Ok I am 30 and my sister(half) is well under 21 and i know she drinks and parties hard, i have 3 kids and live in a different state so techinally i have never seen her drink only seen pictures of her and her friends doing so, so my moral deliema is do i rat her out to our dad or just chalk it up to her having fun and being young. I just don't want her to get hurt or be drinking or driving, i mean i had some fun but only after i was 21 i screwed up some and made my fair share of mistakes. My only thing is she will most likely konw it was me if i do tell and i don't want her mad, just safe.
2007-11-30 09:53:16 · 5 answers · asked by life as we know it 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
First talk to your sister and lovingly find out how much she drinks. Tell her your concerns. If she treats the question too lightly. I am the mother of three boys ages 20, 24 and 30 and I would like to know if my youngest is drinking, he knows it's illegal in our state to drink and with his health issues he's not supposed to drink, smoke cigarettes or do drugs or he'll worsen his kidney disease. If you love her do what your heart tells you especially if you feel she's not going to listen to your concerns.
2007-11-30 11:29:04 · answer #1 · answered by s_and_j_hatch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your kids was doing what your sister is doing would you want to know?
If they did drink and drive and ended up dead because no one wanted to "rat them out" would you be glad they kept their silence if it had been going on for months prior?
You said you made your share of mistakes.You were 21 and no one could do anything about it but advise you.Your parents CAN do something if they KNOW what your sister is doing but since they don't.....
The RIGHT thing to do IS tell.You will be protecting her from herself.People act like thats a horrible crime to tell on someone, but it isnt.It is just that THEY wouldnt want to be told on for doing something they KNOW is WRONG!You wont be hurting her, you'll be helping her.Call your parents NOW!
2007-11-30 10:41:21 · answer #2 · answered by Joe F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her, and tell her all the things that you said in the question. That you don't want her drinking and driving and you want her to be safe. Sister to sister, she'll understand. Don't tell your dad.
2007-11-30 09:57:18 · answer #3 · answered by snowboardchick01 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should talk to her first, try to get her to understand why what she is doing is wrong and dangerous. And, just let her know, if she continues to party and drink you will be telling your father. Don't tell him without letting her know first though, that would be unfair.
2007-11-30 10:07:38 · answer #4 · answered by Lola B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you had the chance you probably would have done it younger, this is something every young person does male or female its a learning curve and its normal .as long as she is still prioritsing what is important ,(study,work,Etc) All will be fine
2007-11-30 10:18:54 · answer #5 · answered by kittykat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋