Ok, so I'm involved with a man online. He's wonderful, everything I could have ever hoped for. He lives in CA and I live in a far away different state. How can I make him meeting my parents (we've talked about this together) a little less awkward? And how can I introduce him to my close friends without saying we met online? I need serious advice, this is really stressing me out!
BTW, look past the whole "online dating is bad" idea. It's really not. This man is wonderful, truely. Not an act. I'm 16 and he's 17.
2007-11-30 11:15:22 · 25 answers · asked by Nikky 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
when you finally do meet him jsut tell your friends where you met him for the first time in real life, not that you realy first met him online. but i beg you, please please PLEASE bring someone along with you when you meet him for the first time in case he's like a pedophile or rapist or something. and make sure its somewhere really public too.
2007-11-30 11:24:24 · answer #1 · answered by ... 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Okay, ignore the people who are saying that he's probably a creep or something. If you've known him a long time online, you probably trust him. And you obviously were/are smart about it, because your parents know, and you're not meeting him without telling anyone. Also, he's not a pedophile if he's a year older than you (so guys, get your facts straight).
I met my boyfriend online when I was 15 and met in real life when I was 16 (a year ago), so I totally know what you're going through. So to answer your questions...
Him meeting your parents probably won't be as awkward as you think. The first time my boyfriend met mine, they just started talking, and seemed to get along fine... I didn't have to say a word! Maybe that's just because my boyfriend is very talkative... Maybe a simple line like "This is Mike (or whatever his name is)" can get it going?
Secondly, saying you two met online isn't as bad now. My friends know that I met my boyfriend online, but that's only because they asked how we met. If they don't ask, why bother telling them? Or you can just tell them that you met through a mutual friend.
Good luck!!<3
2007-11-30 11:29:42 · answer #2 · answered by dragonfly_soup 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Go on the date and have fun. I hope you like him as much in person. If you don't want to have sex with him then I would not be a good idea to share a room with him. I mean what would be the reason to share a room? Honestly there is no reason to share the same room unless you or having sex or to save money. That's what the cheaper motels are for though. I'm not saying you guys aren't mature enough but some one can get tempted having someone in the same bed. So don't put your self in that type of situation.
2016-04-06 21:44:03 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I wouldn't invite him to my house when I'm meeting him for the first time. Because you never know, he could be lying. If you choose to meet him, do so in a public place where there are a lot of people. Meeting someone in person who you met online can be a dangerous thing. All I'm saying is to be careful!
=)
2007-11-30 11:26:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh wow.
I've actually had the same thing happen to me!
I'm 16 myself, and the man involved with me was 17 as well.
Infact, I arranged him to fly to my house and I let my parents know who he was. I had to lye somewhat and I told them he was a pen pal. ( just so they don't think its creepy I met him randomly online). He stayed with me for a few weeks in the guest room of my house.
My parents could see we were getting close and realized after that we wanted a relationship out of it.
This keep on going for a year or so. Id go to his house and he'd come to mine every few months.
We had to break it off only because it was hard and was costly to keep this up. We still talk alot. Who knows later down the road we could move in together in the same state.
For now though, he's just my good friend online again.
I realized afterwards that, I'm only 16.
I'm to young for this, and love right now is only minor.
Who knows. You dont know unless you try right?
Tell your parents what I did, and all should be fine.
2007-11-30 11:21:54 · answer #5 · answered by pulse. 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Hey im in the same situation as you, same age and my boyfriend is 17 too living in NC and im in FL we've been together for about a year now, its kinda hard sometimes, being in along distance relationship and always wondering when i would see him, hopefully one day. See i dont really tell my friends where i met him cuz i jus know some people will never understand what we have.
Were on the phone like everyday so I really dont have nothin to worry about i trust enough to kno that he wouldnt hurt me and if he does then he already kno the deal.
As far as other peoples opinion on long distance relationship i dont give a **** about it because they've never been in one, so they dont kinow what its like to even judge.
Its a first time for everything.
2007-11-30 11:21:16 · answer #6 · answered by princessmesha1 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I feel like first of all, it's best to be honest about how you guys met. I had a long term relationship with someone I met online and it was a huge weight off my shoulders. I don't think you should hide it!
And as far as people saying it's unconventional/it'll neverwork/whatever... I know a couple who met and corresponded online before they.. dun dun... got married and lived with each other!
2007-11-30 11:32:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anarkai27 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
to be honest, me and my boyfriend have been together for over a year, he lives in Missouri and I like in Florida, we met online. I met him over the summer and go up there from time to time. I bet a lot of people tell you that it wont work out, but it will.
answer to your question, I was so nervous to tell my parents that I lied to them and told them I met him when they were here for vacation, they ended up finding out the truth anyways, and they just wanted me to be honest with them. so I think you should just tell your parents the truth. as well as with your friends.
they might make stupid comments about it, but just ignore them.
btw Im 16 as well.
EDIT: I emailed you back, but you never responded?
2007-11-30 11:32:49 · answer #8 · answered by Wh!ttany. 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
you really need ot be careful, thisi s a sticky situation. go with some friends, and make sure that he IS everything you thought that he would be. um... i would say that you met him in the place where youre eyes first met eachothers, which isnt exactly a lie either. good luck and i hope everything turns out PERFECT!!!
-emperor penguin
2007-11-30 11:25:01 · answer #9 · answered by Shayna K 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can suggest that he visit your hometown and meet your parents. If he doesn't want to meet them and wants to meet you alone, best to just keep him as an online romance. Online dating isn't bad, it's just that most of them don't last.
2007-11-30 11:32:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to find some reason for you to have met --- yes i know its not a good start lying to parents but it does let them meet him without prejudging ---- is there some place you would have met naturally??? if so use that and bring him home ---- best wishes
2007-11-30 11:22:45 · answer #11 · answered by trader1867 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋