I am like the pretty cheerleader girl at school and I love being me but I have one problem I am way too shy I like don't even talk. Its kind of weird. My friends are like the most popular girls in school. But if I didn't have them I would probably have barely any friends. What I need help on is like how do I meet people and start a confersation. Because I just don't say anything and then they don't know me. So do I say hi or ask a qeustion? What do you do? I need help<3
2007-11-30 16:27:12 · 23 answers · asked by hollister 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sweetheart, you have no problem meeting people, if you are surrounded by someone who you feel the need to communicate with you will, coming to us to ask your question allowed me to see you have no problem communicating, the time will come when you meet your peers where you will be open and free versed with no problem, right now maybe you need only to adsorb information to set forth your abilities to talk with others you're going to be great.
2007-11-30 16:40:04 · answer #1 · answered by deneansmith@att.net 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your friends must like that quality about your. Otherwise they wouldn't be your friends. However, I hear what you're saying.
Hi or ask a question? Do both. Or take you choice. It's a matter of getting there attention. For instance, have you ever said hi to the person next to your locker who isn't one of your friends from the group? Doesn't matter if it's a guy. Just say, "I'm really going to have to clean this locker out sometime before I die." Even if there is no response, say "see you later" when you're ready to move to next class. Or HI is OK too. It's just a way to get there attention.
Since you hang with populor girls, other kids at school will know who you are. When in the bathroom just say HI. If no responce, say HI again the next time in the bathroom or where ever. Just keep it up, eventually someone will break down and say HI and most likely other will chime in.
Good luck, you can do it. Just say HI to everyone.
2007-12-01 01:00:08 · answer #2 · answered by Eagles Fly 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem! What I learned is to fake it till you make it. I always felt awkward having small talk and trying to get to know people, so I just started to pretend I had all this confidence. Just approach someone with a "hi, Im _____,How are you?" and smile. That will make you seem approachable. An easy way to keep a conversation going is to not give or allow one word answers ask a question they have to explain. This will help to break the ice. If they're someone youve never met before, ask what city they came from, what school, etc. If its just a kid at school you met, ask if they are in any sports, clubs, w/e.And compliment them on something specific, not like "omg i <3 your shirt" thats phony. say something that creates a common interest like "those flats are great, where did you get them? I have been looking for a pair like that!" dont be afraid of them, they could be your next bff!
2007-12-01 00:40:33 · answer #3 · answered by Aryn 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You will gain confidence as you get older. Find some activities that you are really good at- this will give you some confidence. Meet new people and gain new experiences. Push yourself out of your comfort zone- a little bit- do things that scare you a little like being in charge of something, public speaking, or simply approaching someone you don't know and introducing yourself.
Sometimes you have to pretend to be confident and outgoing in order to become confident and outgoing.
Take it from me- I know from experience! I was very quiet and shy, and I still can be sometimes, but for the most part I am very confident and talkative.
2007-12-01 00:31:19 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am kind of like you. But I'm not a cheerleader. It feels kinda weird to suddenly say hi to someone in the middle of the school year, like the last day you were shy, and the next day you suddenly become a person saying ''hi''. Just try to get closer to your friend and follow them and meet new friends. Or if you wan to do it your own way.
2007-12-01 00:31:54 · answer #5 · answered by KnOcK KNoCk 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow, im JUST like you
but im defz not a cheerleader,
and i was at a school hanign gout with all those ppopular girls,
and i always wondered how i managed to stay witht hem cause i was so quiet unlike them!
but now im at a new school
and my quietness has kicked in.
im slowly learning how to make friends on my own and gain confidence,
cause otherwise im gonna be alone.
and i pretty much just lik to be around the popular people
its so muchfun
(im not trying to be stereo, its just the way i am..a nd im not trying to be shallow, theyre just really fun people all the time)
whenever I talk to them i get really nervous, and dont know what to say or my voice goes weird hahah its so embarrassssing.......
anyway best of luck hun â¥
2007-12-01 00:37:52 · answer #6 · answered by autumn x 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
first of all, don't worry. I have the same problem too!
there really isn't a way to get over quiet/shyness except to do THAT thing... like talking to people and stuff.
The more you talk, the less shy you will become.
get to know people, take a few chances of making a fool of yourself.
your life is sort of what you want it to be. you can be the shy person that doesn't talk to anyone, or you can just be brave and do it (with God's strength of course).
go ahead and talk to people. it won't hurt yah none!
if you see somebody you don't know, go up to them and say hi and shake their hand or something!
you won't know anybody if you don't talk.
hope you figure it out.
toodles
2007-12-01 00:37:27 · answer #7 · answered by matthew q 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
wow thats kinda weird, your a quiet cheerleader..
but when you talk to people don't try not to act shy, because that makes conversation worse. you can talk about someones day, school, sports, shopping, basically anything depending on the person.
dont be shy tho, most ppl dont like it when girls are shy
2007-12-01 00:33:35 · answer #8 · answered by mel 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well when your friends are the "popular girls" you need little to no social skills, so it's no wonder. I doubt it's your fault then dear, just keep in mind you can talk to whoever the hell you want. You don't only have to talk to dumb jocks and meatheads as is the cheerleader stereotype, you can also talk with moderately intelligent people, musicians, nice guys who won't screw you over etc.
2007-12-01 00:31:24 · answer #9 · answered by pieninja 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you start practicing? Communication is a skill. Yeah, you just go ahead and start chatting like what you did here. Start talking about your interest and ask about what their interests. You don't have to do all the talking but at least make your presence felt like smile, nod, give off a good vibe. Open up yourself and just be yourself like how you are without any people around.
2007-12-01 00:39:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋