This terrible event is fast approaching in my family, and I honestly don't think I can get through it if I'm there. How can I get through it? What would you do?
2007-11-30 10:28:54 · 9 answers · asked by Love Conquers All 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
This is our mother, the very soul and heart of our family, and we can't imagine her being gone. She was a beautiful lady until this cruel illness struck her down, one who enjoyed using her many talents to enrich her life, as well as ours. My home proudly displays several of her paintings and sculptures. How to say goodbye to someone as precious as she is.........I can't even imagine it.
2007-11-30 18:50:27 · update #1
You poor soul. I've been through several deaths of my loved ones...I am sorry to say, you don't get over it. I am still brought to tears, even now, just thinking of them all. Both my older brothers, my grandparents, my best friends, even my pets.... The best piece of advice I can give you is to find something comforting about them that helps you remember that they are still with us and will bring you pleasant memories of the time you had with them here. For instance, my brother Gino, was a big guy when he died (530 lbs.), so I associated rainbows with his jolly belly and it also represented all the times he took me exploring the island we live on and all the outdoorsy things we would do together and now when I see a rainbow (almost daily) I smile and I think of him. Another thing is when my best friend "Tweety" died, there was this thing, when we were in high school, we hated the rain, (because it would melt our hair and make-up) and when she died and it would rain, I would never get wet! It was like she was an angel and had her wings spread over me and the rain would never reach me. So til this day when it rains (almost every day) I smile and think of her as I evade the rain. I could go on and on but I think you see what I mean. Also the only thing we can control in our lifetime is our perceptions. So you can try to embrace death as it comes for us all and know that our loved ones will be there to greet us when we cross that road, so it can't be all that bad. The pain in our hearts will be diminished one day. Be strong, but cry when you need to. My heart goes out to you.
2007-11-30 14:52:21 · answer #1 · answered by gmoney 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its something sooner or later you go threw. I have had so many deaths in the last 2 years that I think I have gotten immune to it. Both my grandmothers, 2 aunts, 1 cousin and my mother. And one of my aunts it was just 3 weeks before my mother. That was very hard, not just for me and my sister but my cousin as well, he was very close to my mother.
But you should be there, you don't have to be in the room, but at least there. It is easier when you are with family when something like that happens. And it is a feeling of relief when they go, and you actually see how at peace they look.
My mother suffered for 7 months with breast cancer that had spread to her brain. And when she passed we were all there. And it made it better to actually see her no longer in pain.
2007-11-30 11:06:47 · answer #2 · answered by cris 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you can only do what your comfortable with you dont need to be in the room if you cant handle it as long as someone is my mom passed away recently and i was not in the room when the life support was removed i couldnt but there were other people in the room it did not matter they said it would happen quick but she held in all day(she was not concious) the moment everbody left to get a bite to eat and stretch there legs she died in minutes.even the nurse said it is very common for people to hang in until they are alone.as far as afterwards you have to be strong to help the other people in your family the only way to get through a close person dying is to stick together and help each other good luck my prayers are with you
2007-11-30 10:42:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
In the past yr i have had 2 uncle in my family die of cancer after long hard battles, and all you can do is take it one day at a time and remember them happy and keep that in your heart. Mine suffered terribly and to be honest i was relieved for them when they went in their sleep cause they are no longer in pain and agony every day, it's hard and they are missed dearly but life dos move on and eventually day by day it get eaiser.
2007-11-30 10:38:51 · answer #4 · answered by life as we know it 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, when I was younger.
The best advice I can give is to be there till the end. Remember the happy and fun times. Sometimes though, it won't be enough. Hopefully if they did right by God's law, they're in heaven, if not, may they be forgiven. Thats all we can do and pray. Good luck.
2007-11-30 11:59:06 · answer #5 · answered by C93 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you clone anyone they begin out as a youngster, so by the point they develop up I'll quite often be very historic or useless. Plus, he/she may not be the equal man or woman, simply have the equal genetic expertise. So you are not able to ever get again the man or woman you misplaced despite the fact that you clone them..
2016-09-05 17:12:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tlk 2 a friend bout and don't be afraid 2 cry on ur friends shoulder it makes matters a lot worse if u hold ur tears and emotions in.So letem out and go from there
2007-11-30 10:47:24 · answer #7 · answered by Samantha") 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ITs hard i watched my cousin die and my grandpa and its hard but somehow you will just get through it just pray and remember the good times not the times when dying but the times when you were laughing with this person. I cant tell you how to get through it because people deal with it in different ways but you will find your way
2007-11-30 10:40:02 · answer #8 · answered by angie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is never easy to watch a loved one pass away, but you are not alone in your family, cry and hold each other, get and take comfort, memories help.
PEACE
2007-11-30 11:49:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋