Would you give your loved one a period away from you to sort out their own personal issues?

Question

Let's say you have been dating this person for a year and a half and then this person tells you that they are facing a personal crisis and ask for some time away from you to solve those issues by themselves. Whether they will come back or not, they can't commit. But the reason is that - only when they get a perspective of their own life and where they are and where they are going, they can't make a commitment. And they make no demands on you too. And they will upkeep whatever (monetary, house mortgage payments, children expenses, house rent, whatever) commitments they make with you for that period.

Let me hear your views on whether you will be willing to give that space. From dating singles, marrieds, males, females, male in the pair asking for the space or being given the request, or the female in the pair asking for the space or being given the request. All perspectives welcome!

They make no demands on you as in they allow you to do whatever you want, includes dating other people.

Answer 1

I think I would because it doesn't sound like they have left me much of a choice in the matter. Sometimes people do need to be alone though to focus their thoughts and really figure out what is going on in their lives. I can relate to that too. It depends on how much faith I have in the person. If they are worth the wait to see, I would be nothing but supportive. If I thought their hiatus wouldn't have a favorable outcome for me, I would tell them to go, better themselves, but when they came back I might not be there waiting. I hope that helps!!

Answer 2

I think that anyone who asks for space after a year and a half of dating is going off to have an affair or seek another persons company. Both myself and my guy think this is the case. We would never ask for space after only being with one another for a year and a half and we have been together for 7 years. It seems like they are avoiding responsibility of being in a relationship and bailing out on you and your own needs. We both think it is extremely selfish to do that to anyone, no matter what the reasons are. A real person that you love and loves you should be closer not far away! When a person says they can not commit and they do not expect you to...they are having an affair and running away from the relationship like a coward. It's just that you do not want to see that because you do not want to believe it.

Answer 3

Well Chickie baby--time away is time away--the reasons are all the same--they are tired of each other--and the relationship is NOT going anywhere----lifes little and big problems are best handled together when two people are ina relationship--you guys aren't--so let this person go and YOU start looking for another to hang with--this one won't be back---and you better not sit around like a dope thinking this will only be temporary---the whole story is the same--only the players are different--do not be a moron--MOVE ON and let this person" find" themselves--what they want to "find" themselves is another date. Don't be a dope--forget about it and move on--that's life.

Answer 4

I'm married and I would wonder what's up. Part of having a relationship is being there to support one another through difficult times; not taking space away when they feel they're having a hard time.

My first thought would be that they're having an affair.

Answer 5

Yes as long as you trust they'll keep their word on the help!
And you know you may get fresh perspective too take this time to get to know your self too..its a win win situation . My husband left me to
get his head straight and I now realize what I want and need and I deserve better than he is so I am much happier now without him!

Answer 6

It seems selfish becuase they are asking you'relife to be on hold for them but they are willing to honor their obligations so if the amount of time is reasonable then sure

Answer 7

yes

Answer 8

yes