Want to join the marines more than anything but parents wont allow it.?

Question

what do i do.
im thinking of just leaving

Answer 1

HEY SK - why would you answer this guys question by being so rude?

Why don't YOU tell YOUR parents they reproduced an f'in low life!

I guess dumb asses like you (prolly 90%) should have been an abortion. Maybe you should F off or get a life. . . . Prolly best if you just F off.

So, tell me how does it feel for YOU to be called horrible names and to have YOUR parents insulted?

Answer 2

When you turn 18 you can do anything you want including enlist in the Marines.

BUT, you will need your real birth certificate and social security card to do so. If you mom has those locked up somewhere you need to find them and take them for yourself. You can get a copy of your birth certificate from the city you were born in, but you need picture ID for that and getting the one your mom has will be easier.

You will also need your birth cerificate to get a copy of your social security card if you need to get that too so you need to get the originals if you can.

You are or will be a grown man and if this is what you want to do with your life do it.

I am pretty certain they will not disown you since they are throwing such a fit over not letting you enlist now. They care about you and worry you could get hurt in the Marines. Everything you do in life has risk, even walking down the street. The odds are still slim that you will die serving your country, but it could happen. If you want to serve your country and you are ok with that risk than do what your heart is telling you to do.

You can do the enlistment thing on the down-low with your recruiter. Just let them know your parents are against it but you are going to do it anyway so not to call you on your house phone, or to mail you anything or come to your house. Give them a way to contact you without having your parents find out. Once you are old enough go to MEPS and take care of all the required business to enlist and then one day you will be leaving for boot camp. You can leave a letter and then call them from boot camp. Invite your family to your graduation. I'm sure after they get done being upset the will be very proud to see the person you will be transformed into at your Marine Corps graduation. You can't do much more than that. You really can't let people dictate what you do with your life if you have a true passion for something and that is how it is for most of the people that choose the Marines. You know what you are getting into and Semper Fi means something to you.

Too bad your parents can't share in the preparation but they can be proud of you after the fact. They will be, it is pretty hard not to get goose bumps when you see a Marine in full dress uniform especially when it is their own son.

Lots of people join the military and never look back at their family. Lots of people enlist and never talk to their family again, it is a lot more common than you would think. You can go that route, but I would just enlist and then tell them where you are at. It is up to them what to do next. Just leave the lines of communication open once you are in boot camp to write you and you can call them when the phone is available for family calls.

Good luck.

Answer 3

I joined the marines when I was 17yrs old., I am 42 now. It was good experience for me, though I had my parents consent. However, if I had to do it all over again, I would of gone to college ( community college) I say this because with years come experience. I have come to learn that an education would of taken me further than the core. I am not saying that it is a bad idea to join the core, I am saying that you have options.

Answer 4

Three choices:
1) Do exactly what your parents want you to do
2) Go against your parents
3) Find a compromise

You could think about the reasons you want to join the Marines and see if there is another way to fulfill your desire that will not cause a problem with your parents.

Answer 5

If you're 17, then you NEED parent/guardian permission to join the military. If you're 18, you could go into the Marine Corps recruiting station and sign up right now.

Do what YOU want to do. Just make sure it really is what you want.

Answer 6

If you're not 18, you're stuck.

When you turn 18, you have to make a decision. Do you want to live your own life, or do you want to live the one your family has planned for you. And you need to consider the consequences of each.

I don't know your family.Some families are very patriarchal of matriarchal... and are incredibly strict. You might sit down with mom and dad and tell them your concerns. Tell them why you want to join. If they're understanding and receptive, cool. But if they're not, you have to decide. "Look, mom, dad, I love you both very much, but I'm almost an adult. I have to start making my own decisions. I can't let you make them for me forever. I know you're concerned. But this is something I have to do."

Or you can bow to their wishes.

It will be absolutely YOUR decision. If you are ecstatic or miserable with the decision, no matter which way you go, it was your decision.

Hint. If you try to live your life the way somebody recommends, in a few years they may no longer be in your life... and you're still stuck with the decision. You have to live with you for as long as you're breathing.

Answer 7

You are suffering from a severe case of youth.

Many of us Old Farts spend time in here giving advice because we already made the mistakes you are thinking about. You don't have to believe us. But we al;ready discovered that the crap OUR parents told us came true

Do your best in school and GRADUATE. Gives you more options. Try college if that is possible.

Then do whatever you want.

SSG US Army 73-82

Answer 8

Talk to the Marine Recruiter, maybe he can help.

PS. Ancient Warrior DogueDe Bordeaux nailed it, get a job that translates to a real job outside the Marines.
Aviation Maintenance is a great one! And it pays good after the "Hoo-Rah" wears off.

Answer 9

You're parents are probably afraid because they know where you'll end up. Do what you feel is right... if you want to be a Marine... then be a Marine. Don't let anyone curb you from making that decision.

Answer 10

If you're at least 18, they can't stop you. Bring them as much info as you can on the program. Explain your opportunities to them. If they still are against it, you can go if you want. It's up to you. It depends on how you feel about going against their wishes. If your parents are the kind that still stand beside you regardless then I'd go for it. If it's gonna hurt them too bad, I'd think real hard about the decision though. Best of luck....