ok well my Boyfriend is coming over tomorrow and my parents arent going to be home and they dont know about it....but me and my bf have been talking about having sex and we think we are i want to but im scared im going to chicken out..........help me please
2007-11-30 08:40:08 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ok well he told me that if i didnt want to that i didnt have to .......and he is a virgin to soo.....but im not that scared i just think that if we get going that i might freak out ..... my griend lost hers and she said it hurts the 1st time alittle but she told me all i needed to know if it did happen!!!
2007-11-30 09:57:01 · update #1
Don't go through with this. YOU WILL REGRET IT.
2007-11-30 08:45:35 · answer #1 · answered by †Evonne† 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think there are many factors to consider. First how long have you been with him? Do you want to have sex out of curiosity or because you really like or love him? Does he feel the same way about you? Are you mentally and physically prepared? Has he gotten physically checked for any possible STD's he might have? Do you have protection to prevent you from getting pregnant or having STD's? If you're not ready don't do it. If you feel mature enough for it then do it but from what you say it seems like you aren't too sure about it. Just hold off to it, it will be worth it. Don't take a step you can regret. IF you decide to do it...It will hurt you the first few times or even longer.
2007-11-30 08:52:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're scared, don't do it, like the others said. There is nothing wrong with "chickening out." Sex is a big step, and maybe your fears are telling you that you're not ready. Sex is something you shouldn't do until you are SURE that you're ready, because of all the emotion and possible consequences involved.
You don't have to wait until marriage necessarily, just wait until you feel completely ready and at ease. It may not be tomorrow, or it may. See how you feel when the time comes, and if you are unsure of it or feel scared, don't be pressured into it.
Good luck!
2007-11-30 08:48:05 · answer #3 · answered by Naomi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're not ready.
if you were ready there would be no doubt.
he either won't be as interested as he was before or lose interest completley once you guys have sex.
save it for someone you don't have to ask
"is this what I want? can I go through with this"
because that guy is the only one worth giving up something so special.
I'm a virgin and I've been in your shoes before.
I would be so unhappy if I gave it up.
my body is a temple and so is yours.
we should respect it and value it.
I hear it all the time....
"you never realize how special your virginity is untill after it's gone"
I really hope you take what I've said into consideration.
2007-11-30 08:47:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this is a bad plan.......for a lot of reasons.
There is no such thing as safe sex. Condoms are only 98% effective.... not only could you get pregnant.... the pill does not protect you from STDs....there are STD's that can not be cured....some STDs are deadly.....
If your boyfriend respected you he would not put you at risk for just his pleasure.....as a woman's first time is statistical painful and not "fun".....it is just for HIS pleasure.
In addition the odds that he will still be your boyfriend ....after he takes your virginity, are not good.....once the mystery is gone ......often so is the attraction
2007-11-30 09:23:03 · answer #5 · answered by Kojak 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no rush to do this even though your peers may say otherwise. If you are having doubts already there is a good chance you are not ready. On the other hand, most people are scared the first time,
2007-11-30 08:49:17 · answer #6 · answered by travelinbianca16 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are having reservations about the whole thing, you should wait. You should only have sex if you are 100% ready and if you are scared you are going to chicken out, I don't think you are ready yet - and that's not a bad thing. Do yourself a favor and wait, you will enjoy it more when you are ready.
2007-11-30 08:46:55 · answer #7 · answered by la8dolce8vita 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my best friend from high school got married with now three beautiful children.I lost my virginity to him when I was 20 years old we dated for 1 and 1/2 years before we did because he loved and respected me for loving and respecting my self sex is not the way to prove yourself.but if you want that means you don't need it but if you need to go a head and have a great time.
2007-11-30 08:51:28 · answer #8 · answered by mitch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do no longer do something youre no longer waiting to do. in case you do it, use a condom!! do no longer want any babies at sixteen! notwithstanding it will maximum possibly injury slightly, some bleed. yet he's a criminal person and you're actually not and it will unlawful to have intercourse with a minor. he's warm yet will he bypass away you in case you do no longer do it or if he does do it and basically drop and bypass away??
2016-12-17 03:04:47 · answer #9 · answered by kieck 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are scared you are going to chicken out then you are not ready. You should be absolutely sure about it before you even make plans. I hope you will wait. If it is something you have to sneak around to do, it is something you shouldn't do.
2007-11-30 08:46:04 · answer #10 · answered by busymomkaren 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget it. Go out tommorow and tell him u had to go some place with your mum or she told u to go somewer very important for her and u'll call once you're through from the place. Then dont call him till your parents return
2007-11-30 09:02:06 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋