Yes, sounds pretty lame... Why would I marry someone with such major issues? Because we share a lifetime of history, young children who need us both, & when he's good, its great. I've heard of wives tolerating husbands affairs for sake of the children & on the other hand staying in the relationship may cause more harm. I've experienced both sides thru out the years & now this is where I ended up. He keeps converting to the person I adore everytime I start to pack my bags. Then shortly after, its the s.o.s. Because I'm all about keeping our family happy together it wears me out! Tending to everyones needs @ once is pretty tough to juggle. Maybe if he was more active @ home than elsewhere I'd have more time for him too. (Lately I've been feeling a bit vengeful. Especially by an offer made from a client @ work. But I chickened out cause I wouldn't want to make things alot worse.) I try my best to stay optomistic. Yet could use more input.
2007-11-30 08:57:42 · 4 answers · asked by lovie808 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
its just not worth it...keeping the family together...i have done that for 17 yrs and have 4 kids together...i started to live by the words "anything you can do i can do better" and we have both done alot of cheating...once you have lost trust you have lost everything...you dont wanna be where im at...always wondering where hes at? Just not worth it...start over..start new...u d deserve better and besides once a cheater always a cheater...not sayin he dont love you..he prolly does but sometimes it just isnt enough..he doesnt love you enough to be faithful..move on before you get older and sitting back thinkin bout what you deserve!
2007-11-30 09:11:20 · answer #1 · answered by so alone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He keeps doing this because your allowing it. If you actually put your foot down and said something and stood up for your self-respect then maybe he would listen. he knows it would cost more if you divorced him and he had to pay alimony and child support that is why he pours on the charm when you start packing. maybe this guy need a hard dose of reality that you just do not hurt someone over and over like this and hope to get away with it forever. Your choice but pathetic and sad and really what are you teaching your kids by allowing there dad to do this and get away with it. Do not remember that kids emulate the parents when they grow up your raising a some future adulterers.
2007-11-30 09:47:19 · answer #2 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Infifelity should not be tolerated. If your fiance keeps on repeating the offense, it's not worth staying in the relationship. Find yourself a job. Most of the time, depending on your partner is the main culprit why you can't leave him. If you can fend for yourself and your children, then, stay out of that relationship. You should do it asap while you still have self respect. If you are staying in the relationship because of the children, it's not good for them also because they will be exposed to a bad relationship.
2007-11-30 14:50:21 · answer #3 · answered by dol 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on girl!! Don't stay where you are not really wanted. The guy will never change because he knows you won't leave. Show him different. You and the kids will be better off. Never stay just for the kids. They grow up and see what's happening.
2007-11-30 09:12:09 · answer #4 · answered by insane one 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋