Question for christians?

Question

Hi there, As a christian you are supposed to love your neighbour. I would like to be a christian, and have generally more love for people but People are so hard to love, They just seem to want something out of you or from you, How do you love other people or do you not? I am quite hard on people, this enables me to find out who is false and is also a way of protecting myself against people that just don't give a **** about you. Thanks.

Answer 1

It is hard to love people who aren't loveable, and as a lifelong Christian I find it hard and sometimes impossible to do. I know what you mean, but showing love to someone can also mean respecting them, their views, opinions and God given free will, listen to them when they have something to say. Christians do not have all the answers, and in my experiences there are as many good people who are not Christians as their are Christians.
None the less, Christian means follower of Christ, so a good way to learn how to be Christian would be to read the teachings of Christ himself in the New Testament. Jesus, whether you believe him to be a fictional character, prophet or the son of God himself is certianly an example to follow by. Trying hardest to live a life as his would bring joy and peace to those around you, he was loving and non-judgemental to say the least.

Answer 2

what a good question.

You are correct as christians we are supposed to see everyone in equal value and value everyone's life.

Yes some people are harder to love and understand than others, especially selfish people or overzealous people, judging people are also hard to accept, but it is ok to say that you try not to judge anyone, this is not easy because it is human nature to find fault in things.

You don't explain how you are hard on people, maybe you are not that hard you just won't let yourself be manipulated which is ok, because this shows a strong understanding or the lack of naivety in you. This is not a bad thing if used well, there is nothing wrong in protecting yourself as long as it is not at the expense of another.

People's actions usually tell you how they feel about you, you may not like someone but also at the same time would never think of wishing that person harm, love in this sense is for human kind, love people enough not to harm them and have a sense of wanting to give a hand and help out a neighbor or friend in need.

Everyone has good and bad charactaristics or behaviors, some irritate you more than others, doesn't make them bad. But if you find out someone lied you are not going to be as trusting towards that person right, so there is nothing wrong with getting to know what type of person you are dealing with, and don't have anything to do with the ones you know are not worth your time. Peace.

Answer 3

Yes, I know where you are coming from. I have been there also. I have found out that while I hate most peoples thoughts and actions, I do not hate the person. It is all just wrong thinking and I have had my share of that, and I know how I view things now from being a little renewed in my thought life. So I found you can love everybody but it does not say you are to love their thoughts or actions.
Take care and may God bless you spiritually.

Answer 4

Friend you are suppose to Love your neighbor regardless (not their ways and their evil doing) but you get the picture . Rom 12:20 says if your enemy is hungry, feed him, if he is thirsty, give him something to drink, for by doing this you will heap fiery coals upon his head. 21 Do not let yourself be conquered by evil, but keep conquering the evil with good. Now it doesnt say to let anyone take advantage of you.

Remember the model prayer Matt 6:14 For if you forgive men their trespasses, YOUR heavenly Father will also forgive YOU. 15. whereas if YOU do not forgive men their trespasses, neither will YOUR Father forgive your trespasses.
Yes it is hard but if we look at the good in people instead of the faults & bad just as God does us , then that will make it alot easier, sometimes people just have a bad day, is why they're so mean or we may not be in their shoes as to whats going on in their life. No they dont need to take it out on us but we do need to try to be a little more understanding. Just continue to love & let God figure out whose false & whose not. If you genuinely show an individual you care for them sooner or later they will come around, remember conquer evil with good. It works!

Answer 5

A very hard thing. I know. I deal with it too. I can love my neighbor but it doesn't mean I'm going down the tubes with them or sleeping with them, or whatever. I can only wrap myself in them to a certain degree. I have just finally learned what that degree is... I am also very hard on people. I just don't like them. For the most part, people suck. I always try to keep an open heart. My mind will do what it does, but my heart is the referee.

Answer 6

Yes - as a Christian, you must love your neighbor. It is very difficult, but I have developed a way of loving them no matter what.

The Bible says that only God can judge, and I take this seriously. I personally do not know what other people are experiencing because I am not them; I am me. Therefore, we do not know if they are going through something troubling in their lives, or in their minds, etc.

When someone is extremely mean to me, I simply think to myself, "You don't know what is occuring in their lives, so in order to make them feel better (If they are having trouble), you must show respect, kindness and love (Basically, don't judge)."

It's true when you think about it: Bullies are usually mean because they experience problems at home. So, by not being judgmental, you are probably giving them less of a hassle, which would probably cause them to deal with their situations a little better.

Answer 7

Dear Friend,

Being a Christian is not about religion, behavior, attitude, etc. It is a "personal" relationship...first, with the living person of Jesus Christ.

When a person truly repents and asks Jesus into their heart (God examines the heart and knows if your sincere or not), then He gives us His Spirit...the Holy Spirit. He is our spiritual Teacher. In the natural, we cannot love like Jesus. We are selfish, self-centered humans. But with Christ, nothing is impossible.

Jesus wants us to come as we are. It is the Holy Spirit whom changes our attitudes towards one another. He gives us the desire in our hearts to be "like" Christ. It is called "sanctification"...a changing process until the day we're in glory. And yes, we can love unlovable people. What reward is there for loving people who are "easy" to love. Our reward will be for the "unconditional" love we demonstrate to difficult people, as Jesus did. His love is called, agape love. Unconditional...meaning...He loves us even when we were/are ...unlovable.

In His service,

lostnsavd...

Answer 8

First I think you have to define love. For me love is accepting someone with all their faults. Loving someone is wanting the best for them without forcing what is best on them. It is letting them make mistakes and being there when they are picking up the pieces not supporting them in making their mistakes. So how does that translate into the everyday person you meet on the street. The second we lay eyes on someone we are making assumptions about who they are where they come from and how they should act. We have to realize that everyone is a sinner and everyone is going to sin. In order to love everyone we have to put aside judgement and embrace who they are. We do not have to condone their actions but realize it is not our place to pass judgement especially if it is a non-believer living in sin. The biggest problem among christians is they are shocked when sinners actually sin. So off my tangent and back to your question. Ultimately WE cannot love everyone around us because of our sinful nature we will continue to judge others and make our own mistakes. But by growing closer and closer to Jesus we are filled with his love til we are overflowing and his love comes pouring out of us onto everyone around us. It is only through Jesus that we can truly love those around us.
1 Corinthians 13
4Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
8Love never fails.

Answer 9

You said that you WANT to be a Christian. That might mean that you are not a Christian. If you are not a Christian, then you need to become one if you want to become one.

The only way to really become a Christian, that is; being a Christian the right way, is to believe in the Lord Jesus Christ. This is what he said:

17 "For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but to save the world through him. 18 Whoever believes in him is not condemned, but whoever does not believe stands condemned already because he has not believed in the name of God's one and only Son."
( John 3 )

God's one and only begotten Son is the Lord Jesus Christ. You have to trust in him, putting yourself aside, and trust Him to guide you to what is important.

What is important is His will. He guides us through the Holy Spirit as to what He would have us do. Our own desires are set aside and counted as less than the will of God.

If you are willing to do that, then the Holy Spirit will tell you what to do. If you are gifted at caring for people, you will be augmented in that purpose according to His will.

If you need help with faith in Him, the Bible has the answers as to how to get more faith.

Faith = Trust

Also, hearing the word of God brings life and light to our lives. I listen to a preacher online who you might like. Listen to him whenever you like:
http://twft.com/?page=C2000

If you are serious about wanting to become Christian, you may e-mail me with questions about anything. You don't have to listen to a word I say, but do weigh what I say on the Spirit of God. ( :

Answer 10

Tell me about it. And to think I'm supposed to love these athiests here. Well, God commanded and they are my bretheren. My little bro can be annoying but I still love him. Use the same princible. anyone that you find difficult is having a hard time following christ.