What should you do when you feel all alone?

Question

I don't want to sound like a whiny teenager...but I need advice. My Great Grandmother just died and it was the first time I ever saw a dead body. I was horrified to see her like that and as a result I have not slept normally in four days.
Also, I am a shy person. This can make me come across as snobby and I have driven off most of my friends. So, I never really have anyone to talk to or anything to do on the weekends anymore.
I really cared about and trusted someone and he betrayed me. He was the only person that made me feel like I mattered, and now he has lost interest in me. I dream about it every night, and I don't know how to get it out of my head.
I'm clinically depressed, so you can imagine how all these things are magnified.
I don't really know what to do. I know this isn't much of a question, but does anyone have any ideas of what to do to stop feeling so alone?

I already have a therapist, thank you for your supportive answers, they really help.

Answer 1

Writing like you just did...it makes some of the feelings you have pour out so you can finially take a breath and breathe without drowing in endless doubt and grief. when i feel alone, i take advangtege of the situation, and usualy do stuff for me. I take long walks and go to the park. I write down any thoughts on my mind, i take a nice big relaxing bubble bath. Do what you want to do, dont think of anything that you could have or should have done. These quite moments will be rare when you finally find something that you love to do, and until then i cant really guide you into anything but my personal experiance.

Answer 2

You should be with family. They are the people you can trust, especially your parents. They will not let you down. Just talk to them. Sleep in your mom's bed and have her console you. Write your feelings down everyday in a journal through what you are going through. The best way to stop feeling so alone is to be around people you trust and have them understand how you're feeling. If no one understands what you are personally going through you will feel alone in the most crowded room. A good pint of your favorite ice cream never hurt either. Do what makes you happy. It's important that you feel better. Communication with people is so important. You should even tell your old friends what you're going through and if they are true they will be there for you. Apologize if you were snobby towards them. Another thing is to find distractions where you forget about yourself for the moment. It is possible. I don't believe that anyone clinically depressed could neevr be happy because you weren't born depressed, therefore you can go back to how you felt before the pain. It just takes a bit of acceptance, knowing the source of the pain, and communication.

Answer 3

It sounds like you have been through a lot and need someone to talk to. There are many things you could try:
1) write in a journal
2) call your parents or other trusted family members
3) find a therapist
4) see your doctor if you are worried about depression

Do you have any friends who will just sit and listen?

If you are having any suicidal thoughts you need to seek help immediately. Call 911 or go to the emergency room.

Answer 4

My grandmother had passed away about 16 years ago and I still think about her a lot, too, and that is pretty much normal for you to miss your grandmother. If you want to have your friends back, just go up to them and ask if you can talk to them in private so nobody has to listen to what either one of you have to say. It may take some time to get over this matter, but take it slowly.

Answer 5

I understand how you're feeling and don't take this negatively but you should speak to a psychologist not psychiatrist but psychologist to help you get through this episode in your life. I had to face reality and go see a psychologist regularly. I was in her office for almost 3 years. It helps more than you know and gives you the needed skills to deal with future episodes. by the way the feelings of suicide are normal if you have them and if you have them like i did, you need to make that appointment now.

Answer 6

I really feel for u because i had a grandaddy that died when i was in 2nd grade and i still miss him so signed up for volly ball so i can keep my mind off him so how about try a sport or activty

Answer 7

So you have taken stock. There is something everyone ought to do and many don't and that is come to terms with oneself. Does that make sense?

This is apart form any opinion I may hold about myself, whether I consider myself to be the answer to the maiden's prayer, or a load of crud, I have to come to terms with myself. The trouble with opinions is that they tend to be onesided, they rarely see things in the round. Usually self opinions are well, lest's say, distorted.

There are a number of things we have to accept, like our own company because we can't escape from it. I myself am probably too willing to accept limitations and even impose them on myself, probably unnecessarily. Certainly knowledge of strengths and weaknesses is a good asset. We have to accept that whatever opinion we hold of ourselves that won't necessarily be shared by others. There is a natural assumption that who I like will like me, and who I don't, won't. But life is rarely that simple, especially in regard to the opposite sex. Basically we have to allow others to interact with us, and most people, I have discovered, want the best of us.

My theory is this, that in the main, people like to be surrounded by good things, and that includes the people they associate with.

Learn to contemplate, or meditate or some form of mind focusing exercise on something other than yourself. A good place to start is church, because in worship there is the idea of praise and adoration of a being uncreated that is other than ourselves, and in the act of worship we ourselves are of value. In the Christian church we are valued because of the act of redemption.

The Christian church asserts that all are equal in the sight of God, but as it is a club for people who have had their sins forgiven, and who still need forgiveness don't expect to see what you ought to find. Certainly seeking forgiveness should be on everyone's agenda.

On the point of shyness, that is difficult but it needs to be tackled. As I said above, most people expect the best for us. OK a change in preposition, but both apply. If you think that they are prepared to meet us half way, or at least to give us a chance. We can ruin it like 'Opening our mouths and putting our foot in it', but you cannot say the opportunity has been denied. How much easier it will be if you have come to terms with yourself, in that you know the space you are occupying.

Finally have fun, take time to go out and enjoy yourself. Laughter is like the vacuum cleaner of the mind and the reset button for the emotions.

Answer 8

My great grandmother just died as well, on November 28. It was my first relative to die too. I have a younger sister who just turned 15 and it's weird for her too. Her funeral is tommorow.
-Jacob

Answer 9

i'm a teen myself and i got really lonely like that too but when that happened to me i listened to music. i like the killers and my chemical romance the best. the killers because they have really sweet songs and i absolutely LOVE the lead singer so he made me feel better. and mcr is a little emo but sometimes when i'm lonely i like emo music better than that happy crap (happy makes me feel worse.when i'm down...) i hope that helps! :-D (oh, and usually a good book (like a romantic teen book)helps too)

Answer 10

Get online and chat, take a class or join a club (hiking, etc).