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Simple rules - courtesy and consideration.
Open communication is so crucial.
Boy, do I dislike movies where opportunities are missed because someone did not say what he or she was thinking or feeling.
How many opportunities do we miss by not picking up a phone?
Actually, I've found that e-mail is MUCH more comfortable for those of us who fear rejection. Isn't that part of shyness?
My dad was never shy. He figured anyone who rejected him was missing out on him. LOL. I've not been that confidant, but I have learned that all someone can do is say no - and then I move on to someone else.
Plenty of people out there. It can be difficult for two shy people to meet when no one takes the small risk.
Since it is now the next morning the decision to call after 11PM is moot. Either you called or you didn't.
This is where open communication comes in.
You can explain why you did not call - you were being considerate. My guess is that you did not call him last night.
Always remember, there are many guys out there who are just as shy as you are.
2007-12-01 00:57:29 · answer #2 · answered by Spreedog 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT call anyone at 11pm. Maybe an SMS, but it's too late to meet, and he'll get the message tomorrow.
My friend KNOW not to call me after a certain hour in the evening unless it is a real emergency. I think 11pm is late for most people unless they expect your call.
Being shy, by the way, never excuses being rude. You were rude in waiting. If you wanted to be treated as an equal in the world, you need to get over some things, and deal with life, and not expect the double standard that used to apply to poor little shy girls, I'm assuming you are an adult woman?
2007-11-30 20:36:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
nope. You have already sent him an E-mail. He will see it in the morning and be happy you cared enough to let let him know you were there but seemed to miss him. If you call him now and then he sees it in his e-mail he's going to see you as so desperate to get a date you are not allowed to make a mistake. EEEK lol you don't want that!
Let him read it in the morning.It might even make you a little more mysterious :) I bet he calls. Men like the chase.
Have fun!!!!!
2007-11-30 18:30:18 · answer #4 · answered by to tell ya the truth........... 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As you have already emailed him, I would not worry about calling, especially as it it fairly late.
Most people would not appreciate a call at 11 pm if they work the next day.
You could give him a call in the morning and say 'It looks like we got our wires crossed last night', and let the conversation go from here.
You might even say 'would you like to try again one night, here is my work email'.
But it's likely he'll say it first :-)
Best wishes :-)
2007-11-30 18:23:50 · answer #5 · answered by thing55000 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Send him a text message saying sorry your missed him after work and lets try to meet up another time. Good luck!
2007-11-30 18:18:20 · answer #6 · answered by RyannMay 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If it's a cell phone, send him a text message if you can. The email was a good move since it shows that you aren't ignoring him. Good luck. Oh - also explain that you aren't calling since it's so late but he's more than welcome to call you back.
2007-11-30 18:16:56 · answer #7 · answered by ♪ ♥ ♪ ♥ 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Since you have already emailed him I wouldn't worry about calling him, he'll get the message.
2007-11-30 18:16:51 · answer #8 · answered by nomorequestionsplz 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It might be a little late.. I would wait until the morning and call then.
2007-11-30 18:16:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, if U honestly couldn't make it. He deserves a call. If U don't want to meet him, don't waste his time. A few words would be appreciated more than none at all.
"Honesty is the best policy" :)
2007-11-30 18:18:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋