my mom is very strict and wont let me go to the movies.. what should i do?

Question

Everytime i talk to my mom about going out with friends.. my girls she always suspects that i am going out to hang with guys.. even though i have never done anything to betray her trust. she is just getting on my nerves.. i constantly have to sneak out just to go out with my friends.. i hate making up lies to tell her or to either my friends of why i cant go out with them.. it sucks.. she doesnt understand.. i can even talk to her about these things seriously because she thinks im lying to her all the time.. i have no room to talk because she is the one that does all the talking.. btw im 17

she does not know i go out with friends AT ALL.. she is completely clueless..

Answer 1

is probably because she did it when she was your age. she told her mommy that she was going to the library when she was really going to bubbas house for some fun. for some reason she does not want you to do that? wait that does not make any sense. why is it ok for HER to do it but not you?
hmm well anyway just sneak out

Answer 2

So very hard, i know. But you are 17 now, in a year, you can move if you plan things right. Don't jump from the frying pan into a fire by doing things in haste. For whatever reason, your mom does not want you to do these things, as hard as it is, she is your mom, and you are to be commended for trying your best to respect her and her wishes. Believe it or not, there is going to be lots of time to be with your friends. I know maybe others get to do what you don't, but i am sure your mom has her reasons, no matter how irrational they may seem to be to you. Maybe they are not realistic, but other than continuing to honor your mother. I would say, talk to school counselor for some mature advise. This is not the end of the world, though i am sure it seems like it now.It really is not a good idea, and it is imature to sneak out.Think about it, what if she knows your doing that? it just shows you cannot be trusted to honor her requests, or what if she finds out? same thing. You are reinforcing a valid argument in her favor not yours. good luck.

Answer 3

Gee, let me see... your Mom doesn't trust you because you constantly sneak out and do what you swear you aren't going to do?

I'll have to consider this one for a moment.

Got it!! She doesn't trust you because you are not trustworthy or very mature! Your friends most likely are not anyone she (in her wisdom) think you should be with and guess what? I think she's a lot more right then you!!!!

Want some freedom? Act your age instead of being a two year old throwing a temper tantrum because you didn't get exactly what you wanted the second you wanted it.

Oh yes, if your still reading, TRY listening to her!!! She's all that appears to be standing between you and a really big Stupid TAX!!! They are a bummer to pay you know. If you haven't paid one yet, your due!!!

Answer 4

It is probably not legal for anybody to advise you to disobey your mom. So don't. However at 17 you should be making serious plans for college, and you can live a pretty independent life there. DO NOT GO OVERBOARD!!!! Your mom is probably concerned for your safety, maybe she knew someone in the past who had something lets say "unfortunate" happen to them and she does not want that to happen to you. Her concern is motivated by her love, so just be patient, you will be legally able to make your own decisions soon enough. Often if kids are denied the chance to exercise responsibility, to grow into it, they have no idea at all how to do so when they are on their own and they end up making some very bad mistakes. Don't let this happen to you! When you are 18 you could be away at college, you could be making your own decisions, but even then, be safe. Don't trust guys, and I say that being a guy myself--because they are just getting out fron under control, too, and often go a little (or a lot) wild. They say that in Europe parents drink with their children, so kids when they become of drinking age don't get into the binge drinking American kids do. So just play it safe, keep your eyes on the prize. Good luck and enjoy life! Bask in the glow of your mom's concern and her love, enjoy it while you can.

Answer 5

Welcome to teenager world. What your going thru is natural and I bet all of us went down the same road. Have you tried a one on one talk with your Mom and tell her how you feel and JUST ask her what it is that makes her not trust you?? She probably is worried about you and wants to protect you,in her eyes you are still her little girl and she 's having trouble seeing you grow up.Try becoming closer with her,do some new things together and tell her that she can trust you and you wouldn't do anything to make her ashamed of you.
The sneaking around part is perfectly normal but things would be easier if you can get along with her.
I wish you Luck.
PS If she won't talk and listen to you,Write her a letter and have her read it when you aren't there.

Answer 6

I think theres a cupole of things you can do you could go to a counsler and talk about things wich would be a very good idea or if you dont have the money or just arent up to it you could talk to your mom and ask her if she trust you and then ask why she dosent let you go out and if there is any thing in piticular that you did then mabe you will have a better undersatnding of whats going on and why she wont let you go out.

Answer 7

i constantly have to sneak out just to go out with my friends i hate making up lies to tell her

even though i have never done anything to betray her trust

well u should read your own question that will give you the answer all i did is copy what u wrote

Answer 8

Obviously, you have betrayed her trust. Trust me on this one mom's kno everything......she probably knos that ur sneaking out and just doesn't wanna mention it. So stop sneaking out and then ur mom might actually let you do things. Or otherwise stop hanging out with ur friends for awhile, get a job, which will get you money and then get urself a car. ur already 17 years so you should be old enough to be able to drive by now. and then you'll be able to go out to places with ur friends. Or you could just wait until you move out of ur home and then you can take that time to hang with ur friends. seriously its really sad but ur friends in highschool don't really matter. its ur friends in college that matter the most. because in college ur starting to become a mature adult and you will really start to make real friends. so altogether ur choices are to plainly give in to ur mom and wait till college, respect ur mom, or just get a job. I hope you figure something out. My hopes go out to you:)

Answer 9

You'll get what you want, when you wait. But still, go during the day. And guys?! Go with your gals. They could pick you up so your mom can see them. Why doesn't she trust you? That's just wrong, you know? Cuz whats the difference if she doesn't trust you or not? Before you go to sleep have a conversation with her. Maybe you should really try going with a parent. AT FIRST. Then start going alone. It should gradually decrease the chaperoning.

Answer 10

it can be frustrating. but she wont always be like this. honestly right now you just have to deal with it. you're still just in high school. so you have plenty of time and years to hang out and have your freedom. for now just deal with it. but what you can do is. show her that she can trust you. actually sit her down and talk to her about sincerely. tell her that you're getting older and that you should at least be able to go out with your friends to see a movie. tell her that you're her daughter and that she should trust you when you say you're not doing something else or hanging out with guys. if that doesnt work, then honestly you just have to deal with it until you go to college. just be a good daughter and just listen to your mom. shes doing it because she loves you

Answer 11

You're 17 now, and you are old enough to be responsible and mature when going out. It sounds like she's being over-protective, so sit down with her and explain that you feel you need more freedom and would never betray her. And lets make it clear you are definately old enough to hang out with guys.