Guys! Is your lady ugly? Do you love her because she is beautiful? Or is she beautiful because you love her?

Question

It takes beauty to be a high mantainance "gold digger", BUT I have found that many beautiful women are just as beautiful on the inside.

I know guys are attracted to beauty. I certainly KNOW that first hand!!! But is it "what's inside" that counts even more???

Has a beautiful lady hurt you?

Do you feel you are "lowering your standards", when you go for inner beauty?

Why are we so guilty of "LOOKSism"?

Doesn't inner beauty grow?

Doesn't outer beauty fade?!?

Answer 1

My bride was beautiful on the outside but ugly on the inside.

Even when my wife was age 40 people would see our family running around and they would think I was a single Dad with a raft of kids including one very ravishing 16 year old daughter.

One summer at Six Flags a college age boy, running a ride, asked one of my younger children if they thought their Dad would get upset if they asked their older sister out on a date.

I wish I could have seen the look on his face when he was told, "That's my Mom not my sister!"

The next day she was in court divorcing me.

So yes she hurt me and our children a great deal.

Pastor Art

Answer 2

Yes. You're right. Looks help, but they don't last and they don't keep you interested for long.

Answer 3

Questions like this so hurt my heart and they hurt Gods heart too. First of all, beauty is only skin deep and it fades. Inner beauty does grow and thats what God wants for us all.
Now, lets get to this attitude of yours... Who says who is beautiful and who isnt? BEauty is in the eye of the beholder. I have known ppl who others thought were homely that others saw as beautiful. and vice versa. What you see is beautiful, another may find homely. And this attitude has ruined the world. IF a man wants a beautiful lady to hang of his arm and make him look good, this is one very insecure man. YOu must have confidence in yourself. Because so called outer beauty , like Hollywood portrays, ppl are dying today trying to get that same image, and will do anything to get it, from plastic surgury, to half starving to stay thin enough for most men to look at.
I am not little gal, and I am currently 61. I never had a hard time getting a date, and my husband now is 15 years younger than me , and he finds me gorgous. Thats all that matters to me. And GOd sees me as beautiful as I am His loyal , faithful child. I dont have to starve to find a man, and I dont have to be sure I dont have one little wrinkle, and blah blah blah. And for you who do require that, I feel sorry for you. And heres a thought. If you marry someone just like you, she may leave you the minute she doesnt think you are handsome enough, or strong enough and then another big hunk she finds is younger and gorgous, will look good to her and its bye bye time for you. SO for those who demand perfection, and looking Holllywood, I wonder, do you have that perfected look yourself. Do all women find you attractive?
I dont judge you, but I pity you. What if you were hurt in a car wreck at some point, and horribly disfured? You wouldnt fit the Hollywood image either, so be sure that you always look good as it is ppl like you that think this is how we have to look , or you wont look at us.
I find that attitude ugly, and I will pray for you.
In the meantime, its choice, and you can pick whoever you want. I dated a man several years back that was gorgous. Met him at church, seems gorgous inside and out. Our first date, and remember he was from church, he told me he never dated a woman his age before or one that wasnt a perfect size 6. I reminded him that he asked me out. I guess he deceided to help me out. hahahahaha No, he didnt take me home. He was so blesed that I agreed to go out with him. My only reason for doing so was to encourage him, as he didnt have many friends at church yet.
I just giggled and I told him, I am a perfect size 8. HE looked funny and said WHAT? I stood up and said, one side of me is an 8, the other side is an 8, so sweetie you have taken out a perfect size 16. I am gorgous, just as God made me, and I dont find it a compliment that you asked me out. I prefer men, not little boys.
You might say I went too far, but I was new at being a Christian. I know one thing, after that, that man continued to pursue me, even till I remarried, and then my husband had to go talk to him. I guess this sie 16, older woman, he deceided looked real good. HE told me that I was the sweetest person he ever met. I told him the next time he goes out, to take a mirror, as all he did was talk about himself. He could look in the mirror and keep himself company HAHAHA. Tho I wouldnt do that now. Like I said, I was a baby Christian, and I had seen this ugly attitude so often from so many men to many of us women.
If you think we are ugly, dont ask us out, cuz we dont want to date ppl who think like you. Even if we are beautiful, what happens when we get old, or when you get old?
You best hope you never marry someone who thinks like you do, or as you age, you go from one to another, as they will leave you.
I just pray that God will show you how evil this attitude is. and before you men insist on perfection, be ready to be sure you have it yourself. Women who think like you, dont want to marry an ugly man either.
What a bunch of nonsense, and surface stuff. None of it is of God.
What if you have children and one day one is born disabled, or with serious birth defects? WIll you want the world to see them as ugly and think as you do?
I just see that what goes around, comes around, and if I were you, I would worry about what God thinks.
God loves us all, but if I were still single, I would NOT lower my standards to marry someone like you.
My beauty is forever. How will yours be?????
God bless you and NO I am not judging you, nor am I trying to be mean to you I am only praying you will how ludicrous you sound and allow God to give you a new heart.
You say men are atrreacted to beauty, like most women arent. No, there are women who think just like you do.
My ex husband was beautful outside and I thought he was a man of God. Turns out the only thing going for him was that outer beauty, and he about destroyed our lives. But, now he is sick , and possibly facing his own death, due to heart problems, and he is all alone, with no respect from his children. Why? He deceided to run off with a younger women, who since left him.
Oh MY GOD< WHY CANT THEY SEE?
Yes, there are gold diggers in men and women. So what? Would you want someone to do that to you?
Many ppl considered beautiful on the outside are also beautiful inside, you are right, and many that are beautiful on the outside, are ugly inside. Its your choice what you end up with. I just pray you never meet that golddigger that ends up leaving you after she has got your money, and leaves for a younger, stronger man.
What you desire is surely what you are. SO be careful..