I'm 21 and getting married in April of next year. My first two offers were right after I got engaged back in April of this year. My maid of honor has just mentioned about a month ago throwing me one and we have been best friends for about 9 years now. The 2 that offered is a bridesmaid I've known for about 2 years and the other is my great aunt. I don't want to hurt her feelings, but I just don't think that I would have enough people to invite for 3 showers.
2007-11-30 12:49:04 · 21 answers · asked by Peridotchic 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You could ask your maid of honor, bridesmaid, and great aunt to put their ideas for a bridal shower together and have one big party instead of three small ones.
2007-11-30 12:52:58 · answer #1 · answered by smmr27 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think she is just trying to do her duty since that is typically one of the tasks they perform. I would just have them do it together. And by the way you can have as many showers as you want but you cannot invite anyone to more than one. That would be like asking for two gifts.
Personally if I had been asked by a bridemaid that I am not as close to i would tell her that your MOH asked and since it is tradition, you would like her to throw it but she can always help. I would just give the honor to the person i am closer to. Now when someone like a great aunt asks it's harder to refuse so I would let her throw one too.. maybe just family. Then let your MOH do friends and younger people. You could also break it up and have you aunt do a bridal shower and your MOH can throw you a bachlorette party.. where you get a few of your closest friends and party before the big day. That would be fun.. and if they already were at the shower just make sure they know the bachlorette party is just fun and no gifts.
2007-11-30 19:57:17 · answer #2 · answered by bluekrush74 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The shower is usually the maid of honors job so the other bridesmaid that offered,should just help the maid of honor with one.As far as your Aunt,some people do have two showers,one with friends and one with close family.But it would be nice for everyone to work together and have one big shower.Plus,they shouldn't be putting this decision on you,they should work it out and surprise you!Talk to the one you are closest to and ask her to iron it out.
2007-12-01 06:17:32 · answer #3 · answered by Hope 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi and congratulations!
Why not see if the MOH and bridesmaid want to do the shower together? Or all three of them. It is a big expense for one person to do alone, so if 2 (or 3) go in together to have either 1 big shower or 2 smaller showers it would help them financially as well!
Good luck!
2007-11-30 13:55:39 · answer #4 · answered by iloveweddings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was all ways told that all the Brides Maddie's are to get to gather with the Brides mother and the grooms mother to plane one big shower about 3 Weeks before the wedding in the hole or Church where the wedding is to be, so everyone knows how to get there.
I have never hared of any one having more than 1 shower for a wedding, A Baby shower yes but wedding NO, It is not Right.
2007-11-30 15:39:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you have "heard" of two bridal showers being planned--BUT--what you would really like is a Personal Shower. That would be just the bridesmaids, young friends---nighties would be the gifts to you. In someone's home would be appropriate, however no older folks around. If that can't be done--rent a room for the night for the "Girls".
2007-11-30 12:55:42 · answer #6 · answered by beecher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So just have it be you, the bridesmaids, and any female family members on either side. The MOH traditionally throws a shower, anyway, but this can be a small one. I had two showers. One my coworkers threw, and one our church family threw. My mom would have gone, but we lived in different parts of the country at the time.
2007-11-30 17:32:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-30 08:44:44 · answer #8 · answered by starkes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that two other people have offered as well, and tell her who they are. Sound happy and flattered. Say that maybe all three of them should get together on it so that there will be enough people to invite. You're lucky to have three people wanting to give you a shower!
2007-11-30 12:54:40 · answer #9 · answered by 2bzy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let her throw the shower and have just close friends and the bridal party invited. You will have a ball!!!!
2007-11-30 13:28:33 · answer #10 · answered by mimegamy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋