Is this abuse or harrasment, or nothing?
i'm 15 and sometimes my 19 year old brother comes into my room when i am sleeping and touches my breasts.
He thinks i am asleep but i'm not.
Sometimes when i walk out of by bedroom after getting dressed or walk out of the bathroom after having a shower, i see him running off.
Once i caught him trying to look under the door at me getting dressed. I just pretended that i didn't see him though....
Once he put his phone in the bathroom and recorded me having a shower...
Luckily i found it and deleted it before he looked at it.
I don't know why he is doing this..
We are really good friends, and i don't want to mess up our realtionship by telling him that i know what he is doing..
What should i do?
2007-11-30 10:31:41 · 11 answers · asked by Kangarooooo 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Tell your parents, there is something wrong with his behavior.
2007-11-30 10:41:41 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is sexual abuse. He needs to realize this and stop behaving this way immediately.
Look, I know you care for your brother and dont want to hurt his feelings, but you're going to have to put yourself first.
Tell a parent so he can be dealt with accordingly.
This is seriously wrong behaivor on his part and could be a sign that he is a sexual predator. So you might be saving someone other than yourself too.
Good luck.
2007-11-30 10:41:15 · answer #2 · answered by tobelove75 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hate to say it, but it sounds like "abuse", in a way. It would be less harmful if he wasn't coming in and physically touching your body-- you do not want it to progress.
I'd start by talking to him about it while your parents are at home (in case something were to happen). Say you love him as your brother and you are worried about him, and you would like him to seek out help if he feels its not something he can control. If it continues, THEN consider telling your parents, or if you feel uncomfortable, a trusted adult.
2007-11-30 10:40:28 · answer #3 · answered by angel_falling 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to say this but it's beyond sexual harrassment if he is coming in to your room to touch you, it's molest. It's not ok and you should not be made to feel uncomfortable BY anyone ever!!! Even you're brother. He obviously isn't to concerned about you being friends with him or close if he feels it is ok to violate you that way. I'd tell someone... who knows how far he will go.
2007-11-30 10:40:09 · answer #4 · answered by ash 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell your parents. What he is doing is wrong and it is eventually going to cause even bigger problems. Better to deal with it now than when it becomes a very big issue because it could land him in prison.
2007-11-30 13:55:23 · answer #5 · answered by Simmi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ABUSE u have to tell a parent or a teacher cause this could be serious i brother is not supppose to do that
2007-11-30 10:35:57 · answer #6 · answered by BLAZING DYNAMO 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is sexual abuse. Tell your parents. Videotape it (without him knowing) if you feel like they might not believe you--that way you'll have proof (parents won't want to believe that their son could do something so horrible.)
2007-11-30 11:13:12 · answer #7 · answered by xo379 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The difference between harrassment and abuse is that abuse is great fun, and the penalty is the same.
2007-11-30 10:43:25 · answer #8 · answered by Tacit Hue 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
confront him about it! he has got sex on his mind i can tell! tell him to find a girlfriend or find him one!
2007-11-30 11:53:40 · answer #9 · answered by godelectedme 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
catch him doing it, and smack him around when you do.
2007-11-30 10:35:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋