2007-11-30 08:41:12 · 28 answers · asked by ♥Why*Give*Your*Heart*To*A*Boy*?♥ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell him that you don't share the same feelings and make it clear. If you do share the same feelings, you need to find out the dating policy at your workplace first.
If you make clear that you are not interested but he keeps pressuring you or affects your work, you need to inform your management or HR.
Don't leave your job because of that! Why would you sacrifice your career and your life because of some manager? There are very good laws that protect the employees from being mistreated or harassed. You don't have any claim, unless you told him "no" but he insisted or threatened you in any other way. If you think that he gives you a bad evaluation or affected your ability to work any other way because you refused to go out with him, then you have a claim. In any case, don't be scared. You are protected by the law and any company will do anything to get rid of the policy breakers, not a victim to avoid a lawsuit. At the end, he would be the one to lose his job, not you.
2007-11-30 08:45:02 · answer #1 · answered by terliuke 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to think about getting another job. Maybe you and him will work out, but you cannot expect to last there with the two of you seeing each other. Other workers will not respect anyone who is sleeping with the manager. If you are interested in seeing him, you need to find another job before you start dating him. And you need him to give you an absolutely great referral letter, honey! So he helps you land a new job and then all of your time together is guilt-free! If you aren't interested, you might still want to leave. Either he will feel resentful over time - especially if you start to date someone else - or you would need to report him to the upper management, which can hurt him and tends to also hurt the reporting person no matter what the deal is or how hard they try to "protect" you. He could lose his job and the new manager might not be any better and is likely to have it in for you just to protect their own backside "just in case". Soo if he is worth it - or if it is out-of-the-question - get out that resume and look through the wanted ads.
2007-11-30 16:48:40 · answer #2 · answered by Amy R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well.....it depends on how you feel. I advise against office romances they tend to be extremely dangerous especially with a boss. If you are not interested then make sure that you are honest with him/her in the most polite way possible. If they push it and make work hard for you then go directly to HR. If it continues then file a harassment suit and start looking for another job.
2007-11-30 16:47:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow, do you like your manager? it's going to be weird at work if you two love birds do hook up. just think of the good and the bad before you make your decision. don't rush or jump into anything that you are unsure of.
2007-11-30 16:46:37 · answer #4 · answered by Kev 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1. If you're in love with him too (and he's single), get a job somewhere else and go out with him.
2. If you're not in love with him and/or he's married, tell him you're flattered but it would be wildly inappropriate to get involved with someone at work so you would appreciate it if he would not mention it again.
(If your boss is a she instead of a he, change the pronouns in my answer.)
2007-11-30 16:48:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a toxic situation..... If you have a relationship.....it will probably turn bad...... If you do not have a relationship with him he will probably feel rejected and turn against you..... it is a lose lose situation....
Your best coarse of action is to tell him you NEVER date where you work..... then smile and say, "I will start looking for a new job.
His male ego will make him believe he has a chance after you find a new job...... get a new job..... then if you want.....forget about him
( PS: Be sure you get a letter of recommendation BEFORE you drop him)
2007-11-30 16:50:47 · answer #6 · answered by Kojak 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Where do you work? If he has a superior, go over his head and complain about harrassment. If you have an HR dept. contact them as well...If it is a small business owned by him I suggest you contact an attorney...cause it can get ugly
2007-11-30 16:45:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't feel the same and he is giving you the creeps with his admissions of love, make a formal complaint to his superior.... it's called sexual harassment
2007-11-30 16:46:13 · answer #8 · answered by faith64 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to give you a raise promote you and if you feel the same way about him go for it
2007-11-30 16:44:35 · answer #9 · answered by TO COOL 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he is a good person and u also like him then think about it..
Tell him that u need some time...
Test his patience for u...see how much he loves u...is he very serious about his words?
If you feel yes...then go ahead...
But if u don't like him then change the job..
Its very simple..
2007-11-30 16:47:51 · answer #10 · answered by Rani M 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋