what are things you will do with ur kids that your parents did or didn't?

Question

If you already are a parent or are dreaming of when you become one, what are things and ways you will teach you children or do with them that your own parents did? And what WONT you do?

Answer 1

Well, for me that's easy. I'm not going to drink, my parents drank through my entire childhood, and still do! I want to spend time with my children, take them places, just enjoy quality time with them.

Answer 2

I have had grandiose ideas of all the things I would do differently..... but as I get older (and my kids too) I find that I am starting to turn into my mom....

Also, I am adapting a more laid back approach from my mother in law. I hope to take the best of both worlds.

My mother was career obsessed.... My father was a great stay at home dad, but I always felt that I was a very distant second to my mother's job...

I stay home with my kids and long to work.... I dont know which is better.

Answer 3

Not a parent yet, but I will encourage my kids to have friends and be independent....not let them do whatever they want of course, but not be so dependent on me that they are crippled when they get older and it's time for them to go to college. I was terrified to go to college because I never had friends after 6th grade. My mom and dad never encouraged my sister or me to have friends and have a life outside of the home. I don't think that's always a good thing. Kids need to learn social skills and independence and I never got that.

Answer 4

I hug her, kiss her and talk to her the way my parents did. I feel very lucky that I have great parents and I have very nice memories of us as a family. I also plan on teaching to her the same values I was taught, respect for others, love your siblings, etc. I was spanked as a child and tough I grew up fine I wouldn't do it as a 1st method of discipline, maybe just as an ocasional help LOL.

Answer 5

i do so many things my parents did, i have five children, i will take them out one on one for a mom date about once a month, Chinese food with a pupu platter, something my dad and i did that meant a lot to me, Christmas traditions, so many, each child gets there own ornament yearly so when they are grown they can start there life with meaningful ornaments, i still have mine from all those years including an angel from 1968, i never say because i said so, i say parental prerogative, words i hated to hear from my mom LOL, i punish similar, i love similar, as do all my siblings, we were truly blessed to have such wonderful parents, there is little they did that i would not do, and not really worth mentioning

Answer 6

My husband had the world's strictest parents; I grew up in an anything goes kind of household.

We're hoping to find a happy medium, where our kids aren't forced to participate in certain activities, but *are* pushed to try new things, too.

Answer 7

I like to spend time with my kids we are constantly going somewhere even if it is free. Time, is the one thing that I think my mom could have tried to give us more of. *as for my dad- I will never be late like he always was picking me up...very embarrassing!* I won't punish my kids before listening to what they have to say. I want a healthy relationship with my kids...talking is very important.

Answer 8

Encourage him to be the best person he can. My parents said I wouldn't amount to anything. Living well is the best revenge.

Answer 9

DO
spend time with them
support them
learn to respect the world
trust them
DON'T
insist on eating when they don't want to
beat them

Answer 10

well, I plan on homeschooling my kids, and actually spending time with them.