Where should I be at this point?

Question

I personally think I am doing extremely well in life. I simply want to find out if the nasty and/or jealous comments I receive on a daily basis are common or simply isolated incidents.
First, the love life. I am a single, straight, 28 year old male. I have never had a girlfriend or even my first yet. I did, however go on a grand total of 2 dates in my entire life, which all took place when I was 23 (5 years ago). People tell me that this is socially and/or psychologically unhealthy. I simple don't have the time or true interest to find a mate at this point. What do you think about the comments people make such as the aforementioned ones?

Second, my professional life and living arrangements. I am currently employed full time and go to grad school part time. I will soon quit my job to focus on getting one more suited to my education once I graduate, which will be very soon. My loss of income will be supplemented by my parents who will keep me at the current living standard.

I also still live at home with my parents and other adult siblings and just love it. We don't get charged any rent, as I should not be charged rent in my own house! It's the least they could, considering all the years of joy we gave them in the process of them raising us! LOL, they get a kick out of it when I say that! :-) My parents are very supportive and told me I can live here as long as I want. People say I won't get any independece, yet I already have independence and best of all I don't have tons of unnecessary responsibilities, yet I am very responsible. I pay my bills, I go to work and live a healthy enough lifestyle. Why can't people either mind their own business about my life or simply acknowledge that I am doing well. And why do ladies my age say my lifestyle is not attractive? They claim not to approve of my choices, yet they are clearly jealous, hence the nasty comments. Unless, of course, I should be somewhere else at this point? What do you think?

Answer 1

Your doing well go on your own pace and make sure you pay back your Mom and Dad but always remember you can never pay them back for everything but that doesn't mean you shouldn't try! As far as women go you should find the right one just don't sleep around go to a few dinner parties or functions and remember don't throw yourself at women you will know when it's right GOD BLESS! and have a good life don't wait to long it will pass you by!

Answer 2

Well, as for the social comments, some people just aren't as into dating as others. My best friend (we're both 27) has never had a boyfriend and has maybe gone on a grand total of 3 dates. She recently moved back in with her parents to help pay the bills.

I on the other hand, live with my long time boyfriend, but still depend on my parents to help pay for such things as grad school. As long as you gain independence without depending on your parents for too long, you're fine! If it doesn't bother you, why should it bother anyone else?!?

Good luck with school!

Answer 3

well, i don't really think it's anybody's business that you don't date. that's totally up to you and not dating doesn't make you a freak. it just means your time and energy go into other things.

as far as your professional situation, it's awesome that you're in grad school. *jealous face* i'm twenty-five and hope to go back to school in the next two or three years. however, i'm not sure what you mean by having your loss of income "supplemented" by your parents. does that mean you live with them now or are planning to move back in with them? or does it simply mean they're loaning you money until you get on your feet with a new career?

i would say if you're living with your parents or thinking about moving back in with them, you should seriously reconsider. at 28 years old, you need to be out on your own and it really isn't healthy to have mommy doing your laundry and paying your bills. if you're living on your own but taking (or considering taking) a private loan from your parents, that's another thing, but you MUST pay them back. you're too old to mooch off of them.

you might want to think about hanging on to your current full-time job for a while longer. don't quite when you graduate. instead, job hunt, apply, interview, and wait until you are hired before you leave your current position. with the economy as it is, giving up any job without having another secured is pretty unwise.

good luck!

(ah ha! just read your little addition there. yeah, buddy, move out. living with your mom is so un-hot i can't even begin to explain it to you. and at 28! crickey!)

Answer 4

28 in grad school is a good start..but honestly shouldn't you have alrdy finished grad school? NEway, a guy at 28 living at home with his parents and/or living off his parents is NOT a good situation to be in at the age of 28 in grad school or not. U R a 28 old man...you should be living like one.

What I fear for you is that you seem to be pretty much of introvert and have a feeling that if you move back in with your parents you will never leave...even to find a mate. The fact that you are uninterested in opposite sex or even the same sex is disturbing also. It seems that you have made excuses your whole life NOT to meet the opposite sex. Are you afraid of women or rejection or both? Before you move back in with your parents have a relationship and make sure it's of the sexual nature...whether it be of the homosexual or hetersexual style just have sex...and yourself is not included.

Answer 5

I think it's fine you don't want to settle down right now. Obviously you're not done getting your career in order and you have a lot going on, but it doesn't hurt to go on dates and just have some fun with the opposite sex. Plus, it's good practice if you ever come across that certain someone you feel the need to settle down with. I'm not saying to sleep with a bunch of people, but just find out what women like to do on dates, what they enjoy, things like that; just so it's not awkward when you get to that point.

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Answer 7

There is nothing to worry about. If more people were like you, there'd be smarter and richer people out there. Instead, they are unhappy in their relationships, and where they are in life, therefore making comments on yours. Do your thing. When the right girl comes along, you will be happy to know that it was on your terms, and that you have everything that you need and want. That's all there is to it!

Answer 8

Who cares what other people think, if your main priority is to get that grad degree and make some moola, then that's all good. Get the girl after everything is set up.

Answer 9

yeah at 28 and still depending on mom and dad! Yeah no wonder you don't date! Dude, I'm 21 paying for my own school working full-time and I don't depend on no one. Grow up!

Answer 10

Sounds nice and comfortable, I can't blame you for taking advantage of your circumstances. Comfort and growth do not go hand in hand though. No pain, no gain.