Im pregnant, and I couldnt be more happy!! Im only 2 months, but I already feel I love my baby more than life! - I have some friends who have baby and are young as well, but they tell me its not too bad, and they seem to be doing great, but my mom says my life is over and it was the worst thing that could happen to me ... Those of you who have babies ... How bad is it really??? Please be honest, I just want to know if its like my friends say it is, or if its how my mom says its going to be.
2007-11-30 15:59:46 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
your mum sounds horrible sure it'll be a huge change for you but to say its the worst thing ever i could think of alot more horrible stuff to happen than have a baby. im 21 and a mother of a 2 yr old its the best thing watching my child learn and come to me for comfors its wonderful. best of luck
2007-11-30 16:04:43 · answer #1 · answered by Amy 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I got pregnant with my first child at 18, and my second at 19. Honestly, if you are already happy and excited to be having a baby, then life won't probably be so hard for you. It all depends on the lifestyle you lived before you became pregnant. If you were the partying type, you will have to realize those days are gone. It is hard in the beginning, but if you can have help from friends and family, then living with a newborn won't be so tiring. Believe me, you will lose a lot of sleep the first few months, you may feel like the baby doesn't like you because he/she won't stop crying. You may feel overwhelmed. You will probably have so much happiness and love at the same time you won't ever want to let your baby out of your sight... Your friends are right, its not bad at all. Your mother is just worried about your future, as well as the baby's. Give her time, she may come around once she sees that your life is not ruined. It is just a new beginning to an unplanned future that she may have seen/wanted for you... Congratualtions! And don't let anyone change your mind and tell you having a baby is the worst thing ever. Having two children has made my life more enjoyable, I wouldn't give up any of those sleepless nights for anything.
2007-11-30 16:09:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't see a difference on being a mom at 20 or 30 or 40... (except for probably you'd be more financially stable or things along that line). On the plus side, you're young - you still have tons of energy. At least more than those who become moms at 40 or 50. I have nothing against older moms though. I just see being young has its advantages that people might have undermine because young = lack of experience = shouldn't have babies.
I had mine at 22 - it was exhausting but well, the payoff is you got to see your child grow and it was a great reward. I don't see why having a baby is the worst thing that could happen to someone - no matter how bad the situation is. A baby is a blessing because, well, you're taking care of a new life.
2007-11-30 18:58:37 · answer #3 · answered by meetha 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Natalia, I think you're gonna be just fine. I am 27, but I was pregnant at 19, delivered my son 2 months after my 20th b-day.
Don't get me wrong, you are in for a struggle, especially if you are a single parent. There are going to be days where you may want to pull your hair out or scream at the top of your lungs, but there will also be days where no one can console your baby other than you, or their little face lights up when you walk in the room. Those are the days that make it all worthwhile.
Having a child at a young age forces you to grow up. You will have to realize that your life is no longer just about you, you will soon have someone who depends on you for EVERYTHING!!!!
Your life and the plans you had for yourself may be put on hold, delayed for a while, but your life is in NO WAY over. Actually, your real life is just about to begin. When people tell you that you won't be able to make it, use what they say to push you further towards your goals. Continue your education, even if you can only fit in one class at a time. Do the best you can, despite what others say.
After my son was born (which just happened to be during finals week) I realized that I was going to have to stop going to school. At 27, I have just recently finished. I am a little sad that it had to take me this long, but the point is that I finished.
After you have a child, you will find a strength in yourself that you never knew you had. Just go with the flow, do the absolute best that you can....but most importantly (it took me a while to learn this) DO NOT BE AFRAID OR ASHAMED TO ASK FOR HELP!!!!!!! I hope this made you feel a little better.....
2007-11-30 17:15:32 · answer #4 · answered by Cookie 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your Mom is probably either scared herself, or its because she knows how hard it is to raise children. You know what, my cousin got pregnant at 19. Her Mom reacted the same. And it was only because her Mom got pregnant young and had a rough time. Give your Mom some time, she will come around. Your life is not over, but she may mean that your life isnt about you anymore. Its all about your child now. Everything you do from now on will be for and about that child. I do have to say though, you have no more freedom. She knows what its like to raise children, its not easy. She may be a tough Mother who is preparing you for the worst.She may feel you werent ready. But give her some time, its probably hard for her to see HER baby having a baby. By all means, being a Mother is the HARDEST job in the world, but the best job you can ever imagine. Its not easy raising a child. I was 26 when I got pregnant, and I had no clue what taking care of your child was really about. Nobody really knows until you see that child for the first time. The first time you lay your eyes on that child its amazing, and overwhelming sometimes. Overwhelming because, you have a child that totally DEPENDS on you for EVERYTHING. Its very hard, as a Mother, everything you falls into place, and you have to take one day at a time. Having my son was the best thing that ever happend to me. And I promise you the moment you lay eyes on that child, you will change as a person, and you'll life will change for the good. GOOD LUCK AND CONGRATS!!! Email me of you need any advice.
2007-11-30 16:49:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Parents always want the best for their kids as you will learn very soon. Your mom obviously didn't picture this for you so in her eyes, it could be the worst thing ever. I can pretty much guarentee that when she sees her granchild and how happy you are, he opinion will change. Also, if she had you at a young age, she knows how hard it can be.
Being a parent is very hard, at times, but also VERY rewarding, always! Your life isn't over, but it will change very much. I had my first baby at 22, got pregnant at 21. I was in a very wild stage of my life and truly believe my son saved my life. So, my baby was the best thing that could have happened to me. He is now 3 and the light of my life, as well as his little brother, who just turned 1. Everyone has a different opinion, but if you are happy, that's all that matters. That in itself makes you a good mom already. Congratulations!
2007-11-30 16:27:34 · answer #6 · answered by arachelle008 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm 22 and we have a 3.5 year old son and are 27wks pregnant with our daughter.
I don't think it's any harder at 20 than it is at any other time, but being a parent *IS* hard. You have to commit to unselfishly serving the needs of someone else for the next 18 years...someone who will fight you the whole way, even when you're doing what's best for them. Someone who will not truely appreciate you until they have children of their own. That in itself is hard, and that's not even mentioning the day-to-day ups and downs of parenting.
However, if you are at the right place in your life and in your head, parenting definately has it's rewards too. I love being a mommy-especially when our son has his cuddly moments, or when he learns something new and get's that proud look on his face, or whenever he laughs-there is nothing better than your child's laughter!
I also like being a young mommy because I know that by the time I turn 40 I am completely done raising kids and can enjoy my time alone with my husband a LOT more than I would now because we'll have more money when we're older to go out and do things.
It's also nice being a young parent because my parents were young parents too and so my parents (barring some horrible accident, God forbid) will be around to watch ME have grandchildren....nothing is cooler than that!
Like everything else in life, being a parent has pros and cons, but if you are ready there's nothing else like it....I wouldn't trade it for the world!
2007-11-30 16:22:48 · answer #7 · answered by lovelymrsm 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Well I am 22 and am 37 weeks pregnant. I too already love her and have not yet seen or held her. I am married and have graduated college and at one time I felt like I was not going to be able to do the things I wanted to do in life. Now I know it is not true, I will just have 1 more person to go through it with me! Good luck! You are carrying a blessing!
2007-11-30 16:37:56 · answer #8 · answered by brooke 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you are 20 yrs old...if it happened to me at 20 I would have been very happy. It happened to me at 23 and I was happy. Mine ended in a D&C however. (ectopic) My biggest happiness in life is going to come when I have a child of my own and I am ready, or even If I'm not..I'm gonna make it work. For your mom to say life is over... it's so far from over!! My sis had a baby at 19! I took her to Reno for her 21st without baby and we had a fun..lil gambling lil drinkin so what. You arrange life around your priorities...baby comes first. It angers me when people say your life is over...it's not like you are gonna die tomorrow. We all make do with the cards we are dealt with, some way or another.
2007-11-30 23:05:26 · answer #9 · answered by Jen22 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
people can make it sound awful. I had a baby at 19 and I hate how people try to scare you from parenting. Its cuz they didn't have an easy time...I love my babies..i have 2...at 24..I love my babies and they are a blessing..why? because I wanted them, and I will do anything for them. I don't mind that I have no help. Its a real treasure to have my babies look up to me and one day think how wonderful their mom was. There are times that was REALLY hard and tested my patience, but its only a speck in a life time.
2007-11-30 16:06:21 · answer #10 · answered by Laurellamags 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Its not as bad as you think it might be!!! The worst part for me is the middle of the night feedings! But that only lasts a couple of months!!! Just think of it this way, every time you want/need to go somewhere, you will have a little sidekick with you!!!
My daughter changes my life, and I also like to think she saved my life too!!! She is the best thing that has ever happened to me, and would never change her for the world!!!
I hope this helps!!!
2007-11-30 16:48:49 · answer #11 · answered by ஐ♥Kaylee's mom♥ஐ 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋