Need to know how to stop fixating and obsessing about things that aren't all that important.?

Question

I have lately been taking something minor and having uncontrollable thoughts that sometimes last all day for a period of months. I get angry and ruminate on a petty issue and I can't stop thinking about it. I get myself worked up over something that's not that big of a deal and I'm driving myself nuts. Has anyone else had this problem and dealt with it without using prescription drugs? Any tips on not letting things bother me so much. Any ideas how to stop negetive thoughts from repeating in my mind over and over? Thank you for any help you may have. Just to clarify, I take a relatively minor issue and blow it up in my mind, obsess about it, get angry and stew for a long time. btw I don't bring this up with other people more than once so that nobody knows I'm doing this.

Answer 1

Ok it's alright I know how you feel I used to do the same thing that you did. Tiny little things would get me worked up for days. I would stay mad or upset for so long i would forget what the problem was eventually. Then i picked up a guitar, everytime i feel bad i put every thought oout of my head and pick up my guitar. It's doesn't have to be an instrument it can be anything artistic anything to take your mind off of what you are dealing with. I also took up belly dancing that has helped me alot listen to some really nice old David Bowie and dance nothing feels better than dancing to glam rock! That's how i dealt with it. But if you need more support email me ok?? I know how you are feeling.

Answer 2

Fixating

Answer 3

I was acting the same way, uncontrollable anger over minor things, I'd lose my mind, kick things, my dryer still has a dent in it from me kicking the **it out of it. I was in the middle of losing my mom to cancer, seeing her deteriorate and waste away before my eyes, suffering and I couldn't help her. Are you going through any kind of stress?? The only way I was able to calm down and make my mind quiet was a prescription, Wellbutrin. It's non narcotic, doesn't make you not want to have sex, only side effect was a little dry mouth. It didn't sedate me, and it didn't take away my anger, but it did help me quiet the constant noise in my mind, and when I did get angry, I wasn't out of control or kicking things. I still got mad, just not mind blowing anger, and I was able to not dwell on what made me angry and get into a frenzy over it all over again. Don't be afraid to go to the doctor and tell them about how your anger is overboard, and you can't quiet your mind, ask about Wellbutrin, it really helped me. My mom has been gone for 5 years now, and I no longer take Wellbutrin, and I feel good. Wellbutrin helped me through all that, and maybe it could do the same for you. Tell the Dr you want something to help calm your mind, but non-narcotic. Hope you feel better soon.

Answer 4

Wow! Great question.
Yeah, my mind loves to mess with me too. It HAS to have something to chew on even something minor.
It would help you to talk to a friend or therapist about whatever is bothering you.
Learn some good self-talk also.
A therapist could help you with this.
A GREAT book on this subject is called
FEELING GOOD THE NEW MOOD THERAPY.
You might also benefit from some fitness.
Here are some good ideas:
1. Do something that gets your heart rate up a bit like, walking, running, biking, and swimming.
2. Eat Whole, Organic foods like: Broccoli, Cabbage, Organic Brown Rice, Beans, Spinach, Sweet Potato, Apples, and other fruits and vegetables in their Natural State.
3. Avoid eating corn, white bread, white rice, white potatoes, candy, sodas, chips, and anything else that you already know you shouldn’t be eating.
4. Drink clean water as your beverage of choice. Avoid Fruit drinks and fruit juices (unless YOU juice them yourself)
5. Stop smoking, drinking beer & wine, and drinking coffee.
6. Get 8 hours of sleep each night.
7. Hang out with people who want to be healthy.
8. Avoid anything with High Fructose Corn Syrup.

Tone up the muscles:

1. Join a gym and get a trainer.
2. If you’re short on cash, start a light stretching & yoga regimen.
3. Do push-ups, and light dumbbell curls for the upper body.
4. As I said above, walk, run, swim, and or bike
5. Take an aerobics class, a yoga class, or some other fitness class.
6. Join the local YMCA.
7. Buy or borrow this book by Bill Pearl called GETTING STRONGER.
In the book, he describes everything you need for a great fitness plan.
8. Compare your fitness scores to other people by clicking on the President’s Challenge Brochure link here: http://www.presidentschallenge.org/misc/downloads.aspx


Mental Health:

1. Get a friend to talk to each day about your feelings.
2. If you have some money or insurance, get a counselor to talk to.
3. Learn how to meditate.
4. Join a support group for the issue you’re dealing with.
5. Ask your Higher Self (or God) for guidance.
6. Start keeping a diary or journal about your feelings & thoughts.
7. Write a ‘gratitude’ list every night.
8. Do something that makes you happy each day like: listen to your favorite music, draw, paint, write, or anything creative.
9. Do something for someone else who needs help.
10. If the above suggestions don't improve your mental health, talk with your therapist about the possibility of taking some medication.

Take care of yourself

Yam King

Answer 5

stop fixating obsessing important

Answer 6

What I have learned to do for myself --
I take the issue that concerns me and place it into this question.

"What difference will __________ make 5 years from today?"