I moved in with a coworker last July (I know, mistake number one lol). She is 52, divorced, has a gambling problem and overall not a very healthy person (mistake number two). I am 23 and in college. It has been chilly here - about 45 and rainy. I turned on the heat to 64. When we were at work today she asked me to turn it to 60 when I leave the house. Well, I forgot this afternoon and left it on 65 for a few hours while I was in class. When I got home from class there was a note on the kitchen table that said "The heat was on 65. If there is going to be a problem, then you need to move out." I don't think it's that big of deal. 65 degrees is not outrageous. Am I being unreasonable?
2007-11-30 14:20:42 · 17 answers · asked by earwaxyness 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
We pay all bills half and half.
2007-11-30 14:28:12 · update #1
It's not her house. We rent. She pays half the rent. I pay the other half. She has lived here longer than I have, but we both pay half the rent.
2007-11-30 14:45:40 · update #2
It depends, mostly on who pays the heating bills. Personally, I'd look for another place, it doesn't sound like you two are compatable.
2007-11-30 14:26:28 · answer #1 · answered by Pirate AM™ 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Even though you pay the bills half and half, she may feel that by leaving the heat on a little higher, you are forcing her to pay extra.
Or she may, like me, be going through some hormonal changes that mean she feels the heat more than other people!
If you feel you would like to stay in your current accommodation, ask her to discuss the heating and find out whether it is cost or comfort which is behind her request. If it is cost, you could offer to pay a little extra in order to have the increased level of comfort you require.
If she is uncomfortable with a higher heat, perhaps you could consider wearing a jumper or light coat at home, and having a separate heater for your own room, so that you can both relax?
If either of these things sounds like too much trouble, moving in with someone more compatible probably really is your best option.
Cheers :-)
2007-11-30 22:32:04 · answer #2 · answered by thing55000 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Possibly her money is very tight and she hates to spend any more than absolutely necessary. If you feel the heat needs to be set 10% higher than what she feels is appropriate, then I suggest you offer to pay 55% of the utility bill while she pays 45%. This would mean that you are paying the extra 10% to feel comfortable. This arrangement might make you both happy. Personally, I set my heat at 68 -70 degrees in the winter. Staying warm, might keep you from getting sick and paying a doctor or missing work or school because of illness.
2007-11-30 22:52:20 · answer #3 · answered by MICHAEL P 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It was an accident, I have seen alot of other answers saying it is her house . I disagree, it is your house too. and if she is going to make such a big deal about the bills ask for the last 2months of bills and pay the difference.then she cant say any thing. oh yeah, remind her she is your room mate not your mother! I would save that note. just in case you do leave,she sounds like the type to sue you over the rent that she cant pay and how you left her high and dry. you know judge Judy crap!!!
2007-11-30 23:14:11 · answer #4 · answered by Kelly S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL!!!!!!!!! That's hilarious!! Does she feed you kitty litter in the jello? Wow 60? Okie I thought 65 was cold but 60?!
Yeah you are, it's her house and if she wants you to be miserable and cold she can do that *whoaa flashbacks to childhood of dad taking the key to the thermostat to work!* If you like freezing all winter then by all means apologize and stay. If not, then find a new place. LOL Good luck!
2007-11-30 22:40:04 · answer #5 · answered by doodlesfl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is her house, her rules....and a 5 degree difference in temperature can make a difference in the energy bill. She obviously is careful, watching expenses and trying to keep utility bills under control....a very mature and reasonable thing to do.
You, on the other hand, don't give a crapola what she thinks.
Move out....she doesn't need you there running up more bills. You are being a leech.
2007-11-30 22:37:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, it was an accident. If that was the only mistake/problem that you had, I think it is quite unreasonable for her to give an ultimatum that you should move out.
There are other ways to solve that problem.
I suggest finding a more compatible roommate.
2007-11-30 22:30:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's not unreasonable if you lived alone. But because you are sharing the bills yes. Maybe she can't afford an outrageous heating bill.
2007-11-30 22:54:07 · answer #8 · answered by mikk 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Id move out you dont need that kind of room mate...or buy your self some sweaters and gloves and wear them aroudn the house
2007-11-30 22:40:21 · answer #9 · answered by Princess Consuela B. Hammock 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No admit that it was an accident, and make sure that it doesn't happen again. Start looking for your own place, or another roommate to move in with. Don't tell her of your search, as she might force you to move before you are ready.
2007-11-30 22:25:32 · answer #10 · answered by Beau R 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋