Need someone's advice. MIL moved in yesterday... after being dramatic and crying that she was intruding, to which of course we convince her that she wasn't. Anyway, she slept on the guest bed last night, and by the time I woke up this morning, she (with her stuff) was gone. No note, nothing. She's apparently decided to stay with my fiance's sister in her studio apartment. What the heck is she thinking? I'm not thrilled she's moving in in the first place, but after having begged, we acquiesced; and then made accommodations (physical and mental) for her. What's the deal!?!
2007-11-30 09:05:16 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Yes, I "convinced" my fiance to make her beg. I said, "hey, honey, you know what would be really amusing? If we made her get on her hands and knees." Are you nuts?! I happen to be a phenomenal daughter-in-law; I drive her around, run her errands when she can't, and have taken care of her before when she was sick. And, FYI, she is not "in need." She wants to save additional money for her retirement to Puerto Rico. That's why she wanted to move in. To avoid rent. Damn, way to be judgmental.
2007-11-30 09:24:53 · update #1
Maybe she is just having a hard time and is confused. She is going through something right now so cut her some slack. But in future, don't let her put pressure on you like that. I'd let her know that you didn't appreciate her slinking out during the night and that it wasn't necessary.
2007-11-30 09:09:12 · answer #1 · answered by wondermom 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
RE: How does a Christian daughter-in-law respond to a manipulative mother-in-law who is causing division? This isn't about me, honest! I have the nicest mother-in-law you could wish for. However, a Christian friend is at her wits' end trying to cope with a mother-in-law who continues to be manipulative even though she and her husband have spoken to her on many occasions about her unacceptable...
2016-05-27 00:45:43 · answer #2 · answered by alida 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it so out of the realm to believe her when she said she felt like an intruder? She felt in the way. She calmed down and then went to spend the time with your fiance's sister. Which means to me you are not married yet. Hence the fact she really felt in the way of your relationship.
2007-11-30 09:43:22 · answer #3 · answered by insurancegal 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's your fiance's mother, she must have been in a lot of need to ask her son for help. Your attitude seems arrogant, uncaring, you seem to be a controlling person, I bet you convinced your fiance to do that to his mother: ( a mother should not have to beg her son to let him stay at his place, he's a jerk ).
The deal. are you asking? well, she "woke up" and realize she was being treated like crap by her own son and his arrogant fiancee, treated as if she was a stranger, a piece of garbage, and she went away: good !!. You don't have my sympathy.
Maybe someday, lady, if you have children, and you are old and in a lot of need and you ask any of them for help, and he or she kicks your a-- , you'll remember what you did to your mother-in-law. God forbid I'll ever have a daughter-in-law like you. Have a good night.
2007-11-30 09:19:47 · answer #4 · answered by Idon'tlivehere 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow! Watch out! Mothers in laws can be manipulating creatures. (Except me). I watched my fathers' siblings (nine boys and three girls) marriages destroyed by their mother. The only surviving marriage was my mother and father. They didn't live in the same city as my fathers' family. My father was in the military and are family was overseas most of our lives. But she couldn't stand my mother. And every time we visited my father and mother would argue and fight. Until my brother and I became teenagers and confronted my father and grandmother that we wouldn't be seeing any disrespect toward our mother anymore. And my Grandmother was a reverend. Eventually she came to live with my parents and was taken care of by my mother. It was a treat to have her, my mother, me and the grandchildren together for two years until she died of cancer. Of course, Dad kind of sprung it on Mom that they were taking care of Grand mom. But Mom and Dad have been married for 50 years since they were 16 and 18 years old. I hope yours last that long.
2007-11-30 10:03:03 · answer #5 · answered by ms 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be happy she's gone. She just has way too much damn drama and is running around like a chicken with it's head cut off.
2007-11-30 09:51:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I understand correctly, the lady in question is your fiance's Mother and she decided that she would stay with your fiance's sister who is more than likely her daughter which would make it absolute sense that when her daughter offered her a place to stay, she accepted rather than inconveniencing you.
2007-11-30 09:16:39 · answer #7 · answered by jcf6865 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like she is a few fries short of a happy meal.
2007-11-30 09:29:39 · answer #8 · answered by Joe F 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's a nut job. Don't get yourself worked up over it. I assume she's elderly... senility, maybe? Just let her do what she wants... not worth your time or energy.
2007-11-30 09:17:48 · answer #9 · answered by Sarah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's crazy. Be happy she's not in your house, and DO NOT LET HER MOVE BACK IN. This is a recipe for disaster.
2007-11-30 09:10:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋