my mom is confusing me?

Question

i started wearing mascara , and my mom says I'm getting farther away from God. I don't get what this has to do God. She also doesn't like it that i wear a necklace or nail polish. I don't really understand this. Is anyone else's mom like this? what do you do about it?

i meant to say what this has to do with God.

Answer 1

Your mom sounds like she is a 7th Day Adventist, is this true? Some people feel that anything that might make you look prettier is a vanity, and not approved by god. The bible says, "walk in modesty". What is generally accepted as a neat, clean professional appearance is considered modest.

Mom's will always say what they like or dislike about their daughters because they love them and everything you do is important to her. Be grateful that she isn't the opposite extreme, and trying to sell you off for drugs!

If you're over 18, just smile and say "I know Mom"
If you're under 18, suck it up, hug her and tell her you love her everytime she says something...then change the subject. She'll let you grow up one day :)

Answer 2

I don't know exactly your family situation. However I can comment on the bible. 1 Peter 3:3, 4 - And do not let YOUR adornment be that of the external braiding of the hair and of the putting on of gold ornaments or the wearing of outer garments, but let it be the secret person of the heart in the incorruptible [apparel] of the quiet and mild spirit, which is of great value in the eyes of God.

Okay first this scripture does not say you cannot look pretty, but it is pointing out that the qualities of the heart are far more valuable. Also, I know the key to many things is moderation.

I hope this helps you. Just remember it is not your appearance that is important, it is who you are that is important. Journey Well...

Answer 3

Your mom is worried about your modesty. Women of the three major religions (Judaism, Christianity, and Islam) are prescribed in their holy books to dress in a modest manner. She is not crazy, just concerned for your future as a pious virtuous woman. If you want to fully understand how she feels, come to her in a respectful way and tell her you would like to understand better her thoughts on the issue of makeup, jewelry, etc. in a scriptural sense. I am sure if you approach her in the correct manner she will be willing to sit down with you and truly discuss the matter, thus bringing you to a closer understanding of her opinions. You may not agree with her on these issues, but at least you both will benefit from the understanding each other better, and perhaps this will lead to more discussions on more important topics in the future. Trust me in this, in this world, aside from Allah( God), your best friend is your mother.

Answer 4

I need more info. here. Is she apart of a holiness type church? If so, they don't usually believe in wearing the items you named off. If that's the case, I understand what she means. She'd be saying she thinks the Bible says its wrong.That you are rebelling against the Bible by wearing these things. If she's not holiness, I have no idea where she's coming from. Just ask her!! Tell her you just want her to explain why she feels you're getting away from God. God Bless You!

Answer 5

Responsible parents always care about the spiritual-moral development of their children. Likely your mom is thinking you are becoming too worldly, too interested in pop culture and icons whose level of morality is comparable to our animal friends.

You'll have to prove to her that wearing mascara and other such growing up issues don't mean you're getting farther away from God, and I don't mean with logical argument. I mean with your character and behavior. Have you considered making a proposal for an experiment with her, something like allowing you this privilege for a certain period of time for her to observe your character and behavior to see if her theory is true?

When you show her you can be trusted to maintain high moral standards and wear makeup too, she'll likely allow you more privileges.

Answer 6

There are some religions who shun (for lack of a better word) the use of makeup and jewelery, even some that do not allow women to wear slacks or pants. If your mother follows or used to follow this type of religion, that may be where she is coming from. She may just be unsure about what the Bible teaches on this subject.

There is one scripture in the Bible I think of right away that speaks about a woman's "adornment". 1 Pet. 3:3, 4: “Do not let your adornment be that of the external braiding of the hair and of the putting on of gold ornaments or the wearing of outer garments, but let it be the secret person of the heart in the incorruptible apparel of the quiet and mild spirit, which is of great value in the eyes of God.” Does this mean that women should wear no ornaments? Certainly not; just as it obviously does not mean that they should not wear outer garments. But they are here encouraged to be balanced in their attitude regarding grooming and dress, putting the primary emphasis on spiritual adornment. So, this doesn't necessarily mean a woman was not to adorn themselves with jewelery at all...rather that the most important thing to them shouldn't be their outward appearance, but their inward personality.

The Bible speaks well of adornment, even referrring to jewelery in symbolic language when he blessed ancient Jerusalem (Ezekiel 16:11-13). If he did not approve of these at all, they would not be mentioned in a positive light.

That being said, as a parent myself, I understand discouraging the use of makeup for very young girls...if you are a pre teen or an early teenager, she may be concerned that you are growing up too fast. Try to talk to her about it, and respectfully try to come up with a solution. If you act mature and respectful, your mother will be more likely to treat you with the same respect. You may want to come to a mutual decision about what age she feels is appropriate for you to wear makeup. But, don't just go into it assuming she is being unreasonable and won't listen, or you may sabotage your own efforts. I hope it goes well!

Answer 7

It's hard for parents to admit their kids are growing up. I wasn't allowed to wear makeup until I was 16 and I wasn't allowed to date until I was 18. These were the house rules, and as long as I lived there...I followed them.

But, as far as getting further away from God...I don't know about that. Since we can't be privy to your conversations with your Mom, we can't know..but it sounds like there may be more to it then just wearing mascara. Perhaps it's things you've said, interests you shown in secular and material things etc. It may have just culminated with the wearing of mascara.

But your best approach is to ask your Mom. She loves you, after all, and you should be able to just ask her. Help her to understand you are growing up but that you respect her and love her.

Answer 8

Your mom is struggling with the idea of you growing up. Becoming a young woman comes with all sorts of new worries for your mom and her answer to this is to guilt you into forgoing the primping. What she really wants to say is that she is scared you will be giving the wrong message out to men and how that will make you vulnerable.

Answer 9

Sounds more like mom is having a hard time letting you grow up a little. Many of them are that way, just not all of them include a god as an excuse to their feelings.

Answer 10

your mom is realizing that you are growing up and she is scared and nervous about it. please try to make your mom happy. you won't live there forever and it really does make us moms feel a little sick when we see our babies growing up. we know that you have to grow but inside we still see our little bundles of joy we took home from the hospital. you know, at least you have a mom who truly loves and cares for you. a lot of kids don't have that. go give her a hug right now and tell her how much you love her. good luck to you sweetie!